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My Boyfriend and his ex-sister in law! I am incandesant with anger over this. What could or should I do?

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Question - (29 October 2014) 9 Answers - (Newest, 29 October 2014)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

My boyfriend slept with his ex sister in-law, so that now has a baby by his brother.

I can't get over the past and I don't think I ever will.

I hate that "BITCH" and she's part of their family which I can't stand!!!What should I do about this situation!?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2014):

Very normal for women to get very jealous about other family members. In your case, it's that he slept with her. My partner goes flammable with other members of our family though I've never even had a sexual thought with them!

Please rethink.

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A female reader, ramet-x Kenya +, writes (29 October 2014):

ramet-x agony aunti read a lot of anger and hatred from your question why do you hate the ex sis-in-law that much?Anyways why are blaming the lady for sleeping with your bf and yet (how i understand it) it was before you met thats being unfair to her since it takes 2 to tango put some blame on your partner too and let the past be the past but if you feel its hard then move on and get a new boyfriend

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (29 October 2014):

Sageoldguy1465 agony auntBased on what you've written.... I can't figure out who impregnated WHOM...... and WHO should be the object of your vitriole. Would you please re-submit this question and confirm just who is doing what to whom??????

Awaiting your response...

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A female reader, RubyBirtle United Kingdom +, writes (29 October 2014):

Do you mean he had a baby with his Sis-in-law BEFORE you met or after??

If it's since you met - then dump the cheating bastard and extricate yourself from the him and the family as much as you can.

If it was before you met - then there's nothing you can do to change the past so if you can't accept the status quo, you'll have to leave the relationship. Since they have a child together you can't dictate that he or his family should never see her again. You have to like it, lump it or leave.

I also don't understand why you are so angry at her but not at your boyfriend. He was a willing participant in the sex too, however weird and unethical it may have been. It wasn't just her fault

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (29 October 2014):

Honeypie agony auntI have to say there is an EASY way out of this drama..

GET A NEW BF!

"Hating" the ex-sister-in-law doesn't fix a thing. What is done is done. And I SERIOUSLY doubt she put a gun to his head and said have sex with me or else. My guess is, your BF was JUST as willing as she.

Again, if this is too much for you to deal with :

GET A NEW BF.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (29 October 2014):

So_Very_Confused agony auntIf I'm interpreting your rant correctly,

you met a man who is now your boyfriend and BEFORE you were his GF he had an affair with his x-sil who had HIS brother's child.

so you hate a woman who has a baby with one man (your bf's brother) and who slept with his brother (your bf)

and you can't get over this stuff that happened in the past before you were in the picture?

why do you dislike this woman so much?? what has SHE done to YOU?

perhaps your anger is misplaced?

IF you can't stand a person who is part of an established family you are trying to enter, then perhaps you need to find a new family to join.

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A female reader, WhenCowsAttack United States +, writes (29 October 2014):

You are mad at her but not your boyfriend?

I agree with the other poster, dump him, unless you WANT a life filled with weird family drama,

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (29 October 2014):

eyeswideopen agony auntGet a new boyfriend?

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A male reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (29 October 2014):

olderthandirt agony auntDeep Breaths, Anger won't fix it. Half the blame goes to the other person. Best solution is to divorce yourself from the entire situation, sip some wine.

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