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writes:I have recently noticed the app 'Tinder' on my boyfriends mobile the other day, which made me think as this is a dating website and he has no reason to be on there as he is in a relationship. Another thing I have noticed is that whenever he gets a snapchat he hides it, we have had an argument in the past about snapchat as I seen him playing a story of a naked girl and was bragging about it to his mates. He also hides his phone when he gets a text or what's app. I don't know if this is just me over thinking but I would just like advice on what you would do if this was you and your partner.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2014): In my opinion, when a phone is hidden in a relationship there is generally something worthy of being hidden. Personally, I believe you should be allowed to look. Does he look at your phone? Is it one rule for you and another for him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2014): I think your gut instinct is probably spot on. He sounds very immature are you sure you want to continue in this relationship whatever the outcome? Decent honest loyal and hard working men don't have time or inclination for that kind of thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2014): Ask him to show you what the message is the next time one pops up. Ask to see his phone. If he gets extremely defensive and snaps at you for "not trusting him" and won't show you his phone, either leave him or choose to stay knowing that something is going on. My boyfriend of two years was caught six months ago with Kik Messenger on his phone and his profile up on a dating website listing himself as Single. I then went in to find an entire folder in his e-mail dedicated to nude photos and chats from these girls. He's since deleted every single thing from his phone and his e-mail and I have complete access to everything of his as he wants to make this work and build trust back. Had I not randomly six months ago seen Kik and happened to stumble upon his profile, I would never have thought to question him, even though his phone was always locked and he always hid texts, as well. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2014): to be honest if i was you i wud just tell him u have grown apart from him see his reaction if he is begging for u to stay then think about the situation, if u think he cud change or not by the sounds of it he wants his cake and eat it ,it does sound like he wants to still be noticed and still feel he can attract women even tho he is with u u are still young and the world is still urs and theres plenty of fish in the sea if u feel u do not want to be with him
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (1 November 2014):
 Tinder is a HOOK up site, not dating. It's for people to find fast and easy F-buddies.
So IF he is on that site, is he looking for something on the side or for sh!ts and grins? Hard to say, but the fact that he hides it from you? Seems pretty suspicious and that he "brags" to his mates? How old is he 13?
Ask him What's up with that app. If he can't give a good "excuse" or SHOW you what it is, I'd say be cautious. Because you BF sounds just like one of those immature guy who would hook up JUST to brag to his mates.
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