A
female
age
36-40,
*ilmizzbaybehh
writes:okay so, i was in a relationship with my ex for 4 years, which was fairly complicated.We started out as close friends which then turned into something more serious, it ended sadly 6 years ago, and there isnt a day i dont think about her, sometimes i just wish she was still with me.I was fairly young when we got together and wasnt sure what it was we had. but now i am a little older and wiser i know i truly did love her and made many mistakes which could have caused the relationship to go sour.Obviously now we are not together and she seems to be in a solid relationship with another woman so the only thing i can really do is let her go but it is so seemingly hard. There have been other girls on the scene since being with her but i cant let myself get romantically involved with them, something keeps holding me back. This whole situation has had a major affect on my personal and work life too, i have suffered with anxiety and self esteem issues and suffered with minor depression which has knocked me back in general day to day life....i know time is the biggest healer in this situation but i would like to know if there was anything else aside of keeping myself occupied that could help me to move forward in life........?
View related questions:
my ex, self esteem Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (15 July 2016):
 The thing is when you look back on the relationship, you focus on all the good times not the bad, you see all the things you done to ruin it but not what she done. You need to accept that the relationship is over, she has moved on and so should you. Ex's are in the past for a reason, it didn't work last time, so it probably wouldn't again. Good Luck.
A
male
reader, Denizen +, writes (15 July 2016):
 We have all loved and lost. I'm sorry you haven't been able to turn the page yet. Yet that is what you need to do. The past isn't coming back. And the past often looks better with hindsight.
While you are revisiting this relationship in your head you can never enjoy what is before you now. Easy for me to say I know.
You had that relationship, and you may have learned some lessons on the way. Now is the time to employ what you now know with your next love. Someone out there needs the love and understanding you can give them so much.
Please stop looking over your shoulder or you may miss them.
...............................
|
