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anonymous
writes: My boyfriend slept with his ex sister in-law, so that now has a baby by his brother.I can't get over the past and I don't think I ever will.I hate that "BITCH" and she's part of their family which I can't stand!!!What should I do about this situation!?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2014): Very normal for women to get very jealous about other family members. In your case, it's that he slept with her. My partner goes flammable with other members of our family though I've never even had a sexual thought with them!
Please rethink.
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reader, ramet-x +, writes (29 October 2014):
i read a lot of anger and hatred from your question why do you hate the ex sis-in-law that much?Anyways why are blaming the lady for sleeping with your bf and yet (how i understand it) it was before you met thats being unfair to her since it takes 2 to tango put some blame on your partner too and let the past be the past but if you feel its hard then move on and get a new boyfriend
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (29 October 2014):
Based on what you've written.... I can't figure out who impregnated WHOM...... and WHO should be the object of your vitriole. Would you please re-submit this question and confirm just who is doing what to whom??????
Awaiting your response...
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reader, RubyBirtle +, writes (29 October 2014):
Do you mean he had a baby with his Sis-in-law BEFORE you met or after??
If it's since you met - then dump the cheating bastard and extricate yourself from the him and the family as much as you can.
If it was before you met - then there's nothing you can do to change the past so if you can't accept the status quo, you'll have to leave the relationship. Since they have a child together you can't dictate that he or his family should never see her again. You have to like it, lump it or leave.
I also don't understand why you are so angry at her but not at your boyfriend. He was a willing participant in the sex too, however weird and unethical it may have been. It wasn't just her fault
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (29 October 2014):
I have to say there is an EASY way out of this drama..
GET A NEW BF!
"Hating" the ex-sister-in-law doesn't fix a thing. What is done is done. And I SERIOUSLY doubt she put a gun to his head and said have sex with me or else. My guess is, your BF was JUST as willing as she.
Again, if this is too much for you to deal with :
GET A NEW BF.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (29 October 2014):
If I'm interpreting your rant correctly,
you met a man who is now your boyfriend and BEFORE you were his GF he had an affair with his x-sil who had HIS brother's child.
so you hate a woman who has a baby with one man (your bf's brother) and who slept with his brother (your bf)
and you can't get over this stuff that happened in the past before you were in the picture?
why do you dislike this woman so much?? what has SHE done to YOU?
perhaps your anger is misplaced?
IF you can't stand a person who is part of an established family you are trying to enter, then perhaps you need to find a new family to join.
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reader, WhenCowsAttack +, writes (29 October 2014):
You are mad at her but not your boyfriend?
I agree with the other poster, dump him, unless you WANT a life filled with weird family drama,
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (29 October 2014):
Get a new boyfriend?
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reader, olderthandirt +, writes (29 October 2014):
Deep Breaths, Anger won't fix it. Half the blame goes to the other person. Best solution is to divorce yourself from the entire situation, sip some wine.
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