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26-29,
*rickster
writes:My girlfriend and I recently split up, after being together for 7 months. I broke up with her: I was insecure and scared that she didn't love me back. For some reason, I had failed to notice many of the subtle, beautiful things she did for me to show me that she loved me. Unfortunately, in a moment of temporary insanity, I blew it. I gave up, and cut her loose. And immediately after, I regretted it. And for two weeks, I regretted it further. I felt like I had just let go of the love of my life. After our time apart, I finally realize how much she really did care. I still love her, and I am determined to get her back(even though I know I don't deserve her), but I can't help it. So I confronted her, and told her my feelings, and she said she needed time to think about it. So I told her to take the time she needs. The next day, I texted her, just to be friendly, but she brought up our previous conversation. She told me that she didn't think it would work, and gave me reasons why it wouldn't. Still, I insisted that I had changed, I realize the things I've done wrong, I really do, and I feel like if we get back together, I would put her on the highest pedestal, and everything could be perfect. But still, she's on the fence. I didn't text her today, although we briefly small talked in school, I wanted to at least give her space at home. But I'm scared. All I want is to be with her again, but I'm clueless, endlessly clueless on how I go about doing that. I know I've already spoken to her and asked for another chance, but now what? I've considered so many things... bringing her flowers into school, writing a cute note to put in her locker... lots of things. But I haven't done them... I don't want to lose her for good, if it hasn't already happened yet. Please, someone out there, help me out. My teenage life is being thrown upside down due to my mistake... please help me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2013): People dont turn their feelings off like a tap; shes on the fence because she still has feelings- but if she knocks you back, dont be hard on yourself; we ALL do really stupid things- things that (mainly men lol sorry) cant even imagine how deeply our actions affect others; the important thing is that you find out her feelings,You need to write her a letter from the heart, and make sure you mention the above , don't worry about the length or sounding soppy, this should do the trick; if she's guna take you back she needs to be reassured youre determined to understand how it affected her, and you won't do it again. It's important to get everything out in the open- even if she doesn't feel what she did for you and take you back, you need that closure in order to move on- without understanding and closure you will end up going off the rails lol...It wouldn't hurt maybe to shell out on a personal gift, nothing too phoney. An old bf that lived in a tent, ( no money lol) spent £30 on a big clinton's bear for me, it was very meaningful, went the extra mile :) haha!- not essential but go the extra mile by speaking from the heart, everything in the letter- most important thing.Good luck! :)
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (31 May 2013):
 Hi,you have spoken to her and told her how you feel. Remember you hurt her and she is scared to trust you. You could send her flowers and a teddy telling her you love her and want to work things with her. But after that stop sending mesages and contacting her, because she needs to figure out whether you are worth giving a second chance. You learnt the hard way , you had to lose someone in order to appeciate what they meant to you. If she does not get back to you with a week, you need to put this behind you and move on, dont destroy your future over a lost love. Focus on school and work towards being successful or you would later regret destroying your future.
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