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writes:I am 8 months pregnant and just found out my boy friend cheated, he saidit was a mistake and he's so sorry but I don't know what to do, I want tobe with him but I dont at the same time! The worst part is she filmed itand sent it to me, he lied and swore on my life he hadn't don't it butwhen I showed him the video he realized he couldn't lie! What do I do?Please help Reply to this Question
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (2 June 2013):
there is nothing you can do except to leave him. he is a loser and once a cheater always a cheater. this is terrible timing for you but you deserve better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2013): Its going to be hard but I would leave him ASAP!
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reader, Caring Aunty A  +, writes (1 June 2013):
 It just goes to show you they’ll lie through their teeth if it weren’t for having evidence of them cheating!
Perhaps you could swear on your own life and that of your baby not to have anything to do with him again!?
It’s sad that this had happened at such a crucial time where you need TLC.
I feel this isn’t going to be a bed of roses nor has it been in the past?
Personally I’d send him on his way and he can cough up child support
But as usual there’s conflicting emotions when it comes to ejecting a liar and a cheat for some reason
Take Care – CAA
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reader, oldbag +, writes (31 May 2013):
 Hi
I am so sorry, what a total scumbag he is and so is the woman. Your predicament is made worse because your vulnerable being pregnant and due so soon. Its a scary thought going it alone.
Personally I think you should dump his sorry ass, you deserve to be spoilt and pampered right now, not being lied to and cheated on. He really does not deserve you.
Get family and friends to support you through this and don't let him worm his way back into your life again.All you need is child support paying, so sort that out.
Good luck
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (31 May 2013):
 If he has cheated then he's no good. It would be reasonable to accept that he made a mistake except for the fact he lied to cover it all up and he must have given the other woman your contact details or how else could she contact you to 'share' what they were doing?
The problem with cheats is that you cannot trust them, it's almost impossible to believe anything they say unless you see them making a huge effort to put things right.
You are in a vulnerable state and you need to put your own needs first. Tell him if he still wants to be with you and be a responsible partner and father, then he has to fix things and prove to you that he is fixing things.
Being attentive and at your side
Allowing you to check his phone / email etc
Showing financial and emotional support to you.
Confronting the other girl in your presence to tell her things were a mistake and are now over.
These are all things he should be doing to make you feel safe and secure and loved...if he isn't doing these things then he's pretty much out of the picture and accepting 'lip service' and marginal efforts from him will keep you in fear and suspicion that something else is going on or will happen again.
You have enough on your plate, throw this over to him but try and understand why he would cheat on you in the first place??
Maybe the relationship was not as great as you thought it was and sadly, having a baby does not make everything better or fix poor relationships...in fact it often has the opposite effect and a lot of men start messing around or even just walk away.
(I work in this field, I see this happen a lot)
Talk to him, but know that only he can fix things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2013): YOu leave him. He did the ultimate betrayal. You respect yourself and leave him.
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