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Archived questions from: May, 2013 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Why is it that my Ex and I are such great love makers but we can't get along unless we are in the sheets?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3925 days ago

31 May 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - Dear Cupid,my daughter's father and I have a WONDERFUL SEX life together I mean we both can put it down.But we went our separate way some years ago do to being dishonest toward one another there was a lot of drinking, drugs, and fighting,and a lot of hurtful things said.But ... (90 words)

Ex-boyfriend wants me to be friends with his new gf

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4219 days ago

31 May 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - I went out with this man for 5 months and it did not feel right, I did not love him and we are not compatible. Due to his new religion; he tries to tell me what to do and not. I am an open-minded person and respect everyone but I do not like to be told to convert to somet... (652 words)

Was I wrong because I asked my g/f to let me know what's going on rather than making me wait for hours to find out?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4221 days ago

31 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I had plans with my gf last night, that we had made weeks in advance, to meet up at ten pm as i was winding down from work. I'm a bartender and Thursday nights are crazy. And she was going to come when she knew we were going to exchange shifts and I was getting off work. I got ... (412 words)

I have a crush on my lecturer. How can I stop this feeling?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4219 days ago

31 May 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi I'm 18 this year currently a college student and I have a huge crush on my lecturer. He is 22 years old which is only 4 years difference. In class he acts like a Lecturer but out of class he is like our friend. During short breaks between our class (one lesson is 3 hour... (214 words)

How do I convince him to throw his clothes into a bag & jump on a bus bound up this way?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4218 days ago

31 May 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - It was 33 years ago that I was told that my first "great" love had been killed by his father. Well, I found him and he still sends butterflies fluttering around my heart! Problem is that he still lives in our home state and I live over 15 hour drive away. He calls me at ... (308 words)

Is being called the other half a good thing?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4220 days ago

31 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Is it a good thing if boyfriend refers to you as the other half when he talks to others about plans?... (21 words)

how can I keep my "old self" on the surface without all the overthinking ruining everything?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4221 days ago

31 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello Agony Aunts! First of all let me tell you, you people are amazing. You do your best to help everyone and u do a really good job at it. So, to the problem. I used to be a bit unsure of myself but also i was naive enough to just live in the moment and not think too much. Ba... (314 words)

Am I still a virgin after my friend put her finger inside of me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4221 days ago

31 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - i came here once, and i talked about where me and my girlfriend made out, and i regretted my action. So now i told her im not interested in her because i so much love my boyfriend. I forget to mention that im a virgin, and have not have sex before, im kind of confused if i am ... (176 words)

I think my teacher senses that I like him and now he's avoiding me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4219 days ago

31 May 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Lately I've been developing a crush on my teacher, which I sense is something more genuine than an infatuation. I think he likes me. We've conversated about books and music and just everyday things. There is a connection between us, if you understand what I mean. We always ... (174 words)

Boyfriend quit his job, I'm the only one working. He's angry because I bought something for myself!

This question has 26 answers - newest was posted 4220 days ago

31 May 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend quit his job because he hated it so much. We are in week 7 of him not having a job and I don't feel that he is really making much of an effort to look for one. I am paying his mortgage (my name is not on the house) and the food for the house which is costing me ... (232 words)

Can I live with my BF's selfish streaks?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4219 days ago

31 May 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I need help understanding why all my relationships eventually disappoint me. My current relationship of 5 months was so great in the beginning. My BF was doting and treated me special. Now - it seems his priorities are shifting back - or maybe I'm just seeing the selfish ... (340 words)

My husband's comment about "you women" made me immediately think he's cheating!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4221 days ago

31 May 2013 (F)

age - I have suspected for months that things have been going on at my husband's place of work although of course he has strongly denied as he really has too much to lose. However, we were about to go to bed for sex the other evening and it was cold so after removing my bra, I put ... (155 words)

Am I an idiot for being annoyed that b/f drank at party and pushed aside our plans?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4221 days ago

31 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - My fiance and I have been together for 6 years, and we are both 24. Neither of us drink, due to past issues in both families, and sharing the view that we don't need alcohol to have fun. Last week, a guy in his work was leaving, and so the office was having a bit of a leaving... (279 words)

