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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hello Agony Aunts! First of all let me tell you, you people are amazing. You do your best to help everyone and u do a really good job at it.So, to the problem. I used to be a bit unsure of myself but also i was naive enough to just live in the moment and not think too much. Back then, when i didn't overthink, i had great self-esteem and i could do anything, get any boy i liked and generally i was happy. After spending 2 whole years around a bad, mean, psychologically abusive friend, my self esteem was destroyed, my happiness disappeared and my will to live almost came to an end. I kept moving, surviving almost like a robot, but i was not happy, always crying myself to sleep and believing i am worthless. Well i really hated this state. And i also developed an awful way to overthink about everything, like "so, this person is talking to me, oh he made a joke about me, well it probably wasn't a joke, just a polite way to let me know how much i annoy him". And when i start thinking like that i get scared and i lose all the confidence i managed to create up until that point. The thing is, i think my "old self" is still somewhere in me, it takes charge some times (usually when i don't have time to overthink or i'm way too excited about something/someone) and things go great then...The question, as silly as it sounds, is "who is me?.." i kinda believe the "old me" is me, but i don't know... Andi don't like it but somehow when it starts i just can't stop it and it only makes me sad, giving up and unable to think anything positive. Thank you for the help, bye^^
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2013): how do you expect a bunch of strangers to tell you who you are? and I say this to you in the nicest possible way I could , the person you were before , your old self like you call it, shaped who you are now, that's what I believe I wouldn't bother myself much with existential questions such as who am I, that changes all the time, the person you are at 20 will not be the same you are at 40, or 60 (heard that from a 70 year old man)and I believed him.
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