New here? Register in under one minute   Already a member? Login245057 questions, 1084625 answers  

  DearCupid.ORG relationship advice
  Got a relationship, dating, love or sex question? Ask for help!Search
 New Questions Answers . Most Discussed Viewed . Unanswered . Followups . Forums . Top agony aunts . About Us .  Articles  . Sitemap

Do guys who are in a committed relationship fantasize about other women in their life like colleagues etc, while masturbating?

Tagged as: Big Questions, Dating, Trust issues<< Previous question   Next question >>
Question - (22 October 2012) 8 Answers - (Newest, 23 October 2012)
A female United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Dear Cupid

Do guys who are in a committed relationship fantasize about other women who come into their life like collegues etc, while masterburating. I am not talking about movie stars or rock stars, just the normal women whom we see almost everyday like collegues or the shop girl in star bucks etc.. Or am I making big deal out of nothing.

Please help me

<-- Rate this Question

Reply to this Question


Share

Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question!

A reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2012):

I personally think it's disrespectful. I don't, nor will I ever for sure know whether or not my SO does, but I would like to think that he doesn't. It hurts enough that he thinks of celebrities. I think what really matters is how you feel about it. And yes, as other people said, is it affecting the relationship? One thing, he's obviously being honest with you which should put your mind at ease, because I wouldn't think he'd be honest if he were going to or had any desire to cheat. Good luck.

<-- Rate this answer

A female reader, person12345 United States +, writes (22 October 2012):

person12345 agony auntSome do, some don't. Why do you ask?

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A female reader, Zaaleena United States +, writes (22 October 2012):

Echoing what HoneyPie said - there's nothing wrong fantasizing about someone else whilst masturbating as long as these fantasies don't extend into something that could affect your relationship.

Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean that the only female who can now turn you on is your partner.

Hope this helps x

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (22 October 2012):

Honeypie agony auntI honestly think most people does to an extend. And I don't think there is anything wrong in it, as long as it doesn't get to the point where they can ONLY get off if they think of someone else.

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (22 October 2012):

Sageoldguy1465 agony auntI STILL fantasize about that woman who worked in the office building across the street, when I started work, just after graduating college....

I often saw her in the lunchroom/cafeteria... and couldn't hide my lust for her.... and my office-mates used to tease me about "Mrs Over-Forty" who I lusted for....

Wonder where she is today???? AND, if she'd like to come visit me some time (after all... I live in Florida... and she might well (live here), too!!......)

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2012):

I do, my girlfriend does too. It's just harmless fantasy. I've never cheated, never wanted to cheat and plan on spending the rest of my life with this woman. We both believe that fantasy is healthy, imagining other possibilities is a good thing. Besides normal, real women are far hotter than any made up, photoshopped celebrity will ever be. Pictures of 'friends' on Facebook is used more by my friends for wanks now than any porn site.

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A female reader, chigirl Norway +, writes (22 October 2012):

chigirl agony auntSome probably do. Some don't. This isn't a universal thing.

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (22 October 2012):

So_Very_Confused agony auntThey might. I'm a woman and I do... sometimes...

is your partner telling you he's doing this?

<-- Rate this answer

...............................   

Add your answer to the question "Do guys who are in a committed relationship fantasize about other women in their life like colleagues etc, while masturbating?"

Already have an account? Login first
Don't have an account? Register in under one minute and get your own agony aunt column - recommended!

All Content Copyright (C) DearCupid.ORG 2004-2008 - we actively monitor for copyright theft

0.0312432000027911!