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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Geting Old and really Confused

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4214 days ago

7 May 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm in agony. I was involved with a guy and we had sex twice and after that he started being distant and avoiding me, so as time went I tried to let go and forget about him, which was really hard for me to do. When we started dating he told me he's separated with his fiancé ... (284 words)

How do I react around her? I really like her!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4215 days ago

7 May 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - one of my best friends has a twin sister and I really like her. I have told my friend and he said I should tell her how I feel so I did, she was so nice about it and it really showed why i like her so much. since then we've spoke on facebook/twitter and today was our first ... (274 words)

How do I relax my muscles consistently so that I can squirt?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4214 days ago

7 May 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - How do I relax to squirt? I been having this problem for a while I'm use to gripping my muscle but sometime I relax and thats when I squirt during sex or oral sex. I want to be able to do it at all times, my husband like it.... (49 words)

They've been acting odd ever since we came back from our holiday and asked them to move their car from our drive!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4214 days ago

7 May 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - I'm in an awkward situation with my neighbours and need advice... My husband and I live in an area whereby none of the houses have a garage and there is only 1 car space in the drives. There is an alternate parking area which is 10 minutes walk away.This doesn't affect u... (473 words)

Why is he acting this way after I told him about my dinner plans with my friend? I really like him but he's so awkward and quiet with me!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4214 days ago

7 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Why is he doing that? I feel really hurt:(? So I've liked this guy for a while now. He's friendly and chatty with everyone else but when it comes to me he's really quiet , awkward and doesn't talk that much. He asked what I was doing and I said I was going to hav... (282 words)

How do guys feel about direct approaches like the one I'm thinking about trying?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4204 days ago

7 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi. I currently go to college. In one of my classes, there's this really attractive guy who I keep checking out [I can't help myself] and he usually catches me looking, but I quickly look away and mentally nag myself that I should've kept eye contact and smiled. I... (151 words)

Could you give me some fun date ideas not involving sex? I regret kissing him on the first date!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4214 days ago

7 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - So this guy from my university who is a year senior to me took me out on a date,we dint really know each other until the date(we were never friends,neither acquaintance) but we had a few classes together and then he finally mustered the courage to ask me out!it was one helluva ... (156 words)

He stopped texting me after we've been seeing each other nonstop for the past 2 months.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4215 days ago

7 May 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - This guy I've been seriously dating for the past 2 months suddenly stopped responding to my texts. Before I start ranting about my situation, let me preface this with his history of relationships. He just recently got out of a long term relationship of several years and it ... (527 words)

Why can't I find a boyfriend? I'm scared I'll be alone forever.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4214 days ago

7 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm 19 years old and I've never had a boyfriend. There weren't many guys I was interested in in my high school, and the ones I did like didn't seem to like me back. And outside of school I guess I just never really did anything that involved people besides the ones in my high ... (245 words)

My American wife finds my comments on her body cheap!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4214 days ago

7 May 2013 (M)

age 41-50 - Actually, I'm from Pakistan who came to US 2 months ago after my wife Spouse Visa petition for me was approved. two and half years ago, we met through internet dating and got married in third country " Dubai". I'm 32 whereas she is 40. She is really beautiful and have big ... (182 words)

Why is sex more enjoyable now than it was 15-20 years ago?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4214 days ago

7 May 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - I am dating the most terrific man alive. We have sex sometimes 5 times a day. I am 40 and he is 53. Why is sex more enjoyable for me now than it was 15-20 years ago? I cannot get enough and neither can he.... (45 words)

How do I cope with my pessimistic and belittling mother?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4215 days ago

7 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello, I need advice about my mother. She is very pessimistic person and it's getting me down. I want to do something about it, but i don't know what or what to say to her. For example, today she out of the blue said "you're hair is very greasy, you need to wash it". I am a... (344 words)

How do you KNOW whether to stick with a relationship or simply admit defeat?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4213 days ago

7 May 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - How do you KNOW when the time is right to end a relationship? I've asked friends and the most common response I have received is that "you just know". I don't see how this is the case. I have been in a relationship for little over a year, but I feel like I want things to c... (247 words)

I thought he was my soul-mate, but now he's with a girl who's everything he said he hates

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4215 days ago

7 May 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - My ex and I broke up a month ago. We'd been together 3 years. Completely out of the blue he sat me down and said that although he loved me, he couldn't be with me, I wasn't making him happy. I genuinely didn't see it coming - everyone used to say we had an amazing relationship ... (281 words)

I finally figured out that he's 'the one' but he's having trouble with my baggage

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4214 days ago

7 May 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - Hiya, I am a desperate girl in need of some advice. I met the man of my dreams in January last year. He is absolutely gorgeous, caring and would do anything for me. He worships the ground I walk on. In August the previous year I ended an 8 year marriage to a guy who used to ... (572 words)

How did I go from having a boyfriend and good friends to having nobody?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4214 days ago

