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*andymetal
writes:Hey if anyone could just give a bit of insight that would be great.Sorry this is probably gonna be long but bare with :) I met this guy very casual he saw me where i worked, never talked just looks this went on for about three month he eventually said hey and gave me his number. I didn't text him until a week later he answered straight away but made a point of saying that a week was quite late and he thought i wasn't interested. Anyway we texted back and forth for a week, he always texted first mostly flirting and then sexual,i then went to his house fully intending to have sex 'cos i'm not looking for anything serious, plus i'm six year older than him but he did think i was younger than him when he met me! (i don't look my age) so yeah i went we slept together he asked me to stay the night but i didn't want to so left (nicely) he said he would text in the morning and did i replied but then his texting wore off and i texted if he wanted to get together again and he never replied so i left it. Then three weeks later he gets in touch pretty late on and said if i would be ok with fwb,so yeah thats fine by me what i wanted really, so for four month on and off he would text for me to go over his unfortunatly i never could, commitments and stuff. so even though i ignored him, never got in touch and always had an excuse not to go he kept on texting then it stopped for a month and i bumped into him he came over to me said hi and everything asked if i was free that night i stalled and he said he would text me later which he did said i looked gorgeous and he really wanted to see me after seeing me again, but i didn't really have time but admit i've been stringing him along so he texted almost evry night for 2 month except for one day each time getting knocked back but i did tell him i liked him, he texted rubbish that he thought he loved me, i never encouraged this. Anyway it's ended with him texting the last two weeks asking me to mary him wtf!! I've never said anything to that other than what happened to fwb! but he still kept asking me to go over which i couldn't. He's suddenly stopped texting three days ago, after all that! i texted today and i've had no reply! do you think he's eventually gave up or found someone, i know i shouldn't be peeved but after about ten month of being pursued it just seems sudden!Well Thank you if you've read this and thanks in advance for any input :)
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reader, kandymetal +, writes (23 October 2012):
kandymetal is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks MissTellAll for your insight probably best leave it as my circumstance's are even busier now than before!:P and it was kind of an ego boost :)
To tamperingtampaguy, my self esteem is fine thanks and women are aloud to have sex without commitment you know. What's with the "you are a woman" yeah and! We all want physical fun but can't always commit not just you men that want sex you know, it's not a 'gift' that women give in return for marriage! sheesh!!
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reader, MissTellAll  +, writes (23 October 2012):
 Looking at this logically he probably just finally gave up. You said it yourself , you were stringing him along and for ten months! Yikes!
From your perspective I know it must be quite frustrating to lose his little ego boosters but from his side he must be really distraught. He obviously wanted somthing more than you did and let himself get wrapped up in you even thouh you weren't as serious.
Essentially, it's time to either actively *want* to see him or just let go. The latter seems most logical to me.
Also, next time make yourself very clear with your intentions with these guys. Guys have hearts too that can get broken and hurt. Be careful!
Best of luck!
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reader, tamperingtampaguy +, writes (23 October 2012):
You are a woman. You should not be giving it away so easy. I would suggest you work on your self esteem issues and you will be in a much better position to handle situations with men. Good luck.
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