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writes:Can someone please tell me what would be "reasonable" and "normal" number, for a guy in a relationship (have sex about 3 times weekly or even more when schedules are not so busy) to mastrubate? Lets say we have great sex three times a week. What would be normal number for him to mastrubate to porn or something else?Please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2007): evereyday is normal
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reader, so sick +, writes (14 August 2007):
well my bf and I have sex probably twice a week and he masterbated himself prolly 2 times a day...and he still does himself on days we do have sex.
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reader, mtweed417 +, writes (13 August 2007):
I realize no ones actually answering the question sweety. I would say though exsessive to u a man in his mid 20's withh a high sex drive being bones about three times a week could masterbate about 3 times a day maybe 1 on the days u have sex. This is all pending his amout of free time. im saying for about every 2 free hours he gets at his comp is one session. This is comeing from a guy whose 24, has a fiance and has sex about 6 times a week. I still find time to masterbate about once a day. Wehn i was single mmuch more.
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reader, lisa kathleen gates  +, writes (9 August 2007):
 yes everyone is different but the males sexual peak is in there 20's. personally my view on this is... my bf is 28 and we have sex 3 times a day. we have it at 6am before work, then sometimes we meet up for a quicky at lunch, we do it somewhere differnet as much as possible to liven up our sex lives. or i wait for him to come home which varies form 4-6pm we do it then, wherever in the house we fancy and then again to make us pass out in each others arms b4 bedtime. it is great and we always use different stimulant lubricants and toys. this stops the whole need for porn and masterbation. my bf says... i never used to masterbate often as a teen i didnt want to lie to my body. dunno if this helps x x x
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reader, Unique1 +, writes (7 August 2007):
Unique1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAlright, thank you for your help everybody. I do know that everyone is different! All i wanted is to see some average number (reasonable and normal) for a 27 yr old guy with "high sex drive" as he says who does have sex with me when schedules are busy 3 times a week. It bothers me that he would just do it (esp. to porn) and not wait for me so we can have more fun. He doesnt understand my feelings and says that it is ok to do. I am afraid to think he might be little addicted and he doesn't want to hear that, no way! He says he desires me and think about me too but not every time. When i said i'd get a vibrator, he flipped out saying that it wouldnt be fair but that he doesnt mind me fingering myself if we dont see each other for few days.
Also, he wants me to be okay with him going almost on -daily basis- to look for porn and videos -"to get ideas for us", email it to me so that we both know what we will be trying and get excited about it. I think that is just too much!!! On daily basis? Not like he wont get all excited watching that and i sure as hell dont want him mastrubation that often!!! He said even if he got horny while looking for us, he would wait but i dont beleive that!
Am i crazy here or is he for asking something like that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2007): It's never normal to jerk off to pornography, masturbate in the shower or somewhere privately once a week maybe but to play with yourself while watching actors oohhhh and arrrr has nothing to do with sex drive. You are NOT strange for asking this question, do some research on what pornography does to relationships, you will be blown away by what has happened since the introduction of web porn. He has some sexual/emotional issues.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (7 August 2007):
 I'm with boyo9876. There's no "normal" or "abnormal" here. And I agree with Jamer70: this is not a message about you. It's simply a matter of sex drive. I assume you are feeling bad about the masturbation. Perhaps you can add a bit on this?
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (7 August 2007):
 Well if depends on the guy and his mood at any given time. It can be 0 or up to a dozen. Like love-him said it depends on his sex drive at the time.
If he is materbating it proberly isnt saying your sex isnt good enough, he just might be stressed or "in the miid" at the time when you are not around.
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reader, penta +, writes (6 August 2007):
 Depends on the guy. But his masturbation and use of porn have nothing to do with you. Guys like to look, and masturbation is a good stress relief (the equipment is right there) not to mention fun. Don't take it personally. If you're having sex 3 times each week and it's good, he obviously doesn't prefer porn/masturbation over you. So it says nothing about your relationship. Ignore it and have confidence in your relationship.
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reader, penta +, writes (6 August 2007):
Depends on the guy. But his masturbation and use of porn have nothing to do with you. Guys like to look, and masturbation is a good stress relief (the equipment is right there) not to mention fun. Don't take it personally. If you're having sex 3 times each week and it's good, he obviously doesn't prefer porn/masturbation over you. So it says nothing about your relationship. Ignore it and have confidence in your relationship.
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reader, love-him +, writes (6 August 2007):
 Hey bbe,
All men are different. It is MAINLY to do with the sex drive. If they have a high sex drive they will want to masterbate a high amount. If they have a low sex drive, they wont be so horny. If this is concerning you, the amount he masterbates, let him know, talking is a great way to help understand each other.
I hope i could help,
Mail me if you would like to talk x
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reader, boyo9876 +, writes (6 August 2007):
There's no insruction manual that says whats normal and what's not. Everyone is different
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