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Archived questions from: 27 October, 2014 (see latest questions)

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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

He's controlling and abusive. What's the best way to handle this situation?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3675 days ago

27 October 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - Been with my partner almost five years, we have a four year old son together. For the last two years our relationship has been very rocky. It has been an unhappy relationship for me, since being with him he has stopped me seeing family and friends, I ask him why he hates me ... (549 words)

How did we go from an initial attraction to FWB and then to now, where he's making little effort to keep the relationship going?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3666 days ago

27 October 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - So, there's a guy (isn't there always) who I met at the end of my long term relationship. He's separated and in the middle of a nasty court battle re kids. He and I initially bonded over our dislike of our exes (great baseline, I know) and have discovered we actually have lot... (211 words)

How do I rise above the bullying and develop confidence in me and deflect bullying?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3656 days ago

27 October 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - Dear Cupid I feel unsupported in life. I experienced poor treatment from my dad from the beginning of my time and my mom has never really praised me that much; I felt that both my mom and my dad saw the worst in me, unknowingly. They didn't see how their behavior wa... (653 words)

I have bad feelings about her ex

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3674 days ago

27 October 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello, My girlfriend is bisexual, but tells me she is only bi for Daniel Craig, which is fine haha. I am a lesbian by the way. Anyway the thing is she is still best friends with her ex boyfriend and every time I see him, hear his name or any of that I get a bad feelings... (164 words)

My Gf is seeing her ex, but has not told me. What is the best way of dealing with this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3676 days ago

27 October 2014 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi, My girlfriend is still best friends with her ex boyfriend, which I aren't really okay by, but I know that if I confront her about it then she will just say don't make me choose, so therefore that means that she will chose him over me. I would prefer it if they wasn't fr... (209 words)

Am I overthinking this? My friend wants me to accomodate her friends at my home. I don't know them and feel uncomfortable about her request.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3676 days ago

27 October 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - Friends question. I got a bit bewildered to day by friend's request. She is my very good friend, I know her for 15 years. They have this friends a couple from a different city who comes on vacation to our part for New Year's Eve and stay for as much as 10 days. We li... (621 words)

Do I tell him that I have a crush on him and that I love him? I don't want to ruin our friendship.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3676 days ago

27 October 2014 (F)

age 22-25 - I dont know what to do anymore. I am head over heels in love with my best friend and we have known each other since we were 6 years old. I now live in a different country from him and we dont see each other a lot. We might see each other at christmas just for a day. I love ... (101 words)

This man hardly knows me, so why does he keep on asking me out? I feel conflicted due to our mutual friend's illness

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3673 days ago

27 October 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - Why does this man keep asking me out? This man is friends with a man that I like. The man I like has been seriously ill lately (he had an operation recently and was in hospital for a few weeks). This man has asked me to go out with him a few times, but I'm not sure if I want t... (282 words)

Still mourning my ex who passed away due to suicide. How can I move on? And what to do about the crush I have on my tenant?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3676 days ago

27 October 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - Lost my boyfriend a year ago through suicide. People are telling i should move on cause we were not married. In my heart i still miss him a lot. Recently ive discovered that im having a crush on my tenant, which is when my late boyfriend died i couldn't stay in that house al... (150 words)

Why does she resort to passive aggressive and avoidance behavior?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3676 days ago

27 October 2014 (M)

age 51-59 - Why does my girlfriend often resort to this type of behavior? She is an adult but I sometimes feel like she is stuck in the past. She'll try to lure me into making plans by giving me a yes or no option, but when the answer doesn't go along with her agenda she will shut me off... (220 words)

His apartment is freezing, but he doesn't turn up the heat! Do I stop visiting?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3675 days ago

27 October 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - Perhaps this is a weird question, but some suggestions on how to best deal with this would be nice. I've got a key to my boyfriends apartment, and I have been staying at his place for about every other day these last months. It's usually his place because it's more conven... (500 words)

Heard rumors that she's a virgin. After dating for 5 months, how to bring up the topic of sex?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3676 days ago

27 October 2014 (M)

age 30-35 - I have been dating this amazing girl for 5 months, I am 24 and she is 20. We get along great and connect very well, however in the time we have been dating the subject of sex (or anything remotely close to the subject) has not been brought up yet. I have heard from a close ... (179 words)

When do you completely let all your walls down and let a man love you?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3677 days ago

27 October 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - I just read a quote that spoke to me. "Never give all yourself to someone who has not made a life commitment to you...dating should not have the same benefits as marriage" Well I truly believe in this quote but question myself. I've been hurt badly and I feel like giving m... (294 words)

I worry this ex-girlfriend will try to hook up with my boyfriend!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3676 days ago

27 October 2014 (F)

age 26-29 - My boyfriend is having a small house party with his three close friends (one is his male best friend, one is his super hot ex girlfriend and the other is a family friend he's known all his life and who has a boyfriend, I was invited too but my parents wouldn't let me) since his ... (134 words)

My fiancè cheated on me with his ex! I am so angry at this woman, what can I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3329 days ago

27 October 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear Cupid, I need to know what to do in my situation that I know im not the only one that is dealing. Ive been with a man for just over 2 years now. We are engaged. The problem is this: He has twin boys with his ex. Now I understand that he needs to keep in contact with her... (427 words)

How to reach "that point"?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3677 days ago

27 October 2014 (F)

age 41-50 - Im not sure if anybody else out there has the same problem I have. But looking for some sexual advice. I am a squirter when I can "get off" but my problem is reaching that point during sex. I feel the tickling feeling when your about to explode but then it goes away real f... (78 words)

Met on holidays. Is it too early in our friendship to get him a birthday present?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3677 days ago

27 October 2014 (F)

age 26-29 - I met this guy on holiday, he's in the army and is posted in Germany. But comes from the same place as I do. Just after I met him he was being deployed to Afghanistan for 3 months, we spoke everyday and he'd ring me sometimes too. After his deployment he had 3 weeks leave.... (170 words)

Met online. He's separated but still married. Did he break up due to me questioning him?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3677 days ago

27 October 2014 (F)

age 36-40 - I really need your advice here- I'm female (27) been dating this amazing man (35) who's separated but still married that I met online, -we went on four amazing dates (2 dinners, drinks and an art exhibition). We instantly clicked and we had amazing chemistry and the best times ... (479 words)

Trying to process my 60 year old mother's cavallier attitude to taking a married lover. How do I deal with this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3677 days ago

27 October 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm having some issues with my mother right now. She called me tonight to get my opinion on if I would be okay with her sleeping with a man a few years older than me. I told her I didn't care about the age factor. Then I commented that as long as he wasn't married I didn't... (401 words)

Can a married man fall in long with his mistress? Or is the lover just used for sex on the side?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3675 days ago

27 October 2014 (F)

age 51-59 - Do married men only use their lover on the side just for sex only? Can they actually fall in love with their mistress, despite being torn because of the children? ... (32 words)

Can you help calculate the maths to perhaps arrive at which guy is the likely father?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3675 days ago

27 October 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - This is kind of embarrassing but i just want an opinion im fairly sure i know the answer would like some opinions though. I am 6 mths pregnant. at the time of falling pregnant i slept with 2 guys. im fairly sure i know who the dad is but was wondering if you guys co... (129 words)

How do I get over these lingering feelings for J without losing him as a friend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3670 days ago

27 October 2014 (F)

age 30-35 - It might be long, so please bear with me. I'll start off with some basics. I am currently 20 and my boyfriend is 21 years old (we'll call him K). We've been together for almost 3 and a half years, since my junior year in high school, and his senior. During those my j... (374 words)