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*aybaybay_x
writes:Me and this guy have been speaking throughout this past summer via text.Hes funny and charming but hes quite flakey.We finally took things one step further and now we are dating but not official.The flakiness however is really making the spark and my opinion of him change.Whenever I speak to him about it, he apologises and says hes not a phone persob.It gets better for one week but then he starts going back to his old ways.We're had so many falling outs and its only the start. He cancelled on the first date but we went out the next day. He did the same for the second date.I'm getting really down about it because i like him a lot and want it to work but I'm at my breaking point.For example, he'll text me at 1 and then I'll get a reply at 4. When we first started talking it was through text and it was non stop.Now it feels like he doesn't think he needs to try.Admittedly, we are moving quite fast,we stay at each others houses and go on dates. He tells me he misses me a lot at random times and likes me a lot but he hasn't asked me to be his girlfriend. We've fooled around but haven't had sex.Could this be a factor? I feel like he knows how much I like him so he's not trying. I've been crying about this all day and thought about asking him for a bit if space. Is this a good idea? What do I do?
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reader, Kaybaybay_x +, writes (2 November 2014):
Kaybaybay_x is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThis is what I've started to do. Very weird that you've suggested this. He's already being very attentive and he's suposed to be on a weekender with his friends. And this is from me just not doing the usually quick fire replies and being predictable with it
I don't call or text him at all.
This week is a little tricky because its my bday and i'm having a party.
So I'll just act fun and great no special rewards (sex or rough and tumble) until he realises he needs to step it up. But take the attention away from him again when thats over.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2014): This relationship is shaky from the get-go. Move on so you can find a young man who is consistent with you. You deserve it.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (31 October 2014):
 Ditch him already. If hes already making you cry then wake up... Hes not worth it! Cut him loose and move on to better men.
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