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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

He hides his phone when he gets a text?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3693 days ago

31 October 2014 (F)

age 26-29 - I have recently noticed the app 'Tinder' on my boyfriends mobile the other day, which made me think as this is a dating website and he has no reason to be on there as he is in a relationship. Another thing I have noticed is that whenever he gets a snapchat he hides it, we have ... (124 words)

If he's not happy why doesn't he just leave?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3651 days ago

31 October 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi, I'm really new to this site, hopefully you guys can help me with some good advice. I have been with the same man for almost 5 years now and we have a child together who is 4. When I first got with him I was so happy, I fell in love rather quickly. He was ... (298 words)

How do you let a man understand that having premarital sex is not the way to go

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3702 days ago

31 October 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - Any man out here waited for their woman who did not want to have premarital sex and married her? And how are you doing in the marriage. Or do you know of anyone who this worked for? I am recently single two years ago and made a vow to the Lord that I will like to walk the... (484 words)

When the bf looks at other woman and their pictures, is that what he really wants?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3703 days ago

31 October 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - I understand that men sometimes can't help looking at another attractive woman or scrolling through their pictures of fb. I know that my boyfriend does both of these things (not on a regular basis, but occasionally). After reading about why men behave this way and what should ... (259 words)

We've been playing cat and mouse for months. How do I tell him I like him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3703 days ago

31 October 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, how do I let a guy know i like him? He is a good bit older than me and I know Bim from work. At first he was always looking at me, then he started helping me out all the time then subtle flirting. The problem is how we know each other if he made a unwelcomed move it could ... (98 words)

Shall I tell her how I feel, or move on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3703 days ago

31 October 2014 (M)

age 30-35 - This is my first time even attempting something like this, so I'll try to make it brief! I have a very good Dutch female friend of mine who lives across the Channel in the Netherlands. I've known her for at least 2 years, ever since I was a student over there and she was dati... (471 words)

Normal for boyfriend to watch shemale porn ?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3700 days ago

31 October 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - I recently discovered on my boyfriends computer history that he has been watching shemale porn. To be honest I'm very disturbed by it , it had like ladyboy asain boys and guys with girls too but the girls wore strap ons. He had other porn like teen and lesbians as well . I ... (199 words)

My partner left me and is suffering with depression

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3703 days ago

31 October 2014 (M)

age 41-50 - I could really do with somehelp and guidance.I was with my partner for 9 years and we have 2 children.I thought everything was fine until one day I came home from and said she does not love me anymore and that her head is a mess.She suffers with depression and has told me she ... (147 words)

How can I get my partner to drop his friends without making an ultimatum?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3703 days ago

31 October 2014 (F)

age 51-59 - I don't like my partner's friends and it is pulling us apart. 18 months ago we made friends with a couple that live close by. The friendship began with dinner once a month at each others homes. After only meeting a handful of times my partner was asked by our new friends to be ... (249 words)

His ex best girl friend is back on the scene- should I be worried

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3703 days ago

31 October 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello people- another question for you. Been with my boyfriend now For a year and a couple of months- we live together at his mums house and are very happy until yesterday- he has a week of work (i don't) and he went to a shopping centre yesterday to do abit of xmas shopping... (190 words)

What did he mean by "to plant an intention"?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3703 days ago

31 October 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - Dear Aunts, I met this guy through a mutual friend. He is smart, funny and very ambitious. He is 27 and is going to uni sometime soon. We both like eachother but I have my head on and I try to weigh any pros or cons before even starting a relationship with someone. Late... (118 words)

We're moving fast should I ask him for space?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3702 days ago

31 October 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - Me and this guy have been speaking throughout this past summer via text. Hes funny and charming but hes quite flakey. We finally took things one step further and now we are dating but not official. The flakiness however is really making the spark and my opinion of him change... (287 words)

How do I get over fighting this feeling like I was wrong for leaving him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3703 days ago

31 October 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been broken up with my ex for a month now. I understand it hurts but am i supposed to feel like i am wrong? We were together 5 full years. Over the years he became unloving to me and made me feel like i was scum under his shoes but for some reason i kept clinging onto ... (100 words)

