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writes:I have been in a relationship with this guy for many years after 04 we split for good I was dating him since 1983.Common-Law marriage I would say I finally built up enough courage to finally leave him.i made it out with his two children.Now I have a new life ,he has a new woman now he is starting to talk trash to me about how much he misses me and how good the sex was and he's sorry for everything he did to me and how we should be together .I just don't understand where does these type of men come from .And my question is why doesn't my ex want to leave the past in the past? I love him but I am not in love with him period.The abuse he put me through I don't wish it on my worst enemy it was hell .
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2012): Yeah, I agree with everyone else. He's just trying to come back to you because it's convenient and he isn't happy in his current relationship, or seeing you happy. If there was any chance at all that he genuinely wanted you back, he wouldn't sustain a relationship with another woman. Do everything in your power to stay away from him. You've come this far, and I doubt he's changed. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2012): it's cos he's not satisfied with his new woman so he's looking around again, and you're convenient to try since he already knows you.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (22 October 2012):
 "And my question is why doesn't my ex want to leave the past in the past?"
Because he relishes the control. He knows that by continuing to bother you and forcing himself into your life, he is gaining some of that control back.
If you can, block him from communicating with you and try to get support from friends and family close to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2012): He wants his cake and to eat it too. A woman at home and one on the side...greedy but men will carry on like this as long as they can get away with it.
I would ignore him. When he sees you react or get upset by what he does, it just tells him you are still emotionally attached and therefore easy to string along.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (22 October 2012):
 Think it's a case of regret for him and not knowing what you had until it was gone.
He is an abuser and he will always be that way. You had a really long substantial relationship with him and gave him two kids...now his life is pretty much in the toilet and even being with another woman does not mean that she gives him the time, love and attention like you did...so he's probably clinging to the past as his future is most likely s*it (even though he may not show you that)
You remember things as they were, a nightmare that you had to escape from, that is why you were able to let go of your feelings for him and have moved on. He just sees it differently, but it does not mean that if you let him back that he would change.
Keep moving foward, don't get into any convos with him about the past because it's a waste of good breath.
He may never let go, but that is his problem and his own stupid fault for treating you so badly...it's called karma.
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