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writes:This could be very long but I will keep it short. Has anybody ever wasted 10 years of their life.. And lived enough not to regret it. This holds me down badly. Reply to this Question
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (21 July 2016):
The best part is...You realized you have wasted a lot of your life. GOOD!!!
Now that you know...you have two choices.
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1) Sit there and complain about how bad you feel about wasting all that time.
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2) Now that you know where you went wrong...do something about it.
No matter what happens in your life...it all boils down to you doing something to make things right....Even if a million people tell you the have or have not regretted it, you are the one that has to make a choice. If it bother you...fix it. If it does not...then don't...always your choice.
My response my sound cold...truth is always cold...and so is ice. But even ice has a purpose...so what is your purpose in life??? To keep wasting it? Or...Do something with it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2016): Everyone has major regrets for different reasons but judging from your age your ten years could have been quite early on in life, something like late adolescent or early teens.If you did a life sentance for a serious crime it would be natural to have regrets because you can't turn the clock back and change things now.But you do have a future so you should try to live it as well as you can.Depression also can bring about regrets but you canget help with this via your doctor who can give you meds and counselling.Life is rarely perfect and people can find themselves in caged in situations which are beyond their control but upon regaining their freedom they can reembark on their life journey from a better angle and recreate the person they want to be.Life has many twists and turns: sorrow can turn to joy and things can expectexdly change for the better or worse.If you are struggling to adapt it is best to ask for help as it brings peace of mind.You are not alone in the regrets club!
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reader, WhenCowsAttack  +, writes (20 July 2016):
Yes. It was hard, but I finally realized that in life, there are no take backs. Regret only held me back further. I had to totally adjust my mindset in order to make it work, but I did it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2016): People with addictions to drugs and alcohol often do. People addicted to the wrong person do. However; I don't think you what to really know who has; I think you want to tell us how you have. So spill the beans.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (20 July 2016):
 Yes!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (20 July 2016):
 I don't think you (general you) CAN waste 10 years of your life (unless you were wrongfully convicted and sat in jail for 10 years, and even then... you could have educated yourself while incarcerated, so.. time NOT totally wasted).
Life is life. It doesn't stop for anyone. If you don't set goal and try (at least) to achieve some life might feel like it's passing you by.
INSTEAD of having regrets and living in the past, TURN yourself to the here and now and the future. What goals do you have? Are they realistic? If not, make MORE goals, start small and get on it. You can moan and piss about all the things you haven't done, achieved, blah blah blah... OR you can VOW to NOT "waste" any more and get moving! Since you don't have a Tardis (time machine) there is NOTHING you can do about the past, hence... why regrets are useless.
What I consider wasted time, may NOT be what the next person think is wasted time.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (19 July 2016):
 There's a difference between wasting your life and FEELING like you've wasted your life.
Oftentimes, in hindsight, there are lessons that even in the low point, are valuable and weren't a waste.
As far as wasting youth and time on someone else, I keep telling about 60% of people that either fear or apathy is what keeps relationships going past their obvious expiration date.
Time to have a much higher standard when it comes to not only the partner being chosen, but in ourselves. It's easy to say that you've wasted time on the wrong person, but unless you realize that you are/were 50% of the relationship that ultimately was the waste, then not changing and bettering and identifying weakness in ourselves will cause you to waste MORE time, even if it's with someone else.
Do the self-evaluation. Speak to someone professional if necessary, but saying "It's the partner only" will cause a repeat of the wasted time. Count the lessons learned as valuable, and if you can help someone else not waste their time, you can see the value in that time.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (19 July 2016):
 Your regret lies in the level of trust, naivety, stupidity that you have shown. And that's OK. It means you are human. We have all been there in one form or another. First you have to forgive yourself. Oh yes!
So you trusted; so you were naive; perhaps a bit stupid...
And when the signs were there you just didn't believe them. This doesn't mean that in the future you have to close yourself off. No, you still have to welcome in love. But you now have learned a couple of things.
You are young. Many of us aren't but we are still learning the lessons life hands us. Time for a hug.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (19 July 2016):
 You would be better explaining what it is that is holding you down, and how you plan to move forward from it, at least then maybe we can help you more.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (19 July 2016):
 10 years is only a 7th or 8th of your life, sometimes even less, so lots of people could live enough in 50+ years not to regret 10.
How have you "wasted" your life?
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