How do I get my girlfriend back so I can help her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3703 days ago

31 October 2014 (M)

age - My girlfriend and me are separated at the moment but am trying to get her back, I earn alot more money than her and all the time that we were together i tried to help her with money for which she would only refuse my offer of money and told me that she is not my problem and ... (264 words)

My mentally ill sister is preventing me from having a relationship with my parents

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 3700 days ago

31 October 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi everyone, I desperately need some advice, please please help me. My sister is mentally ill. Has been for over a decade. Her mental illness, which my parents have, till this day, chosen not to acknowledge, has destroyed my family. For the past decade, I've never had a ... (1042 words)

Is it wishful thinking or could my crush be gay?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3701 days ago

31 October 2014 (M)

age 30-35 - So I'm bi but not out yet and there's this guy I've had a crush on for just over 3 years now. We started off as friends at uni, we met during the first week but had this instant connection, people described it as a bromance, we just clicked, and got on so well. As our fri... (459 words)

I'm tired of dealing with my friend's manipulative husband

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3703 days ago

30 October 2014 (?)

- I'm not sure how to handle this situation with my very best friend. (I'm her very best friend too) The problem is that she tells me she doesn't give a crap if her husband gets mad at her but her actions don't match her words. Every time we want to do something together her ... (307 words)

Am I asking too much from him --- drinking and sexual abuse

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3703 days ago

30 October 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - Sorry this is so long. I hope someone takes the time to read it. I've been recently dealing with some guilt involving my relationship with my fiance. We have an awesome relationship first of all. I know we are meant to be together and we talk about everything. I recentl... (688 words)

Worried about girlfriends nightlife

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3699 days ago

30 October 2014 (M) age 36-40 - Ok, my girlfriend is away at college for the past 3yrs and everything has been great. She goes out to drink once in a great while with her friends and I don't mind because I know her friends and they are good people. I myself hate drinking, hate drunk people I just hate the... (325 words)

Can a man commit to just his wife?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3703 days ago

30 October 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - wow... its been a couple years of being a part of this site.. i look back at the past questions i have asked. lol... but here i am again. i have feelings that my amazing husband is cheating on me. is here such a thing of a man to be committed to one person or is it a ... (81 words)

Is our sex life suffering because of what he's doing on his phone?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3704 days ago

30 October 2014 (F)

age 51-59 - My husband comments on my clothes if he thinks I look sexy in them, then there are days he doesn't even notice anything about me. Another issue is, he gets turned on by me, starts getting intimate, touches, undresses me, he gets sexually aroused, so do i, but just when i think ... (192 words)

It's like I don't know to date him

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3704 days ago

30 October 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been dating this guy for five months now and nowadays he has gotten a behaviour of not calling me at all even when I text him he never replies my text I talked to him about it and I was telling he how its better off if we break up.he got really emotional and begged me ... (129 words)

Violence and lack of respect in our marriage -- how do we work on this on our own?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3703 days ago

30 October 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - Once in awhile my husband and I get into some real physical fights, which is NOT acceptable, I know that. Last night it started with my husband coming home after travelling for a week (I was alone with my toddlers), and he noticed a crack in the dishwasher door and blurted out ... (514 words)

Falling for partner's friend

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3704 days ago

30 October 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi, I have been in a relationship for 15 yrs. it's not a good relationship and hasn't been for at least 5 yrs or so, we are really only together out of easiness and we have an 8 yr old daughter. Other than that we sort of lead separate lives. The problem started about a yr ago ... (560 words)

He wants to live with us and I don't want him to think it's a free ride

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3701 days ago

30 October 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello Aunts and Uncles. I guess I need some advice from strangers purely because everyone who knows me or my boyfriend seem to be giving their opinion based on how things were between us before. We have a four year old son, and he wasn't planned. We were 18, so I didn't... (520 words)

Did I cheat because of how he behaves on line?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3701 days ago