I want to leave before I get hurt again. Is it time to go?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4220 days ago

31 May 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Well I meet this guy about 2 weeks ago and it started out great, he was sweet and caring but he also liked to send me inappropriate pics of himself which I brushed off. I texted him at 1 in the morning for a hug and he came over just to give me one. We spend pretty much every ... (190 words)

Girlfriend broke up with me for the 4th time. I owe her money, do I leave a note with it?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4220 days ago

31 May 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - Even though ive been a man in the relationship and paid for our one year anniversary weekend away as well her birthday very recently, my girlfriend broke up with me for the forth time. Dont get me wrong, she has been very good to me such as little suprise's here and there, ... (834 words)

Younger boyfriend isn't sure about us because I have experienced things he hasn't

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4218 days ago

31 May 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend is eleven years younger than me. Im 37 and he's 26, he's never had kids, had a long term relationship or lived w anyone. I, on the other hand, have been married, have 2 kids from 2 different fathers. He tells me he feels like its getting serious between us and he ... (124 words)

I'm 8 months pregnant b/f cheated, he lied until the girl sent the video of them having sex!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4220 days ago

31 May 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - I am 8 months pregnant and just found out my boy friend cheated, he said it was a mistake and he's so sorry but I don't know what to do, I want to be with him but I dont at the same time! The worst part is she filmed it and sent it to me, he lied and swore on my life he hadn... (89 words)

I'm confused about my relationship and haven't told my parents about him yet

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4221 days ago

31 May 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - So, I am dating a guy for the last 5 months who I think is great. He is funny, insightful, loving, and we have a wonderful time together. But there are two issues that really bother me greatly:1) He has kids (a boy that is 9 and a daughter that is 16) 2) He is financially l... (186 words)

Is cybersex cheating and is it forgivable?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4221 days ago

31 May 2013 (F)

age - My husband of 15 years was caught having an affair online with a colleague. He left "chat" open and I read all the sordid details. He claims everything happened online but I discovered they had plans to meet. I feel beyond betrayed and hurt and have let him know. He claims i... (143 words)

How do I tell him of my inexperience?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4221 days ago

31 May 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - So I'm in a relationship with this guy. I've never been in a relationship before him, because honestly I've never really wanted to date until he asked me out. I'm 17, he's 18. I am a virgin and have never gone further than second base. He is not a virgin and he knows I am. He... (188 words)

I treated her badly she has a restraining order on me but I can't forget her!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4221 days ago

31 May 2013 (F)

age - Hi I feel like I'm going crazy. I need some serious help. I'm in love with my childhood best friend. I've been in love with her since elementary school. Words can't describe how amazing she is. She is sweet, kind, compassionate, selfless, drop dead gorgeous, super intelligent, ... (372 words)

What is the best way to leave this man? I cant possibly stay with him!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4219 days ago

31 May 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm been in a relationship for 6 years now I've decided to move out of new York to Florida with him left my children in newyork with my parents until I get settled out here in Florida but it doesn't seem to be happening because of him . I get paid biweekly and I see my money ... (574 words)

Am I too sweet and he's just not into me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4203 days ago

31 May 2013 (F) - Long Distance Flirtationship Me and my best guy friend's(we'll call him Pal) brother(we'll call him Huck). Huck and me met about a month before he deployed for 9 months in Bahrain and there was this unspoken attraction that we both fought knowing he was leaving. We bot... (850 words)

I made a mistake and I want her back but I'm not sure how to win her back!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4220 days ago

31 May 2013 (M)

age 26-29 - My girlfriend and I recently split up, after being together for 7 months. I broke up with her: I was insecure and scared that she didn't love me back. For some reason, I had failed to notice many of the subtle, beautiful things she did for me to show me that she loved me. ... (368 words)

Should I contact my ex to see if he is ok even though he disappeared out of my life with no reason?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4221 days ago

31 May 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - My ex and I broke up 7 months ago. We only dated for 6 months and he was having a terrible time from the 2nd month we were dating and onwards. His ex-wife was demanding money, his father died and he moved house all in the space of a month (that was the 3rd month we were dat... (659 words)

