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Archived questions from: 12 October, 2014 (see latest questions)

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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I want to be in a relationship but I don't want to settle for just anyone

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3720 days ago

12 October 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - I graduated from university this past spring, and have been single for about 3 years. I have decided not to settle for just anyone, however I now really would like to be in a relationship. But I do not know where to start. I am working but the company is small and I do not want ... (101 words)

I've lost my sex drive and I'm starting to resent him

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3722 days ago

12 October 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - My sex drive has completely disappeared but my boyfriend still initiates sex every time I see him. I usually end up having sex (or at least using my mouth or hands) because I feel so awful for not wanting to, but I'm really starting to resent it. I don't enjoy sex with him now ... (371 words)

How do I tell him I'm pregnant?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3723 days ago

12 October 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone, I've been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years and now I've found out I'm pregnant. I'm only 20 and this was not planned at all. We've talked about marriage in the future and having children eventually but we didn't want it to happen now. We don't live toget... (150 words)

If we did get together I'd be paranoid that he'd cheat on me the way he cheated with me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3722 days ago

12 October 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - Over the last few months I've been speaking to someone I used to work with and we've been out a few times. He has a girlfriend so we've always made a point of saying we are only friends. Then when we were out with a group of mutual friends we ended up sleeping together later ... (153 words)

Should I just get over the fact he kissed another girl while in a relationship with me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3723 days ago

12 October 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - Things between my boyfriend and I haven't been the same since he admitted to kissing another girl while he was on a night out earlier in the year. He kissed her in April and told me in June. To be honest, I couldn't truly believe it was just a kiss because he seemed so upset ... (258 words)

What should I do to make our relationship stronger after I rejected him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3722 days ago

12 October 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years. We are just getting back together after a rough break up. I initiate the break up but then I realize that's the biggest mistake I've ever made. He's going to propose and marry me next year and I rejected him. He prepared all the ... (770 words)

I decided to break up with her, but I have this crushing feeling that I need her in my life!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3722 days ago

12 October 2014 (M)

age 30-35 - Hey everybody, how's it going? I used to go on this site years ago when I was desperate for advice, and lately I've been finding myself feeling the same way - hopeless. I'm 21 years old and I just recently ended a relationship with my girlfriend of about 10 months. She was ... (791 words)

I care for her and I am not for sure if I should let her be or pursue her ?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3722 days ago

12 October 2014 (F)

age 51-59 - We met roughly 2 1/2 years ago. I do not know if I should let her go or persue her and just need some advice. Throughout- this time I think she was trying to hint at me she liked me but I never picked up on it. Actually my daughter did before me... Now what brought her into... (604 words)

Should I help my friend financially for divorce or counseling?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3722 days ago

12 October 2014 (M)

age - I have longtime female friend. I'm separated and in the middle of the divorce process. She's married, very unhappily. We talk often and get together every now and then for dinner. She told me she was jealous I'm getting out of my marriage saying she wants out of hers. I asked ... (217 words)

Recently diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome. Will this spell doom for my career aspirations?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3723 days ago

12 October 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - At the age of 24, 5 years into my degree qualifications at a top university, I have just recieved the devastating news that I have Aspergers Syndrome. I am very intelligent and hardworking but after getting fired for the 3rd time I went to see a psychologist to conduct a roo... (390 words)

How do I make this relationship work without burning myself out?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3723 days ago

12 October 2014 (M)

age 41-50 - Well me and my girlfriend are considered a odd couple. She is 5'9, slim, and a very beautiful chocolate goddess. I am 5'3 and husky. She is very much a turn-on to me. She could literally be a pornstar. I on the other hand am not really eye appealing. She gets hit on a lot. ... (159 words)

Should I initiate some subtle moves to let my 41 year of Professor know I like him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3723 days ago

12 October 2014 (F)

age - Its kind of a winding story but I just feel I need objective opinions from people I dont know. I am a foreign graduate student at a very prestigious university in country A. I was fortunate enough to receive a scholarship to come and study here. My supervisor, a very kind, g... (438 words)

How do I politely turn down invitation without closing doors to further invitations?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3722 days ago

12 October 2014 (M)

age 36-40 - Ok, I have a lot of friends, like a WHOLE lot. Some are casual friends who I had fun with, some are useful professionally, some are genuine friends I can go to, some are going out friends, some are culture friends. I amassed many friends but I don't have time to see them all... (196 words)

