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writes:My husband and I are married less than a year and we're still using condoms just to play safe. We've tried without once or twice but are too scared. Just want to know if there are any couples who are still using condoms after getting married. Or should I try pills?
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reader, DREAM69  +, writes (13 August 2008):
Don't worry about if you and your husband still use condoms. My husband and I still do, simply because we aren't ready for kids. I'm still in school and he works all the time so we have no time for kids. Not to mention, my mother is still upset that I got married without even telling anyone, so we don't know if she would do anything stupid like try and take the child. So we use a condom and I'm on birth control. If your scared, take it slow. You will eventually be comfortable enough to try it without one. Good Luck!
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reader, lola80  +, writes (12 August 2008):
The Coil is definitly the best , I was taking the pill for years and tried many of them but had to many side effects weight gain or no sex drive , the coil i have is the T-Coil it doesnt release any hormones .
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reader, duskyrowe  +, writes (12 August 2008):
 The coil is best form of contraception, it means you can have sex very spontaneously without remembering to take the pill.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2008): Now that you are in a loving, lasting relationship (provided that neither of you has infections down below) barrier contraception is probably not necessary.
You might like some hormonal contraception, examples are the pill, less regular injections, or the progesterone coil (which may also improve heavy periods).
That is, of course, if you don't want bambinos.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2008): If my husband of eighteen years want to sex with me, he has to use condoms because he has been unfaithful to me in the past. I have to get tested every year. So, it all depends on the couple's situations.
Why is your husband use condoms? Are you trying to prevent pregnancy or are you afraid of getting STD?
The sex feels so much better without condoms, so I wish my husband had never been unfaithful. I'm trying to mend the marriage, so that's why he uses condoms.
Good luck.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (12 August 2008):
Try contraceptive pills. I highly doubt you'll die from a blood clot--I smoke all the time and I've been on birth control for 7 years. However, you can see if they offer a IUD (intra uterine device). They insert it into your uterus and there's no worry of blood clots and you won't get prego for 5 years. If you and your husband want to have kids sooner, they can remove it--but then I would just suggest the pills.
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reader, Jia  +, writes (12 August 2008):
 I'm sure there are many couples who still use condoms after marriage. If you find nothing wrong with using condoms then you should continue on with them, as long as you're comfortable then there's nothing wrong with it!
If you want to go on the pill, be warned, there are a lot of disadvantages (i.e. increased chance of blood clots, some potentially fatal) as well as advantages to it. Take the pill with medical supervision, or avoid it altogether, if you are a smoker.
Good luck with whichever contraceptive method you end up deciding is the best in the end!
Further Reading:
http://www.uihealthcare.com/depts/med/obgyn/patedu/birthcontrol/pillfacts.html
http://ezinearticles.com/?Birth-Control-Pills-Advantages-And-Disadvantages&id=372251
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/womens-health/WO00069
http://www.healthy.net/scr/News.asp?Id=8933&xcntr=2
http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2002/feb/27/law.socialsciences
http://www.theinterim.com/2003/jan/02morestudies.html
http://www.nowpublic.com/the_case_against_birth_control_pills
http://www.birth-control-comparison.info/thepill.htm
http://www.wdxcyber.com/bcp.htm
http://bodyecology.com/08/05/29/dangers_birth_control_pill.php
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reader, Angle79  +, writes (12 August 2008):
 There are alot of contraceptive options available. Why don't you try pills and i suggest you consult with your doctor to avoid any side effects. Good luck!
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (12 August 2008):
 Once married and reasonably certain that no sexually transmitted diseases are possible, it would seem a shame that a couple must continue the use of condoms - but I'm in America. We hear that birthrates are an issue in China, so is this the concern? You ask whether married couples still use condoms after marriage - well, your situation may be much different than in the U.S.A. and Western World, but we would not usually worry quite so much. The "pill" is a useful alternative here, and some of them are still considered fairly safe with few side effects.
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reader, pashanoodle  +, writes (12 August 2008):
 There are lots of different types of contraceptives available these days - for both men and women. Why don't you and your husband visit your Dr and discuss the options - get all the info you need and make a decision from there.
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