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Archived questions from: 20 October, 2014 (see latest questions)

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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I like guy 1 but I have this niggling fear that he would be a cheat!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3683 days ago

20 October 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - I met 2 gypuys round about the same time 2 months ago and having been seeing them both for the past 2 months. I haven't told either of them that I'm seeing someone else and i don't know if either of them are seeing anyone else. I can't quite decide between the 2 but feel g... (199 words)

He tries to turn our love making into some sort of sordid porno by imitating what he has watched, which doesn't do anything for me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3684 days ago

20 October 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend for six months. I'm 26 and he's 29. We see each other every weekend and text and call each other daily. Our relationship in general is wonderful and we have lots in common, however, since the beginning of our... (298 words)

Is it shallow to want to break up with someone because they lack intelligence?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2910 days ago

20 October 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - It's is shallow to want to break up with someone because they lack intelligence? I'm having a hard time being in this relationship because my boyfriend's lack of intelligence and common sense. His decision making is poor, and his mental capacity is extremely small, he doesn't ... (248 words)

How do I get over my bitterness toward my ex-husband?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3681 days ago

20 October 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - I am so bitter about how financially successful my ex husband is. Ex and I were married six years. It was not a good marriage. He is a very selfish individual, verbally and emotionally abusive, and non committal. I stayed with him because I loved him, didn't want to be divor... (305 words)

Is my friend straight or what?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3683 days ago

20 October 2014 (M)

age 30-35 - Okay so my friend an me been friends for bout 3years he knew I was bi/gay but didn't care I'm in the closet but he's embrassed to bring me around other people (they might think something) but one day we asked of he can do oral an we did an we fooled around for a couple months ... (123 words)

Should I tell her I've never kissed a girl before?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3463 days ago

20 October 2014 (M)

age 30-35 - I have a date with a girl this weekend but I'm nervous because I've never actually kissed a girl before. I'm not saying we're going to kiss on the first date but if it goes well, who knows. What I want to know is, if we do kiss, should I tell her I've never kissed a girl ... (86 words)

After enduring so many personal difficulties I now discover the man I've started seeing is HIV positive

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3684 days ago

20 October 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi everybody. Please don't judge me, I feel horrible enough. I just want some advice and opinions please. I have had a difficult last ten years probably. My father had an affair and as a result of that my mother and father divorced. They are very very bitter towards each oth... (1044 words)

My wife's libido is low after having our baby

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3684 days ago

20 October 2014 (M)

age - I am sorry if this is an old issue - I have looked over previous thread but everyone is unique eh? Two years ago I married my wife who is considered by all who meet her, male and female, to be a particularly attractive and 'sexy' woman. Last year we had a lovely baby b... (445 words)

A friend thinks I have a crush on her ex but I don't

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3684 days ago

20 October 2014 (F)

age 22-25 - Ok, so i have a crush on this girl 'S', but she knows and now she has decided she hates me. There is another girl, 'A', who is one of both mine and 'S's best friend. Now she thinks i have a crush on her and told a couple of people this, including her ex, who is one of our best... (96 words)

I can't forgive my boyfriend's spinelessness

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3684 days ago

20 October 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - I am not normally one for holding grudges, but I just can't seem to see a way past this. Last year my boyfriend whom I've had a long distance relationship with for four years, took me to his hometown to meet his closest friends. They were all ok, except this one guy who was ... (369 words)

Does my girlfriend's recent behaviour betray a guilty conscience?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3683 days ago

20 October 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - Am hoping to get some advice about my relationship. There is a saying that cheaters often give themselves away if you listen to them. Well, my girlfriend went to talking the other night and randomly said I love you. Nothing strange about saying I love you but it came at a tim... (377 words)

How do I stop the feelings for my friend? She doesn't feel the same

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3680 days ago

20 October 2014 (M)

age 30-35 - i have been friend with a girl for over a year now. when we started chatting and talking we made it clear that we will only be friends and i was okay with it because it is certain that we cant marry so there is no point in having a relationship, so we were happy as friends, so ... (226 words)

I gave an ultimatum to my boyfriend: start talking about your feelings or lose me.

