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writes:My husband never agrees with me . I will say , you siblings dont like me and he will say yes they do or i will tell him something that has happend and he will say no they didnt but if they say something about me he will do the same thing say i didnt . I told him we dont have sex alot and he says yes we do when we dont . I dont know if he is trying to avoid the situation or what but its getting really old Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 November 2016):
 It seems like he does not want to hear any drama so he says opposite to you in hope that you won't go in to a discussion about it. When is the last time you had fun together? No negativity just laughed and had a great time? If you can't remember then it is time to be more positive. Try dealing with every day problems yourself. Try not to be negative or get in to a debate. Be more romantic. More positive and see if it makes a difference.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2016): He sounds sweet. If I had told my partner that I think his siblings don't like me and he replied, "You're right, they really hate you", I would not like it one bit!But in all seriousness, sounds like he doesn't like confrontations, that is why he continuously keeps denying that there is any problem. It is a sweet trait but of no real help to any of the people involved. You should sit him down and talk about these issues in a non-confrontational manner - as a conversation WITH him involved - use questions like what do you think? what would you say if this and this happened to someone else and not me? would your judgement of the situation stay the same?It's hard for him to pick sides - wife vs family. So build the situation such that he doesn't have to pick sides, but you can talk about what you're feeling freely and resolve the topic.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (4 November 2016):
Nor will your husband agree with you if all he hears are complaints. Men are fixers...You have a problem, we will want to fix it. You have a complaint...we don't want to hear it.
Siblings....Honey, can you pay attention next time when your siblings are around...just to see if you notice how they treat me...thanks....That is not a complaint...it is a problem and you need help fixing it.
Sex...Telling a man you want more sex, it like telling him to go clean out the basement. It will happen sure...years from now...but show a man a plan you have for that basement, and how getting rid of all that stuff can help...now that is problem we can fix.
Want more sex? Give him something to chase. Give him a reason to come get some. Get his adrenaline up. You have a body...use it. What did you do when you first got together to let him know you were in the mood?? I am sure you did not complain about not getting it. You just did what had to be done.
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (4 November 2016):
 Ah! You say potaito I say potato. What exactly is your question?
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