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writes:I am feeling so crushed and confused right now. I was in a relationship and I thought he was perfect for me, good to me, great to my little girl. I was great friends with his Mum. Then on Saturday I was having coffee with his Mum and his brother were in the kitchen talking about my other half. I heard he had a female"friend staying over the night before. At that point I made excuses and went home with my wee girl. I then texted him and said we are finished. I ignored all his calls. Until his Mum phoned me and I refused to tell her why. I then texted him that knew about that girl. He replied saying she was an old friend and their mutual friend died so they will comforting each other. So i replied, first i have heard and why Hide it. He then told me I'm overreacting over nothing. I said. Whatever don't contact me again. Do others think walking away was the right thing? Would you think as I do about this? That he cheated? I felt part of the family because we got on so well now I'm crushed by this, my wee girl doesn't understand why we haven't seen them in a few days
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2016): hmm...well I think his behaviour is quite suspicious.
That being said, I wouldn't have just walked out, I would have stayed in his house, listened to his mom more, waited and seen if he would've said anything about the friend dying on his own...basically, by walking out prematurely without the full story you will now never know just how suspicious it is.
Did the girl stay in a guest room or in his room? (supposedly)
Can you verify that indeed a mutual friend did die? I.E. look up the obituary.
I don't know, it is VERY strange that he didn't call you because when I am upset over a death the first person to call is my significant other.
Anyway, this post was a while ago...any updates for us?
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reader, Slippers  +, writes (5 November 2016):
I do think you over reacted some but as a mho and a female I can well understand .. hearing some random make a comment about your other half is one thing .. hearing his brother say he had a girl staying over is another .. whether their friend passed or not I'm sure if the shoe was on the other foot he wouldn't like some guy comforting you all night long .
So by not even explaining to you someone close to him had died .. that is strange .. then to have a female friend stay in his room all night is even stranger .. do I think you could have handled it better .. probably .. should you give him opportunity to explain .. He should have informed you of the situation straight away what partner doesn't think of their partner surely he has a mobile phone ? you have a mobile phone ? I'm sure while he made his friend a cuppa he could have called you to say ..
So do I think your in the wrong totally .. no I don't .. I think anyone in your shoes if they truly think of it would feel the same .
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reader, Slippers +, writes (5 November 2016):
I do think you over reacted some but as a mho and a female I can well understand .. hearing some random make a comment about your other half is one thing .. hearing his brother say he had a girl staying over is another .. whether their friend passed or not I'm sure if the shoe was on the other foot he wouldn't like some guy comforting you all night long .
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 November 2016):
 Seems to be like you may have had trust issues with him. If I heard his brother saying this I would have confronted him and asked him for the story and then made a judgement. Have you been cheated on in the past? Do you trust him?
Off course he should not have hidden it from you but you should also allow him a chance to explain himself.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (4 November 2016):
WOW!!! You heard?????? That is all it took? Who gives a crap about the truth. You heard so therefore...it must be true.
Seem like you have a lot of insecurities.
This is what you said about him...."good to me, great to my little girl." But all it took was you hearing something you didn't like to end all that.
Now...even if you got back together, he will not want to tell you anything. Because when you hear something you do not like...you overreact, and go completely left field.
Have your ever "heard" of asking questions? Don't get me wrong...He did not handle this right either. If his female friend was staying over and it was legit, then you should have heard it from him first, not his mum and brother. So he is not cleared in this either.
My point is...ANGER has never solved any problem in this world...EVER!!! Anger only makes things worst...And as you can see...If he is telling the truth...it just got worst.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (4 November 2016):
 Yes, you over-reacted BIG TIME!
The least you could have done was talk to him and let him explain. While I agree he should have mentioned it, and hiding it just makes it look suspicious, just dumping him without even telling him what he has done "wrong" is just immature and petulant.
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