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writes:Does the best sex ever mean he truly loves me? Call me old fashoined, or stupid, or naive, or whatever you want, but I believe that truly amazing and intense sex comes from love, and not JUST the physical stimulation. My current boyfriend is by far the best sex I have ever had! Every time we have sex he devotes all his attention to me, his hands are always doing things, he knows exactly how to make sex perfect! To me, that means that he loves me, to make such amazing and passionate love to me every day. He is always ready to go and we have never had sub-par sex (almost 2 years now). I found out recently that he is cheating on me with his ex-girlfriend, this is the 5th such occurance in our relationship. No matter how mad I am, or how badly this hurts me, I still feel that he loves me. I know how stupid it sounds. Can a guy feel true love for 2 people at the same time? I only love him, no one else. He, in my eyes at least, loves both of us, is this possible? Am I being an idiot here? Does he love both of us, does amazing sex came from love? Or is he just experianced and knows what to do more than all others?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2009): sadly, you both are sexually compatible but he does not love you. sorry, i know it hurts but i would rather be honest that let you believe otherwise.
you are so young, someone else out there can and will love you, completely. you can find this person. give yourself time and try.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (18 April 2009):
 Okay, you are stupid and naive. Do you know what truly comes from love? Not great sex, that is a bonus, but the desire NOT to hurt the others feelings by cheating.
He cheats, hurting you, therefor he doesn't love you.
By your logic, if a kid makes a wobbly cup for his mom the kid doesn't love his mother but if you get given a perfect cup at the gas station, that means Shell loves you truly.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (18 April 2009):
 Well, the guy sounds like a player to me, rather than totally in love with you. Totally in love means "only you" and that is obviously not the case here, based on your posting. How many others might there be? Or how much more often with his ongoing ex? Good in bed is a great attribute, but not a guarantee of love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2009): Wow I have to say that when I started reading your post I didnt expect it to end like it did. I too believe that the more intense the love, the better the sex. And as Babygal21 said, he may truly love you. But sweetheart he has CHEATED on you 5 times! That is unforgivable. It is possible that he loves the both of you. But he needs to make a choice. Or you need to make a choice, to be with someone who respects you enough that when he makes love to you and is looking in your eyes and professing that love to you, that you are the ONLY ONE he is doing that for. You must realize that you are worth more than this... Good luck honey... J
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