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3683 days ago

20 October 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - So, i've been searching on google about giving ultimatums and all of them are related to getting married and stuff. Mine is way more simple. Basically, our stone in the path of our two year relationship has been his constant closure towards love and communicating his feelings. ... (534 words)

My best friend said its either her or my boyfriend!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3683 days ago

20 October 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - Please help! I recently fell out with my best friend of 11 years. the reason we fell out was a little to to with alcohol and alot to do with our boyfriends! basically me n my friend used to see eachother every weekend we went to university together n talk to eachother almo... (350 words)

I'm worried about boyfriend using an old flings photos to get off on

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3683 days ago

20 October 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi Just looking for advice. My boyfriend once admitted to me that he occasionally (one every week or two) masturbates to a handful of girls he knows - one of these girls he slept with a couple of times a few years ago. But they've known each other a long time. It was a drunkenf... (317 words)

Strict parents and I'm nearly 16. How can I convince them to allow me to be more independent?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3684 days ago

20 October 2014 (?) age 22-25 - Hi everyone :) I need some advice on how I could convince my parents to let me be more independent when I hang out with my friends. This is what I mean by independent: I am almost 16 (in 3 months), whenever I go out like to hangout with my friends, my mum/dad refuses ... (449 words)

Do I accept the offer from my ex? Or continue to put up with my Bf ?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3681 days ago

20 October 2014 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi, I will try and keep things factual! I have a bf who I have been seeing for 4 years, we don't live together but there is a strong feeling of love between us. He tried to move in last year but I stopped him because I wasn't ready. partly because of this and also because his ... (646 words)

How should I apologize to my Bf? I spoke to him harshly about his video game playing

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3685 days ago

20 October 2014 (?) age 22-25 - Hey everyone My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months and we do fight occasionally. Yesterday however i accidentally blurted out "Fine go play your games that seems so precious to you" and I really didn't mean to say that. It's video games. .. I got annoyed all ... (177 words)

How long is the average time people date before getting engaged?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3684 days ago

20 October 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - How long is average for people to date before the get engaged? I am curious because one of my friends met a guy and married within a year. One of my friends got engaged after a year and married within another six months. Another got engaged three years after she began dating a ... (245 words)

How do I negotiate this issue? Don't want to feel I betrayed my roomate nor her Bf.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3684 days ago

20 October 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - My close friend and roommate has been dating a guy for several months now. I don't know him that well, but recently he has been sending me texts and facebook messages asking how my close friend acts in relationships. For example he sent me if he thought my roommate was still ... (136 words)

I like my job but my boss and I just don't seem to click. Suggestions to improve things?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3683 days ago

20 October 2014 (F)

age 51-59 - My boss is very young (24) and new to the boss job (but not new to the workplace, shes worked here 3.5 yrs) shes good at her job, is lucky to have it at her age, and I dont dislike her but wondet why shes so cliquey, her age maybe? shes super cliquey and though she's not... (285 words)

Married almost 20 years. Now ED is a problem. How to spice things up and be more adventurous to improve his mental stimulation?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3680 days ago

20 October 2014 (F)

age - I am very frustrated. My husband and I have been together almost 20 years. He has been experiences ED problems the past couple of years. He needs mental stimulation (such as him picturing me having sex with someone else) or just being unpredictable and adventurous. He calls ... (68 words)

Been single for 9 months. So why am I attracted to Players and Commitment Phobic men?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3684 days ago

20 October 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - i find myself stuck. Iam really attracted to good looking men who are commitment phobic/players. I've tried dating the nice guy and i get really bored and not at all interested. Ive been single 9 months now and i just want a good relationship. sick of being single! but I will ... (73 words)

Have I ruined my life as a result of having an affair with a married man at a vulnerable time in my life.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3684 days ago

20 October 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - For a period of time from 2011-2013, I had an affair with a married man. I make no excuses for my behavior, which was terrible, but I had earlier that year been assaulted, had gotten out of a long-term relationship, and my self-esteem was at all time low. It was, unfortun... (499 words)