I have a lot of anger towards him. We both shout at each other a lot. How can this be resolved?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3723 days ago

12 October 2014 (F) age 36-40 - My husband has been shouting at me and sometimes hitting me and calling me lots of names. I have put up with it, now I feel like a very angry person and I shout back at him a lot and I can not speak to him nicely and even when he tries to be nice to me I am always nasty to... (113 words)

Really fancy this guy 31. Don't want to lose him. So what can I do? Because I'm not in the right place for a relationship right now.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3493 days ago

12 October 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - An acquaintance of mine introduced me to his little brother (who's 31; I'm 21) last month, and I've seen his brother around a couple of times since then and chatted to him. Long story short, I really fancy his brother - he's got an amazingly nice personality and respects wom... (300 words)

Have I overstepped the mark with my FWB ?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3722 days ago

12 October 2014 (F)

age 26-29 - Ok so yesterday I had sex with one of my friends (we have a kind of FWB thing going on). Afterwards we were chatting and I happened to mention that I had told my mum that I was revising at his house and that it was looking kind of suspicious (since is only been there 30-40 mi... (126 words)

Does sex always result in soreness for the next day or two?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3723 days ago

12 October 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi Aunts and Uncles, I've been with my BF for about a year, and things are going pretty well :) I do have one issue though…if we have sex for a long time (say, 30 minutes or even an hour), I will be VERY sore the next day, and sometimes it lasts for two days. Is this nor... (82 words)

I miss her. She was my closest friend. How do I move on from the sadness I feel now that our affair is over?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3722 days ago

12 October 2014 (M)

age - I had an affair with another woman that lasted a very long time. Our affair lasted 12 years. It was the right thing to do for both of us. She is considerably younger than me and neither of us thought it would go on so long...but it just never ended until now. Our respective... (133 words)

What should I do about my friend who is condescending towards me? Is this a toxic relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3722 days ago

12 October 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - This is a friendship question. I have a potentially toxic friendship. This friend (known her for about 7 months) has often corrected me in a demeaning manner when I make mistakes, likes to talk to people about how "quiet" I am and "shy", doesn't really let me speak for myse... (236 words)

Is it over or will he be back? Has he been telling me lies and have his family assisted him to get away from me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3723 days ago

12 October 2014 (F)

age 51-59 - My. boyfriend lived with me for 9 months..told me I was the best thing that ever hhappened to him. He said he wanted to marry me. The appartment people were not going to renew my lease, one reason was because he was there. I wanted to start packing because the plan was to ... (255 words)

I need a way out, but my heart is in the way. Still living with her, but we've broken up due to my lie.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3723 days ago

12 October 2014 (M)

age - ok, had my GF for a year and a half. Six months in she revealed everything, and I mean everything, 401K, savings...everything. She expected the same from me and I wasn't comfortable with that so I just threw some numbers out. Obviously not the real numbers or I wouldn't be... (164 words)

He's in a relationship. I think he and I may have a connection. How can I say it without sounding pushy or desperate?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3723 days ago

12 October 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - I have known this guy for about a year now. We met through working with a service organization and have been friends ever since. I like him and think there might be a connection . I have been wanting to tell him and see where it leads. However, he currently has a girlfrie... (136 words)

Boyfriend says he's not sexually attracted to me because I put to much pressure on him

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3723 days ago

12 October 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm 23 and my bf who is 27 won't have sex or even make out with me. we were both each other's first, and we've been going out for almost 2 1/2 years. The few times that we have "had sex" were only mins long because something would interrupt us and we'd have to stop. after these ... (179 words)

The Perfect date to impress her? Any good ideas for an awesome first date, please?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3722 days ago

12 October 2014 (M)

age 26-29 - So I have a friend who i'm really starting to like but the only way in I have with her is that we agreed at some point in the future we will go on a date. We get on so well and I think if I could just organize the perfect date that the rest will be history. I already thou... (113 words)

Should we share with family the trials and struggle we are going through in an effort to have a baby?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3723 days ago

12 October 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - So my husband and I hit the one year mark for trying for a baby this week, and it has been pretty hard on us , me especially. I know its not a major panic at this point and there are many couples who have had to try much longer,so I don't mean to be insensitive to anybody ... (286 words)