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writes:I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years. He's really perfect, or as close as can be. He's kind, genuine, smart, has a great job, thoughtful, respectful, our sex is great, my family and friends love him... He has never, ever done me wrong.Despite all of that, I feel like I may need to break up with him... I'm 22, and since I've been 16, I've always been in a relationship of some kind. 3 long-term, several short-term in-between. I've just always been dating. I've only realized recently (or at least accepted recently) how unhealthy this has been. I feel like I don't know who I am.... I also have pretty low confidence and self esteem, and I feel like I need to address this. I also often think about what it would be like to be single, and I still somewhat strive attention from other men. I feel like if I was 100% ready to be in a relationship, I wouldn't care what about what other men thought of me. I don't want to keep stringing him along, but I'm so fearful to end things because of how much I love him and what I'm afraid to lose. In a few years, when I hopefully am ready to settle down, I know I will want him... I can't imagine how I'd feel knowing I lost someone so perfect for me, on my own accord. But I also don't know how I can identify myself and better myself without having time alone.Any suggestions or advice would be appreciated...
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (30 October 2014):
 This is mature of you. Good work. Break up but be friends but keep convo casual. Nothing serious. Tell your BF that you love him but need time alone to address your issues so you can come back and be with him
This is for yourself not him so dont worry what he thinks of the decision. Another option is if these issues are something you feel he could help you with while still being together than try it out. Hed have to be very very confident in himself and well developed so he can teach and advise. Keep that in mind. Good luck.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar +, writes (30 October 2014):
This is mature of you. Good work. Break up but be friends but keep convo casual. Nothing serious. Tell your BF that you love him but need time alone to address your issues so you can come back and be with him
This is for yourself not him so dont worry what he thinks of the decision. Another option is if these issues are something you feel he could help you with while still being together than try it out. Hed have to be very very confident in himself and well developed so he can teach and advise. Keep that in mind. Good luck.
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