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writes:Is it the end of the road for us?- We don't talk like we used to do before. He barely contacts me during the weekday because of work issues. During weekends, we cannot see each other as often as we want because he has financial difficulties (I tried to bridge this as much as I can and even pay for us) and lately, he also doesn't call or text as much because he's on edge at home.- We barely go out to do things because again, of financial issues. I can pay for mine, but he can barely cover his part. He said he's always on the red. I even offer to have him borrow money from me which he pays back regularly.Background: We used to be in an FWB set-up, somewhere along the way, I found out he cannot commit because he was still in a relationship with another girl. He told me this after they broke up. I maintained our FWB set-up for 1 year and even if he already wanted to formalize our relationship. 6 months ago, I said yes and he became my boyfriend.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (18 July 2016):
 Why would him having financial difficulties stop him from seeing you? Is this a long distant relationship? Do you not live close to each other. If that is the case then yes sometimes contact does go down hill and it can be a struggle. If you do live near to each other then money should not be an issue, you can still hang out and do free things. You say he is on edge, can you explain more? What issues does he have at home? Is he still living with his parents? If he is working why is he always in the red? You need to talk to him about your worries and come up with a plan to spend more time together.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (18 July 2016):
 Picnics, movies, home-cooked meals, evening stroll, game nights, etc. Is going out for semi-expensive things important to you? The things I just mentioned can fit in with any budget and be romantic.
He shouldn't really text you at work. End of. Don't count that as an issue, count that as good work ethics.
As for tension at home - what kind? Who does he live with?
Texting shouldn't be the main source of communication, so one phone call every (or every other) night, with a few texts every day, should be enough at this point.
Is that not okay for you? Do you not think he'd do it?
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