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male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi. I had a one night stand last night. We didn't use protection and now I find that I am unable to sleep because I'm worried that their may be consequences for my foolish actions.I met a woman in a club, we danced and had a great time. When I went to the gents, the condom machine was jammed. We were drunk and ended up going back to hers. I hadn't had sex for almost 2 years, so when the opportunity came along I felt powerless to stop it.What do you think the chances are that she may end up becoming impregnated? Take into account that I only penetrated her for a couple of minutes, and pulled out before climaxing.We talked the next morning about it and she didn't seem very worried. I have her phone number, so it's not like I'm never going to talk to her again.Is there anything she could do now to prevent it from something happening. I'm only 19! I'm not ready to be having a child, with a total stranger no less. This is making me sick with worry. Is there reason to be, or do you think there isn't a good chance this will all blow over?It was a moment of madness, and I've learned my lesson from it. I'm just praying now that I'm not going to have to learn it the hard way!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (16 August 2008):
You should have taken her to a chemist to buy the morning after pill.
The chances of you being a dad are slim but it is GOOD that you are this terrified by it. It means you are a guy that cares so that is always a plus.
Do 3 things.
1. Wait a few weeks and then call her to check she got her period ok. Just explain that you've been feeling really bad about not using a condom and "had a bad dream" about her being pregnant or something. Ask her if she has had her period yet and then you can send her a flower or something to apologise for asking embarrassing questions.
2. Get an STD test. No offence to the girl but if she took you home and didn't use a condom then she might have done it with someone else too and you have no idea where he has been.
3. Buy some condoms and keep one in your wallet. It's always good to have a supply in and it looks good to the girls when you come pre-prepared rather than expecting her to deal with it. The STD clinic may well give you some when you go.
Good Luck!! xx
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female
reader, PsyCookie  +, writes (16 August 2008):
 I second the auntie's response, but I add something else.
Go to the store and buy some emergency condoms. Remember they're not only good to prevent pregnancies but also STDs. It's better to have them there not being used than to not have them when you need to use them.
Good luck and hopefully you'll be free of STDs
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2008): i think in my oppion that you should tke a std and ads test to be on the safe side and take and if she is take your responsbality if you don't someone will
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (16 August 2008):
 Well, you must not obsess over it, But I understand madness (lust). The truth is that attaining pregnancy is often difficult for many couples, but like me during my youth, you were probably rather bold and risky. Perhaps I was fortunate to apparently screw near the girl's periods, which is when pregnancy rarely occurs. Your odds of paternity are probably slim to none in this instance, depending on her cycle, but try to be more careful?
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