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writes:Ok so this is kind of a weird question, but here goes. I'm about to have sex with my guy for the first time. I'm a virgin, but I've masturbated before, and I know exactly how to make myself have an orgasm. I want my first time to be pleasurable, like I don't just want to lay there like a blob. Should I tell him what I like, or will he think of that as kind of weird or slutty??? Right now he knows I've never had sex before. We are very open, but I still can't stomach the thought of telling him I get off by myself. I'm weird, I know. So, should I be open and tell him what I like, or is that too strange for a first time??? If it matters, I would hope that he would tell me what he likes, but he has definetely had sex before.......Oh and I know I will get those questions like are you sure you're ready? or Don't forget protection.....I'm definetely ready, and I'm not stupid, protection is a must. He has waited 3 years for this, lol.......I appreciate all of your answers.......Thanks.....
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (12 April 2009):
 Hopefully, there will be plenty of foreplay prior to any attempt at intercourse. Foreplay can include the romantic atmosphere, massage, kissing, embracing, fondling, light teasing, breast nibbling, fingering, cunnilingus (oral) and more. Somewhere along the way, probably with the fingering or oral, he should near application of whatever unspecified technique works for you. You say he knows you well, as he should after three years, and certainly you two have been exploring each other along the way. So sure, go ahead and tell him when he gets close to that trigger, whatever it happens to be.
He may not yet be a master at making love, but I doubt that he is totally clueless either. So give him his opportunity, but as previously mentioned, guide him as you see fit and enjoy yourselves. Best wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk, thank all of you guys for responding.......My boy friend is very "mature", or as mature as the male brain can muster lol, jk .......So I've decided that I will let whatever is gonna happen, happen. If I know how to do it, it shouldn't be that hard for him to figure out, he knows me so well.......For those of you who are wondering he is slightly older than me.......I wish I could say that all of your responses have calmed my fears, but who am I kidding. I am still freaking out, but this time in a good way.......I am so excited.......I can't wait to start "practicing".......LMAO.......
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (11 April 2009):
Well, I basically disagree with some of the other responses, "Zarathustra" makes a good point. In my opinion, it's good for a woman to simply let the man guide the experience the first time. After all, this is his moment to prove himself as a good lover. It is his assignment to discover you. A good lover will know what I mean here. A man explores his woman, and with experience and skill, discovers her hot spots and the things to do for her.
That's all part of the fun and pleasure, and of course, a good man instinctively knows when his loving works. We don't need much instruction, although you can signal and encourage with your natural reactions and - sighs and moans. lol
My advice, in summary, is to let your man pleasure you his way first. Let's hope he is a good lover and worth the wait. Further instructions can follow.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2009): If you're ready, and if you're in a relationship of three years, and if you've decided that he's the one -- then for goodness sake tell him! If I were in his place, I'd want to make it as perfect as possible for you. As you've described the relationship, you both should be tremendously open about this stuff. He's waited three years!? Help him to make it perfect -- he deserves it, as do you. If you're worried that he's going to see you as slutty, then you've made a mistake in trusting him. If I were him, I'd be thrilled beyond belief that (a) you know what works for you, and (b) you're willing to tell him. Your telling him that is the most incredible affirmation of your feelings for him.
Good heavens, enjoy!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2009): Ok i highly doubt you will enjoy it the first time, It hurts to be honest unless you have masturbated with dildo's then it might not hurt so much, But don't be afraid to tell him what you like. You should ask him first what he likes then tell him what you like, it won't make you look slutty because your a virgin you can't be a slut so stop worrying and go have some fun.
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reader, ask.m  +, writes (11 April 2009):
 Congratulations! your about to have sex for the first time with a guy you've been going steady with. personally I think you should do at least 2 things!1. you SHOULD gently tell him what you like 2. you should ALSO slowly show him this way you can both be sure that you are both having a really good time.He may very well be surprised considering it is supposed to be your first time. But very quickly afterward he'll understand that capable of achieving orgasm ..and enjoy having fun!He'll appreciate it trust me!M
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reader, orangejuice24 +, writes (11 April 2009):
As a virgin, I would like my girl to tell me how she likes it. I think it would definetly help her have a better time and myself as well. I think you should tell him and obviously be safe. Sorry had to add that but good luck
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