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writes:This if very hard. Admitting I have relationship issues. I just recently ended a relationship that has left me feeling empty and hurt. All because of a few things that may or may not be an issue.I've had security issues in the past and really try hard to not let them affect me. Unfortunately when I feel this way now my reaction is to run away because I don't like to discussing topics that make me seem clingy.I know I should try to communicate better but it is like a dream when it happens. Without thinking, without planning, I just blurt out I don't want to see her anymore. Why do I do this? I'm old enough and smart enough to know we should discuss things that concern us! Now I'm scared to talk to her because I'm embarrassed about how I reacted. The bad part, when we were together it was the best thing that ever happened to me. When apart she was distant like talking for even 5 minutes was inconvenient. While shocked that she seemed so hurt....because she didn't express her feelings I feel so bad for what I have done. My pain is bad but I the fact that I hurt her.... Because I hurt her I am afraid to give it another try because I'm afraid I might someday do that again. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2012): if you love her tell her out loud. Give your self a chance to be happy, otherwise you will never know how she really feels for you..When you talked to her, be consistent, mean what you say if she loves you she will forgive, and give your romance a second chance.The problem is, your making yourself nuts over things that you shouldn't be scared of. You're a man. men are born hunters. Why would you feel insecure? Did you know that its cute when a man shows he can jump over the mountain to be with the woman she loves?Go and get her before someone else's does... Good luck...
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reader, singinbluebird +, writes (22 October 2012):
 I agree with both of these ladies. Communication is the key. PLUS, you have to tell her why you did what you did. Tell her you were scare. Tell her that you love her. And tell youre sorry. Be honest about your feelings and your actions. Empathy is what can bring two people together. Good luck.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (22 October 2012):
 I agree with Aunt Em. Just be honest with her and tell her the truth as to why you ran out. If you want her back then it is time to start talking. Communication is a big part in any relationship as I am sure you know and if you keep running from it then yes you will find yourself alone. Just be honest with her and explain to her about your insecurities and take small steps in opening up to her. Good luck and all the best.
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reader, sweetiebabes  +, writes (22 October 2012):
 You have a negative train of thoughts that keep staying in your mind and it goes on and on and on because you had a bad experiences from your past.This girl you just ended the relationship is a new girl, she is not your past. Why does she has to pay? You truly do not own your thoughts and feelings. It is owned by that person who hurt you before.If you want to live a happy life, I believe you need to stop thinking and feeling being afraid. Overcome those negative thoughts and feelings...start believing that there is a woman who can truly give you the love you deserve. Is this woman you were with completely gave you everything? If she was the best of everything to you then you need to start owning your thoughts and feelings. Have that power again that you can step up and leave your past behind. Take that power back and be in control, be confident, be honest and be who you are and what you are again.Try to make her understand how you feel, talk from your heart. You may open up with her about your emotional issues and ask her if she can be with you to help some changes in your life. Be honest with your feelings and talk from your heart and make changes in a positive way.Goodluck! I hope this helps.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (22 October 2012):
 I understand if you feel insecure whilst in a relationship but life only offers you limited chances (especially in love) and if you keep finding fault and pushing people away, sooner or later you're gonna find yourself alone.
If you love this woman, you'd better get busy getting her back...and all the finer wrinkles will sort themselves out in due course. Sometimes we just let the small stuff get in the way.
Nothing in life is perfect, you just have to shake off the rough edges, focus on the important stuff and just love someone...
That's all you got to do.
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