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*ristina kumar
writes:Hello people- another question for you. Been with my boyfriend nowFor a year and a couple of months- we live together at his mums house and are very happy until yesterday- he has a week of work (i don't) and he went to a shopping centre yesterday to do abit of xmas shopping- which is fine good on him for getting it out the way- but he bumped into a girl he knew ages ago and he was very close to her sister. He asked this girl for her sisters number as they Havnt spoken in a while and was on the phone to her all afternoon- I come home from work to it. I explained to him how I feel but he doesn't cAre he says I'm not stopping speaking to her just for you- I feel like he cares more about her because he's know her for many years etc. I walked out on him last night and drove off because he just wouldn't understand my feelings- he still doesn't and thinks I'm stupid. Am I being stupid? Or do I have something to worry about? Reply to this Question
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reader, MSA  +, writes (31 October 2014):
 Sometimes we need to slow down, stop, think, then react. When you came home and saw him on the phone with the girl, your mind immidiately went to think about the worst scenario possible, you get upset about the situation, your words are harse, and he responds defensively.
Maybe you shouldn't have gotten so upset, but calmly figure out the situation and suggest the three of you meet up for dinner so they can properly catch up and he can properly introduce you to her.
Wouldn't that be a better alternative?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2014): No, you're not being stupid. However, he is being insensitive towards your feelings.
We all have our lines drawn in the sand what we will and won't tolerate in a relationship. When you drove off last night, he knew he had crossed the line. All you can do now is see if he is going to continue being overly chatty with her.
Give it time. Who knows, he may not have feelings for her. If he does have feelings for her, he might realize you're worth too much to him for him to continue placing his need to chat with her about your feelings. Only time will tell.
Whatever the outcome, wish you well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2014): No, you're not being stupid. He is insensitive regarding your feelings, and by your actions, you told him it isn't okay. You drew the line in the sand when it comes to respect. Good for you.
Only time will tell if he has feelings for this other girl or not.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (31 October 2014):
 Not stupid at all very smart...He obviously has unresolved feelings . Keep your head on a swival and an eye on him.
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