30 October 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - i have been in a relationship for 14 years. started dating him at the age of 17 him 27 now aged 31 and him 41. im confused. i cheated on him with a friend of ours. i have seen his facebook over the last couple of years with all porn sites and stuff. messages with hints of him ... (154 words)

Is 'heartache' a figurative term or does it really hurt?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3704 days ago

30 October 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - I've often heard of the term 'Heartache' but is it possible to feel real pain in the heart from missing someone, breaking up with someone, being hurt by someone emotionally, etc? Often times when I think of the possibility of breaking up with my boyfriend, or big argument... (110 words)

We got back together but the spark just isn't there

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3704 days ago

30 October 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - We've been together for 5 years and we lose that spark we had before. We almost argue and fight all the time and we broke up 3 months before and now getting back together again. But things have changed and so do our feelings. He said he doesn't know what he expect from this... (626 words)

I don't want to be superficial, and I know the problem can be fixed ...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3704 days ago

30 October 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - Hey everyone......There is this guy I have been seeing for a month now.he is a great guy and I like him.but I can't stand his lips.we haven't kissed yet and it's all because his lips gross me out.he has a habit of chewing his lips which is an annoying habit for a 27 year old.as ... (132 words)

Can steroids and ice be reason for cheating?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3703 days ago

30 October 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi I'm going through a tough experience. My partner and I were in an amazing rship for almost 2 years everything was perfect we were best friends and lovers n I couldn't fault him and then things changed n he was snorting ice and taking steroids.. Our rship changed and so did ... (410 words)

My husband stays in contact with his racist father

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3703 days ago

30 October 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear all, I am a black woman and my husband is white. We've been together four years and married this summer just gone. The problem is this. The rest of his family are lovely and I have never encountered any problems. But his father is severely racist. He will not dis... (426 words)

I always resented her for leaning on my boyfriend

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3704 days ago

30 October 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - I don't know what to do. My boyfriend (of 2.5 years) made a female friend about a year ago who has a lot of emotional issues. She is depressed and cuts. He has always been there to support her even to the degree that it has pissed me off because she had her own boyfriend. A... (218 words)

My ex sees what I did as cheating

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3704 days ago

30 October 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - hi everyone. i have a question for ull. i had been going out with my ex for a bit more than one year and we were on a break. i went out with this other guy for a movie and i kissed him on the cheek and he kissed me on my lips nd i pushed hin away and i realised how much i ... (226 words)

My crush went back to his ex??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3704 days ago

30 October 2014 (F)

age 26-29 - So i like this guy he was my crush we were friends and all but one day he told me he felt the same. We started having a flirtationship but then he went back to his ex!? Why i just dont understand i feel confident in my self to know i have positive qualities. But in class i ... (93 words)

Send BF a naughty video but he has not responded to it yet.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3704 days ago

29 October 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi everyone. My boyfriend is on vacation with his family in China. He will be back in a few days. Yesterday I sent him a naughty video of myself talking dirty and looking very sexy. I was fully clothed but I really stepped it up. Like a real fantasy girl. ;) I was just tryin... (169 words)

How can I keep the night going, tactfully?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3704 days ago

29 October 2014 (M)

age 36-40 - I'm going on a second date with a girl in a couple of days. We went out for drinks on our first date, which was also the first time we met. Overall, the date went well; it wasn't a smash, but we chatted for over an hour and seem to have some things in common. Our second dat... (130 words)

My boyfriend is great but I need time alone!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3704 days ago

29 October 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years. He's really perfect, or as close as can be. He's kind, genuine, smart, has a great job, thoughtful, respectful, our sex is great, my family and friends love him... He has never, ever done me wrong. Despite all of that, I ... (266 words)

I like the girl I'm dating as a friend but not as a girlfriend

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3705 days ago

29 October 2014 (M)

age 30-35 - Ive been going out with this girl for about a month now and she's really nice, very sweet but I don't get the nervous butterfly feeling when I'm going to see her and when we don't don't see each other I don't want to see her I know that sounds bad but it's like i'm fine just ... (252 words)

How do I tell him my feelings???