7 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey everyone I'm hoping to get some advice here. I don't want to come off as a teenage drama queen but I have been just miserable lately. I was with my boyfriend for 3 years. He ended up meeting another girl and they became close rather quickly. I trusted my boyfriend and di... (382 words)

Was it unfair of me to judge his past when he says that he's trying so hard to change?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4214 days ago

7 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey, so, I have a big problem here. I've just gotten into a new relationship, and so far things have been shaky for me. I have trust issues and insecurities from my last relationships, so it's really hard for me to communicate my feelings. But I really do want to make things ... (716 words)

Our online chats have left me feeling pretty intense. I don't want to screw up the first date!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4215 days ago

7 May 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - So I'm separated for over a year and there is this guy who I know who has been separated as well for about a year. We've known each other in the past through mutual friends but barely ever spoke. I was on Facebook 4 nights ago and he commented on my status. So I messaged him to ... (281 words)

Hurt and confused after she breaks it off, what should I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4214 days ago

7 May 2013 (M)

age 36-40 - So I had been seeing this woman for about 6 months. She is older than me. I am 29 and she is 42 but I the age difference has never been an issue as she has always dated younger guys. We really hit it off and have a lot in common and have gotten along great. I really enjoy her ... (891 words)

He's the Uncle of the little girl I tutor. Does he like me? He has a Gf but his mother says he changes girlfriends frequently.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4214 days ago

7 May 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - so the story goes this way: there is this guy who happens to be the uncle of a little girl i'm tutoring. the first time we met in their house I have liked him and i also noticed that he keeps looking at me. we rarely talk to each other and if we do, just simple greetings... (167 words)

Husband calls me names and is sarcastic. Then calls it a joke. Is this OK? Will it hurt our relationship?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4214 days ago

7 May 2013 (F)

age - My husband of 27 years admits he is sarcastic and is a name caller. He says the opposite of what is meant and then say "I was joking" This happens is front of your children and he thinks is ok and I am overly sensitive. Is this ok in a marriage or will it hurt the ... (62 words)

I think I love her. So how can I help her get over the guy she is seeing? He makes her unhappy. I think she's confused.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4214 days ago

7 May 2013 (M)

age 26-29 - I seriously love a girl whom i've been knowing for a long time too.....problem is that she is too much confused...she is in a relation with another guy...and certainly she is not happy in that relation...so she want's to get along with me...but again she is confused...so how ... (65 words)

He's going into the Army, which is stopping us from making our relationship official. What do you think I should do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4215 days ago

7 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Me and this boy have been talking for a while now and are practically dating we want to make it official but there is only one thing stopping us he leaves to be in the army in three months for twelve months, twelve months is a long time and a lot can change in that time, I've ... (75 words)

I want to surprise my boyfriend when he comes back from holiday! Any ideas?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4214 days ago

7 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend is going on holiday with his family for a week on saturday. I am really going to miss him like crazy!!! I figured the best way to make the time fly and to make him happy would be to organise something really special when he's gone to surprise him when he gets back! ... (128 words)

How can I get my best friend back? Does he hate me or is this because of his girlfriend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4215 days ago

7 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm hoping for some advice on how to get my male best friend back. We were best friends for 6 years and since its all been thrown away I feel lost. He was like my twin, we had exactlly the same personality, humor, interests and to be honest I miss him being around. I even miss ... (790 words)

Will his rational love end up hurting me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4215 days ago

7 May 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I am confused about how my boyfriend really feels about me! We had a big long/ slightly drunken conversation the other night which left me a little put out. We have been together 8 months, my boyfriend is rational, logical and highly motivated to be successful in life and have... (403 words)

My boyfriend won't finish in the bedroom, has performance anxiety and I don't know how to fix this situation!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4215 days ago

7 May 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - My bf of 3 years (he is 43 and I am 32) who I have a 1 and a half year old son with has performance anxiety in the bedroom and won't ever finish making love when we do get it on as he is scared to make me pregnant again - I reassured him that I have not had a period yet since ... (301 words)

How can I get over him? I need to get over him. He's a player and I'm starting to feel he treats me like a booty call.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4215 days ago

7 May 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - This question and the content inside is bizarre and I know that, thats why I need help. I like my cousin a lot and I really want to learn how to stop I want to learn how to stop thinking of him sexually and being in a relationship all that stuff. When we younger we experimen... (235 words)

He is drunk every day and flirts with others. Does this mean he'll cheat while I am in hospital giving birth? Or am I having pregnancy paranoia?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4214 days ago

7 May 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - if a man is drunk every day and will flirt in front of you. Does this mean he is likely to cheat when you're not there? I am weeks away from giving birth so i am not very attractive at the moment. not sure if it's pregnancy paranoia or not...... (53 words)

New people, new school. I need help with making friends with people who already have they own social groups. How do I make this happen please?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4215 days ago

7 May 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - Im going to a new school this Wednesday the 8th and its a alternative charter high school the environment seems to consist with ghetto teens. (dont mean to be mean) I normally am in a environment with a lot of diverse people but here its all the same. Though I dont know re... (128 words)