Its our 5th date and I really want to kiss her but want to set things up and not blow it!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4221 days ago

31 May 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - Hello Dear Cupid community, I need some urgent tips; last minute advice if you please. Tomorrow I'm taking out this girl to a party, this is our fifth date. To give you some context, I'm 27 years old, she's 23. I never had a girlfriend before. I think that says a lot.... (231 words)

I am unsure how to help my online girlfriend with her sexual needs

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4221 days ago

31 May 2013 (M)

age 26-29 - This will probably sound odd at first, but please bear with me. So for the past eight months, I have been dating this girl in MA online, and for the most part, everything has been going fine. We have our ups and downs, but we love oneanother deeply nonetheless. ... (245 words)

My childhood sweetheart wants to reconnect but never mentioned his fiance to me!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4220 days ago

31 May 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I recently reconnected with my high school sweetheart after not tlkn or seeing each other for 9 years. We live on opposite sides of the country. We have talked about getting back together. I found out he has a fiance. He didn't tell me about her this whole time we've been ... (209 words)

How do I let my trans female boyfriend know I accept them?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4218 days ago

31 May 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - My 'boyfriend' has come out to me as trans-female. I am totally fine with this, but I would like a little bit of advice on how to make her feel like/know I accept her. I want to treat her right and I'm not sure how/what would be seen as too far etc! Please help!... (63 words)

He wants to do sexual things and I do to but am unsure of how and what to do

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4221 days ago

30 May 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - I've liked a guy for about 5-6 months and we've recently told each other that we liked each other. He said he likes me and wants to do things and become more than friends and i agreed. However, i have never done anything sexual with a guy before, other than kiss and cuddle, ... (98 words)

I am not sure whether my friend likes me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4221 days ago

30 May 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - I have a friend who I am crushing on and I have a feeling she might like me. She always calls me cute and laughs at my jokes, and every time she comes over to look at my work [at uni], she'll either put her hands on my shoulders, play with my hair, or give me and long hug and ... (104 words)

I think he's got a girlfriend after seeing a photo of them on the internet. Do I ask him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4221 days ago

30 May 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi to all people here n dear cupid..I met this guy his 30 he really seems nice and gentle we been texting 2 weeks b4 we go out for a dinner he's cool guy .. we still texting now and planning for a 2nd date.but I found out tht when I search his name on facebook seen tht his ... (266 words)

How do I move this relationship on into the 'offline' world?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4208 days ago

30 May 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - Was walking through the shopping centre last week and heard my name being called out, long story short it was a friend from way back in primary school. We caught up for a bit and that evening I messaged him wishing him luck in his forthcoming exams. We've been messaging quite ... (102 words)

How to cope with moving in with a SO.

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4221 days ago

30 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Dear aunts and uncles, I made the grave mistake of moving in with my boyfriend. In my defence, he seemed like a solid, responsible guy, and he is! He currently carries most of our financial burden. Since he is working, and I am looking for a job so in the meantime I have tak... (938 words)

Should I try to get to know better the brother of my ex FWB??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4221 days ago

30 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok some time ago I wrote in about a really horrible friends with benefits situation I could not seem to get out of. It went on for two years until finally the cloud went from my eyes and I could see the situation for what it really was. We have both moved on. He has a girlfrie... (573 words)

Is my boyfriend still not over his ex 2 years later?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4221 days ago

30 May 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi, My boyfriend checks his ex girlfriends facebook sometimes, he was deeply hurt by how she treated him and was angry with himself about how he let her hurt him so much and it took him time to get over her. I was insecure that he was not quite over her and asked him to delet... (346 words)

Are most young guys in relationships really committed to their girlfriends nowadays?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4221 days ago

30 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Quite a few close male friends I know in relationships don't actually seem to care about their girlfriends all that much. Or they do, but they see her as a temporary thing, and merely a girl of convenience for sex and companionship rather than possibly The One or someone they ... (221 words)

How do I get the courage to ask a coworker out (on a date)?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4222 days ago