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3703 days ago

29 October 2014 (F)

age 22-25 - I have decided to tell my best friend that i love him but i don't know how to tell him we have known eachother scince we were rely young so it will be hard. When im around him i feel rely happy and special. The thing is that i live in a different contry but we chat alot on ... (91 words)

I'm in a badly sex-deprived long term marriage!

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 3698 days ago

29 October 2014 (M)

age - I've been married for 22 years, and feel terribly sexually starved by my partner. If I don't ask (often beg, demand or cajole) for sex, I'll almost never get it. Once I tried waiting for three months, to see if she would think of it. She didn't! While most wives of her age... (209 words)

Why is he being so dodgy about this friend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3704 days ago

29 October 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi all I need some advice. I recently found out A is coming back from US and visiting my bf whilst I am overseas. I have never met A and I know my bf met her through camp. A is currently studying in US. My bf initially kept it from me but somehow it slipped his mouth that he ... (207 words)

I'm very attached to him and rely on him as I am still getting used to living away from home! Advice?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3705 days ago

29 October 2014 (F)

age 26-29 - I moved out home for university in september and very soon after arriving a met someone. we were very close for around 5 weeks seeing each other day. and although we weree offically a couple we may have well of been. admittedly we spent too much time together. however it has ... (216 words)

Haven't had a response back -- how should I deal with this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3705 days ago

29 October 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - I dated this lovely man for a three months and we broke up in June. I was quite devastated as he was the one who pursued me and told me he was in love with me. I really adore him as a person but at the time he was very stressed out with his new business and responsibilities, ... (284 words)

My boyfriend is sending mixed signals, what should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3705 days ago

29 October 2014 (F)

age 26-29 - dear cupid, i need your help. i am a virgin and i have been in a relationship for almost six months now. my boyfriend has had sex before and lately hes been hinting that he wants to have sex with me. i was a little scared at first and i kind of felt like he was peer pressuring ... (167 words)

How can I tell him I'd rather have a piece of jewellery than chocolates as a present, and not sound ungrateful?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 3704 days ago

29 October 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - So, on my birthday my boyfriend (of about 9 months) bought me chocolates, along with taking me out for dinner and dessert. I enjoyed it, afterwards we spent some time together on the beach and I acknowledge he did spend a fair amount of money on me... but I can't help but feel... (193 words)

Is he feeling threatened? Jealous?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3705 days ago

29 October 2014 (F)

age 26-29 - Ok so for the past month I have began to meet my fiancees family a bit more especially his first cousin who he is very close to. I was nervous to meet this guy for two years as I heard he was very sarcastic however after meeting him found that he was to others and not to me. ... (371 words)

I don't know whether I have fallen out of love with my B/f, or whether we are just in a rut from never spending time together

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3705 days ago

29 October 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been together 3 years exactly (its our anniversary next week), and I don't think I love him anymore. We live together and have a "family" together -- a cat and dog. We have a lovely home together and are saving for out first house at the moment. W... (587 words)

My Boyfriend and his ex-sister in law! I am incandesant with anger over this. What could or should I do?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3705 days ago

29 October 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend slept with his ex sister in-law, so that now has a baby by his brother. I can't get over the past and I don't think I ever will. I hate that "BITCH" and she's part of their family which I can't stand!!!What should I do about this situation!?... (51 words)

Is it normal for a woman to be completely addicted to her man?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3705 days ago

29 October 2014 (M)

age 36-40 - Hey everyone, I have been lately observing 2 of my friends and how they behave in their relationships, and I have been wondering a lot about whether this is the right way for a couple to be. The 2 examples (especially the 2nd one) are rather long for illustrative pur... (1194 words)

He's 14 to my 15. He had a Gf but broke up. Should I keep talking online to him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3705 days ago

29 October 2014 (F)

age 22-25 - There’s this guy at my school in the year below me and I've had my eye on him for a while (just thinking he's cute and what not), but when i found out my friend knew him i made a move and found out he had a girlfriend. We talked for a while and then just stopped talking.... (195 words)