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36-40,
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writes:A shy guy who has a crush on me tries to make me jealous by flirting with other girls around me and then he ignores me but if he sees any other guy even talking to me , he runs and come stands with me and try to be a part of the conversation. If the other guy is flirting with me then he acts upset...doesn't make sense WHY ?
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reader, PuffinMuffin  +, writes (25 July 2016):
It is obvious that he wants you in particular, rather than just anyone, which is encouraging.One strategy for getting a particular girl is to interact with all the others around except her, thus leaving her confused, jealous, etc, then move in. It's advice that can easily be found on the internet: no doubt he has done so and is trying it out in the hope it gets him what he wants, ie you.He's very inexperienced with dealing with girls, let alone dating them, so is forced to use such advice rather rely on experience. Getting advice isn't the same as knowing what to do.As for the 2nd part of your question, he's trying to keep the other guys away from you: he reacts to "threats" to his efforts at potentially dating you by trying to push the competition away. He's very keen on you and is probably assuming that you hold the same feelings for him, so when you talk to another guy, he views that as being unfaithful without considering that your feelings might not (yet) be reciprocated. Hence the upset. See, it does make sense. If you do take this further, then you may have to explain your feelings towards him a bit more explicitly than perhaps you would otherwise. Either way good luck.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (18 July 2016):
 Is your age really in your late 20s? My guess is that it is not and you are still at school. If you like this guy then tell him, if you don't then just ignore him.
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reader, BlondeBabe x +, writes (18 July 2016):
 Hey there lovie,men are confusing creatures. Do you remember being told as a child that if a boy pulls your hair or annoys you it is because he likes you. Well, this not too dissimilar. Ii is thought that men never fully mature and some parts of them will always return to a younger age. So why you ask? Well, because that is coping mechanism. He likes you and doesn't know how to show it any other way. It's quirky, but definitely not unusual. Moving from that there is something else that needs to be addressed. First question to consider: do you like him? If the answer is no, then I would either ignore him or call him out on it because either way that will bring an end it. However, if the answer is yes then maybe it's time to act. If he is shy, then perhaps he does not have the confidence to be forthright and that is the reason behind the behaviour.The ball is fully in your court and it is entirely dependent on how you feel towards him. Best of luckxox
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