30 May 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm attracted to a girl I work with and have seen her out of work socially a few times and we get along great, have a lot of fun and seem to genuinely enjoy each other's company. Anyway I've decided after a lot of deliberation that I'd like to at least try and make it more than ... (227 words)

The relationship is amazing, but I'm worried he's not really over his ex

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4221 days ago

30 May 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm confused. My boyfriend of 8 months and I get along really well. I'm really attracted to him but I'm a little insecure! We talk about future holidays and even what our wedding will be like. He's told me (after a few drinks) how he really really loves me and sees me in his ... (449 words)

My remarks were intended to build her up but she's told me they were inappropriate

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4221 days ago

30 May 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - I'll try to make this fairly quick. I've always been the kind of guy who's really tactful and good with words. I've always prided myself on knowing what to say and having good social skills. But lately, my girlfriend has been making me feel pretty bad about myself and I don't ... (386 words)

Tissue problem when giving oral!

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4100 days ago

30 May 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - I love pleasing my wife orally. However, there's often some tissue remnants. just small bits which is really off putting. Blokes, is this common? How do you deal with it in the moment? Ladies, how can I broach this with her?... (47 words)

I have reached the end of my patience with my boyfriend, but I'm too much of a pushover to let him go. Help?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4219 days ago

30 May 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - Okay. Well where do I start? I have been with my boyfriend now for almost 5 months. I'm not going to go majorly into the backstory about how we got together, but before hand I had been in a 9 month relationship with another person who was ... (1627 words)

How do I show her that I won't listen to my friend's advice anymore and convince her to give me a second chance?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4222 days ago

30 May 2013 (M)

age 26-29 - hi i'm 16 year old boy and I i've been such an idiot..... I liked this girl and when I eventually asked her out she said that she wasn't sure if she liked me. then her mate says to me that she likes someone else and that she doesn't like me. the girl i like then doesn't say ... (606 words)

I've never had an opportunity with a girl like this, let alone, any girl interested in me. Should I stay away from this situation?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4222 days ago

30 May 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - This is sort of a dilemma. It's been a couple years since college graduation. My former roommate and female friend who have been together broke up not too long ago. I had visited them along with other friends from college. Well, the female friend have been talking, and it'... (215 words)

Was it a one night stand or does he have other plans?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4221 days ago

30 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - So I went home to my sister's wedding and I met this guy, he is Danish, anyway, we end up getting so drunk and we spent all the wedding day together, to make things short I went back to his hotel room and we had sex. I was actually the one that coaxed him too, he seemed a ... (293 words)

What exactly is going on between us?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4222 days ago

30 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I have a fairly weird relationship with my male best friend. We started off purely as friends initially, but then as we got closer, we became increasingly flirty around each other. We will admit that we think of each other day and night and miss each other and started using ... (134 words)

How can I get my bad temper in check, and make it clear that I love him so much?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4222 days ago

30 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Dear Cupid, I am with the love of my life and I never want to loose him. He is my everything. I feel like I will loose him because of my anger. I have bad anger and a short fuse. I love him to much to every loose him and if I do I may just go crazy without him by my side. ... (95 words)

Do you think I have good reasoning to question his sexuality? Do you think he could possibly be gay or bi?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4222 days ago

30 May 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - I have this friend, who I'm head over heels for. He's extremely cute, smart, kind of socially awkward, etc. We hang out a ton and I consider him one of my best friends. Although there's one problem - I think he's straight and it would never work between us. Or at least I ... (553 words)

Am I in love? Should I talk to her about getting back together with her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3925 days ago

30 May 2013 (M)

age 22-25 - There is this girl that I have feelings for and these are different than what I normally feel. We dated for a while and broke up in December and I never stopped having said feelings. We have been talking every night since summer began for an average of about six hours (we were ... (127 words)

Suspicious email to husband--he denies he's signed up. Can I believe him?

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 4221 days ago

30 May 2013 (?) age 41-50 - Dear Cupid, I have a problem. I just got married. I h ave been with my man for a long time. I was looking through his emails and came acroos a email from XXXXbook [mod note: actual site name removed, it is not facebook]. I wouldve just deleted it and thought it was spam but... (96 words)