Is he still interested in me or is he saying this out of guilt or politeness??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4215 days ago

7 May 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - My ex who dumped me and moved interstate calls me a couple of times a week. I am getting mixed messages. When he phoned the last time we had a good chat about general stuff and he said it was really good to hear my voice and he said if I need a place to stay when I move inte... (117 words)

I can hardly respect him anymore for what he did. Yet my family love him. How can handle this situation without breaking up?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4213 days ago

7 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Well, I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years, we are both 23. I love him so much before. He treated me like a princess I guess. But then its just my thought, not reality. He flirted with some girls and got treatment with his friends, I mean he got oral sex when massagin... (315 words)

Your thoughts please? Do men see women differently to how women see themselves?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4214 days ago

7 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey aunts and uncles. I have been wondering about something for a while, and would like your opinions on it. My question is, do men see women differently than women see themselves? The reason I ask is because a lot of my female family members and some coworkers tend to i... (149 words)

Should I be the one who is blamed for my brother's dog not being fed?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4214 days ago

7 May 2013 (M)

age 30-35 - Roughly, about a year ago, my older brother found a litter of puppies with their mother somewhere in the park. He just up and bought one of the dogs home without even asking our mother for permission. He said he carried it home because it seemed like the toughest puppy in the ... (518 words)

Should I confront him about this awkward behavior?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4215 days ago

7 May 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - I had this major crush on this guy at work and so we began to talk and he seemed interested in me so we exchanged numbers. Admittedly, I did most of the texting. He hardly texted me. One day he said he lost my number and would need it again at one point. One month later I ... (246 words)

I'm afraid of people judging us over the age difference

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 4204 days ago

7 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - Im 21 and my boyfriend is 62. I am falling in love with him. When we go out Im a little nervous about people staring or asking questions. How do I get over this? He is the most amazing man I have ever met. Hes so patient, kind, and understanding. He is romantic, sweet, and ... (105 words)

Do I leave or Do I stay?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4215 days ago

7 May 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - My husband and I have been married for 15 years (together for 17) and have 3 children (17, 14, and 12). Things between his family and I were tolerable at best in the beginning, but it was well known that they didn't like me because I am white (he is Mexican). I have been ... (382 words)

Is it flirting? Being drunk? What kind of behavior is this?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4215 days ago

7 May 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - If a bloke is out getting drunk every day without you. then when you are there he drunkenly flirts with everyone ,that makes him a flirt. right? harmless drunken flirt. But if he ignores you and later on when u pull him outside to ask him to stop and one of the girls sits o... (119 words)

Nothing seems to turn me on anymore. Is it my age?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4215 days ago

7 May 2013 (F)

age 51-59 - My husband and I have been married for 24 years and have always had an active sex life together, at least 3 to 4 times a week even while he's been truck driving and is only home 3 nights a week, it's still 3-4 times a week. In all these years I can only remember having an ... (267 words)

A nasty fight gave me 30 stitches but now boyfriend is kind to me. Should I leave him?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4097 days ago

7 May 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend of 3 years and I got into a nasty fight while we were drinking. I slapped at him and turned to run and then he pushed my face into a wall and split it wide open. I will have a permanent scar as it took 30 stitches to help me heal. My self esteem is gone and he feel ... (169 words)

Has my boyfriend broken up without telling me? He owes me money!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4215 days ago

7 May 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear Cupid My bf (or ex) of 3 years was very abusive lately (verbally), we had a fight, actually to be precise he called me names and stormed out of my apartment. He said he's getting bored with me, i tried hard to make myself interesting to him, chnaged the ways i dress... (155 words)

I know he does his best to tell me the truth but he omits things or lies about things

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4215 days ago

7 May 2013 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend of just under 3 years is a completely different person than when I met him. He has completely quit drinking because it was ruining his life, he quit smoking and he works out every day. He cuddles me and cooks me dinner and has a very lucrative job and seems to be ... (270 words)

I'm confused about the ratings on Dear Cupid

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4215 days ago

7 May 2013 (F)

age 41-50 - confused about ratings? how many do u nd to get before theyy show up and is it 5 for high/good Q or A? plus is there any way of answering that is likelyy to be rated? I rate a lot but dont thinlk anyone has rated me :(... (49 words)

What does he want out of our relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3892 days ago

7 May 2013 (F)

age 26-29 - I started talking to this guy late last year, at first we were just really close friends we have talked almost every single day since then but recently about 4months ago our feelings started growing into something so big it's indescribable. We say I love you to each other ... (400 words)

I don't want to be a burden on my parents, but I don't want to be with him

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4216 days ago

7 May 2013 (F)

age 30-35 - I love life,my daughter, and I think I love him. Recently him and I have been arguing pretty bad so i decided to pack up my stuff and move back into my parents did I mention my kiddo isn't even one yet. My main reason why I left is our fights get out of control not only tha... (344 words)