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writes: I am 37 years old and i still play with dolls. I feel that they're real. I give them a name and a voice as well. I sleep with them and I'm very over protective as well. My son hates one of my dolls because he feels i give them more attention than him. He is 12 years old and often tells me they're not real. I am aware but i love them so much.I can't stop playing with dolls! I have to take one out everyday and just talk to them and when i create their voice as if they're responding, it feels so real! My ex husband once told me i gave them life and to me, they do. Some have their own bed and i tuck them on at night. Especially the little chubby one that sleeps with me. This is my life behind closed doors. My co workers, friends and family only believes i am a "collector" but im not. I love my dolls and to me, they're my children. I am single. I wouldn't be able to contain myself or even stop at least to take a moment and carry one of my dolls in order to avoid to reveal this to any other man who enters my life! I need help. Who would accept me like this? I might freak him out but they are my life. What should i do? I can't let go of my babies. When i look at one of my dolls, i honestly feel they're literally looking at me back. And i melt!
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reader, fishdish  +, writes (19 July 2016):
 I'm not trying to be cruel, but what would happen if you had someone remove all of them from the house and, say, donated them? What would actually happen, psychologically to you? I agree with the other aunts that this is a little bit out of our wheelhouse and professional help is necessary, but I'm also wondering about an out of sight out of mind kind of method.
Honestly, I think it takes all kinds, and you WOULD be able to find someone who could accommodate for this obsession-sounds like your ex husband did and it didn't ruin the marriage, right?-but I'm not sure you should or would want to. Which ultimately makes me agree with all the other aunts' advice.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (15 July 2016):
 Sounds like this is partly obsessive behavior, as you mention you HAVE to take them out daily. Obsessive behavior is rarely healthy, but it doesn't mean you are "doomed" to continue the behavior.
I'd suggest you find a therapist who specialize in OCD and obsessive/intrusive behaviors. CBT is what I would suggest for you. I went through it due to my OCD and while I'm STILL OCD and possible always will be, I got the tools to STOP many of my ritualistic behaviors from controlling my life. I still do many of them, but everything in moderation.
If your SON, your LIVING human being child is telling you are giving them more attention that you are giving him, it IS time for you to listen.
Get help. Make more time for your son.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (15 July 2016):
 Yes you need to contact a therapist straight away. Get this under control. Nobody says you cannot play with dolls, but they are getting in the way off your real life, taking precious memories from your son, and standing in the way off your happiness, you need to get to the root of why you feel the need to have these dolls.
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reader, miss frank  +, writes (15 July 2016):
Totally whencowsattack advice, as soon as possible, like today.
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reader, WhenCowsAttack +, writes (15 July 2016):
We can't help you with this. This is a major issue. You have created a fantasy world that is consuming you to the point where your actual, blood and flesh child apparently feels neglected. This is not good. Your son should come first in your life.
You need therapy. You HAVE to wean yourself from this. It isn't healthy for you and it is going to cause problems for your son, possibly lifelong ones. I urge you to contact a licensed therapist immediately.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (15 July 2016):
 I think you need counselling to help you get to the root of this and maybe downgrade it to a hobby, rather than a life-controlling situation.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (15 July 2016):
 Are the dolls getting in the way of your real life? The fact that you ask who would accept you suggests so. There are questions you need to answer, and you need to hear your own voice answering.
I think some professional help would be a benefit. You have already taken a major step by admitting there is a problem. I wouldn't presume to try amateur psychiatry with you but I think you know that your love for these dolls offers a non-judgemental relationship which leaves you in control. You might want to explore 'why' with someone also non-judgemental but professionally qualified.
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