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writes:i feel like im putting all the effort into the communication side of my long distance realtionship and not getting anything backi always has to send the texts first and the only texts i recieve are replies(the texts from him are all the same)my bf claims he cant afford to phone me and cos i get extremly cheap calls i have to phone him (id love to get a random call from him even if its to say i love you)when we write letters i have to ask him 15-20 times to write me one and then i have to remind him to post it(its no fun getting a letter if u had to beg for it) i drop almost everything to come online when he ask me to but when i ask him he either says he too tired or logs on around 3 hours lateive tried to talk about it and he says its not his fault he just got a demanding life and then says thanks for making him feel bad about everythingwhat should i do i really want to be with him but without help from him i feel we may drift apart
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2007): i know exactly what you mean
i am in a long distance relationship and my boyfriend doesnt make any effort what so ever
it upsets me all the time and i cling onto that little bit of hope that its just coz he hasnt got any credit or hes busy with something really important
he says he loves me but is that enough?
i am like you and i feel i dont get enough attention either
and i have contimplated leaving it so many times but each time he says no and that he loves me and we have something special and i feel that il keep pushing him away because i text him so much
and ino wot you mean about how things arent that good when you ask for them!
so i think i have to agree with everyone else, you should let him go, ino its so hard and i havent even had the courage to let go of mine yet but i think that time is fast approaching.
so good luck, and let me know how it goes, coz ino its so so hard and maybe one day i will pluck up the courage to do it to
but in the end it will be worth it because you will find someone that gives you the attention you need and you will look back on this and realise you did the right thing
much love
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2007): Long distance is hard work and it is you who are doing all the running. If he was really interested in making things work between you then it would be a two way street and he would be contacting you as much as you contact him. It's making you unhappy, then I would say to let things go and find someone who can give the attention you deserve. I know its hard but if you've got to fight for attention then it's not worth it.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (8 August 2007):
 Dear, any relationships takes two to exist. If he is not making the effort to sustain this one, I'm afraid you will have to let him go.
Don't feel bad about yourself: you did everything you could. And, maybe he did that, too, but found the long distance too hard to deal with.
My heart is with you.
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