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writes:My ex and I had been together 6 months and things seemed to be going just fine. But once school started he began to pull away. After 8 days he told me that i was beginning to annoy him and that wed have to break up if it didn't stop.I started hearing from his friends that he was hitting on this other girl. The next day he told me that he'd had a dream about her and that he liked her, but when I tried to pull away he only held on tighter.3 weeks in and I had just about had it. Not only was he not treating me right as a girlfriend, he wasn't even nice to me just as a friend. He was rude, and very condescending towards me, always putting me down.Before he left on a hunting trip I texted him and asked what the problem was and he didn't even answer me, all I got was "Yea I'm sorry, we can still be friends tho" I didn't answer. I got to school and I was more than ok with it. Completely over him.He came back on thursday crying and told me he didn't know what he was thinking and that he was really sorry and that he wanted me back.I decided to try again and give him a second chance, id never even imagined that he would ever cry. He asked me to homecoming and id already made plans with friends. At first it was like the first day of school, lots of attention, lots of love. I ended up not going to the dance and he was unreasonably mad about that. The next day he called and said he wanted to break up again and that he wasn't interested in me anymore and he really liked the other girl a whole lot more.So we broke up again. But now I know what the problem was and I just cant help but hope that we could still make it. Even after all that, but would it be worth it?
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (22 October 2012):
 No, this relationship has no hope I'm afraid. He treats you like crap, I dont even know why you are holding onto the idea of being together!
This is not what a real relationship is, this is just him being a jerk, playing games with you and messing you around.
I'm sorry but you are wasting your time, and every time you let him come back it just confirms to him that you are a doormat and he can walk all over you. He has the best of both worlds at the moment - he can mess around hitting on other girls, then when it doesnt work out with them he comes running back to you with his crocodile tears because he is lonely and doesnt want to be on his own. But when the other girl is interested again, he will drop you all over again.
He knows you are sat around waiting for him hence why he keeps dropping you and then coming back - he knows he can walk all over you and get away with it.
Dont allow him to do this anymore, this break up is final and move on. There are much nicer guys out there who wont go hitting on other girls behind your back.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (22 October 2012):
 Its not worth it OP. This guy is rude and obnoxious and he has the cheek to tell you that he likes the other girl and is constantly dumping you for her. What does that make you? Sloppy seconds? In any case I think the reason that he came crying the first time was because he couldn't get the other girl so he wanted you for homecoming and this was his way of trying to get you to go with him.
You've given him enough chances and he doesn't deserve them. Frankly, you could do much better. Move on. Who is he to say that he's not interested in you anymore? Stop giving him any more attention, he's really not worth it.
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (22 October 2012):
 No no no. Everybody deserves a second chance, and nobody a third.
You gave him his second chance, he blew it, now what you want to do, go on breaking up and making up like this for the rest of your life ?
Moreover, personally I think that the problem is not that you missed homecoming , the problem is that he can't make his mind up between two girls ( meaning probably that he does not really care about either one ).
But, even if the real problem was that you missed homecoming : even worse . You had already made other plans with your friends while you were broken up, it's normal that you wanted to keep your previous engagement. Does he expect you to dump everything at the drop of a hat just because he decided to grace you with his attentions again ? If this is the case, he shows little respect and plenty of selfishness and would make a bad bf abyway.
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