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*ovelylaydeeL
writes:I have been broken up with my ex for a month now. I understand it hurts but am i supposed to feel like i am wrong? We were together 5 full years. Over the years he became unloving to me and made me feel like i was scum under his shoes but for some reason i kept clinging onto the man i fell in love with. What do i do if i am fighting this feeling like i was wrong for leaving? A part of me still loves him and a part of ke is screaming to let it go.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (31 October 2014):
 I think you are still trying to adjust to your "new" normalcy. It was for YEARS "normal" for you to BE with a guy who didn't really WANT to be with you, who didn't treat you right and now that you HAD THE GOOD SENSE and guts to leave him, your MIND is still a little stuck in that "Stockholm syndrome" relationship you had with him. And part of it might be fear that you don't deserve better then what you had with him.
The mind is WRONG on both accounts.
ACCEPT that you DID the right thing leaving him.
ACCEPT that you DO deserve better.
Focus on YOU, not him, HE is now irellevant to you. Nothing more then a hard knock lesson in what NOT to do and who NOT to be with.
It's only been a month, it will get better. My advice, go out with friend, see family and don't dwell on him or the past for a while. BUT DO NOT start dating tim you and your mind are "free" of him.
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reader, Fari  +, writes (31 October 2014):
It is understandable for you to feel confused, sad and hurt after a relationship especially one where the person was very dear to you. However, before you beat yourself up.. you must justify your reasons for leaving him.. If you think that you may have made a mistake and you want to get him back you must try to ask yourself if he is worth it otherwise you may just be setting yourself up for more hurt..
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