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writes:I have an intimate question ... I've been with my boyfriend for two years and we have had sex many times but I've never orgasmed. I'm not sure I can and I think it's really getting my boyfriend down as he feels like he can't satisfy me. Sometimes I get close to orgasming but then that feeling just goes away. I've read up online and it says you have to be in the zone mentally but I don't think that's a problem as I have come close to orgasming. Also, his penis is huge so it's not that he isn't penetrating deep enough. So why can't I orgasm?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (18 July 2016):
 Sweetie a lot of women don't orgasm through sex. So it is not that he is doing anything wrong, or that you are not in the proper mind frame. As long as you are enjoying sex, then reassure him. There are plenty of other ways he can help you to orgasm. Have you explored your own body? Do you know what you like? Different women have different things. Get him to stimulate your nipples and clitoris with his fingers, or mouth or even toys. Tell him what feels good and guide him along.
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reader, BlondeBabe x +, writes (18 July 2016):
 Hey lovie, this may be an intimate question but I promise you it is one problem that many woman have. This is a bit more of a sensitive subject but I am going to be as straight to the point as possible in the hope of helping best I can. The first point I am going to tackle: size does not matter! It's what they do with it. As the agony aunt before me pointed out, most woman will not orgasm from just penetrative sex alone. For me, there is one sure fire way that always helps this along and that's foreplay. The worst thing you can do is to rush straight in to the sex part of it. You are far more likely to orgasm if there is a build up. A lot of woman's nerve endings are in the clitoris, so this can be a big helper. Another thing I would address is positions. There are some positions that work a lot better for woman than others because you are more likely to hit the g-spot. Everyone will have their own preferences for this, so this is something you will find out on your own. However, the most common 'helper' is you on top in some form. This is because is a much slower process and you are able to dictate. Another helper, while this may not be something you want to do, is you could have a talk with him about it. But if you do this, turn it into a positive thing. Have a night where it is all about you, this will allow you to find out more about what you do and don't like. But please remember, the most important thing here is not to worry. If you worry or if anything is on your mind it will linger in your subconscious. Just go with it and take your time. Nothing worse when either of you feels pressure, as it takes the moment away from it.Hope this helps and in some way. Also, take note of what 'like i see it' said, her advice is spot on!
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reader, like I see it  +, writes (17 July 2016):
 Lots of women can't reach orgasm from vaginal penetration alone, without some kind of clitoral stimulation thrown in. You may be one of them. (I am.) But no worries, it's neither the end of the world nor the end of a healthy sex life. Try adding fingers (his or yours) or a toy to the mix to better stimulate your clitoris during sex.
Have you been able to orgasm on your own before? If not, try masturbation when you have a chance. You'll be able to figure out what you like and because it's a solo experience, you won't have to worry about feeling pressured or self-conscious over the fact you haven't been able to climax so far. Just relax and listen to your body.
Hope this helps! Good luck and best wishes :)
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