A
male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Ive been going out with this girl for about a month now and she's really nice, very sweet but I don't get the nervous butterfly feeling when I'm going to see her and when we don't don't see each other I don't want to see her I know that sounds bad but it's like i'm fine just being on my own. if she wants to see me i do see her but its like I'm not bothered to see her because i feel that she'd be a good friend for me but just not a girlfriend.like i said she is really nice one of nicest people I've met but she acts pretty immature and it gets a bit annoying. like she just giggles at stuff especially if we're spooning and i get arroused she laughs cause she can feel it and then with other stuff too it just gets annoying. however in the past i have made snap judgements and acted too quickly and i don't know whether or not to carry on and see but then again i don't want to waste her time being with me if it ends up not working.i don't know what to do do i stay with her and work things out or break up with her? and if break up how would i say it i don't want to hurt her feelings as id still like to be friendsthanks
View related questions:
immature Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, janniepeg  +, writes (30 October 2014):
 You can say she's not your type and that you prefer someone who's serious and intellectual or something like that.
Before you make a snap judgment let's see if you can look past her annoying behavior. If all she did was giggle then geez, loosen up and remind yourself you have an inner child too. She's probably a virgin, curious and excited about a genital organ that pops up like a snake. It's not meant to demean you or embarrass you when she giggled.
If a small thing can annoy you like that, it could mean you don't have enough chemistry to carry on. You could also be sexually frustrated while she has no clue what you were doing when you were spooning. Passionate kisses lead to sex and maybe you two were not at that point yet. Maybe she is not ready and making you wait. Teasing you then stopping it, that kind of thing.
It's true there are 18 year olds that act like porn stars but they are rare. She is not acting severely underage. Many guys would see that as cute and innocent. It's a quality that makes men want to protect their girlfriends. If all you see is annoying, something is wrong.
|
