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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

My younger brother is a bully how should I handle him

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4590 days ago

28 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - dear aunts/uncles im having some problems with my younger brother. Firstly i dnt live with him, thank goodness because he is so moody! he has always been a moody person, angry irritable and really rude! when i visit he is off with me and bites my head off at tbe stupidest ... (244 words)

My b/f can't make me orgasm but I don't want to feel like I have to educate him

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4590 days ago

28 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I have no problem making myself climax when I masturbate and i've had plenty of orgasms thru oral sex with previous bfs but, for some reason, my current bf just can't make me cum. It's frustating although i don't make it a big deal as I know he's even more frustrated than me. ... (174 words)

Does my university lecturer see me as a daughter, or is there more to it?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4588 days ago

28 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - There's a uni lecturer at university, he treat's me different to all the other students. We are both asian so possible he see's me as a daughter but i'm not sure. i am about to finish university in 1month, he is 45. We do have a good working relationship, when i feel d... (222 words)

Does love no longer exist?

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28 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Why does this keep happening? Does love not exist anymore? So my ex boyfriend cheated on me. I thought we were in love. We were on the phone all the time, I knew when he was showering or eating. I thought I knew his whereabouts but I was wrong. He still cheated and co... (263 words)

What can I use my PhD to do next? Will I seem overqualified to enter good jobs in business?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4590 days ago

28 May 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - I'm currently feeling a bit lost and was hoping for some advice. I'm in my final year of a PhD in biochemistry (9 months left) and I'm not sure where I want to go next. I took the position because it was more or less offered to me on a plate at a lab I did some undergrad work ... (295 words)

I had sex with this girl, but I have a girlfriend, what should I do?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4209 days ago

28 May 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - I was camping with a bunch of people and one of the guys brought his girlfriend and her friend. Her friend was cute and very flirty. I have a girlfriend we've been together a couple months. Every time me and my girlfriend have sex I don't cum which is cause I think I ... (256 words)

I Really like a guy who doesn't know I exist, what do I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4586 days ago

28 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Really like a guy who doesn't know I exist, what do I do? There's this YouTube personality that I really like. Now before you think I'm crazy let me say I'll be attending college in his area. I'd already picked this school before I even started watching him which is why I'm ... (150 words)

Is she interested and attracted to me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4589 days ago

28 May 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - Hello, I am writing this letter to seek your valuable advise. There is this woman working in the same building as me but in a different office. When she joined her office, she was introduced to me by the HR who is common to both of us. It has been almost two years that I hav... (358 words)

I'm getting a little worried about my friend, she obsessed with her weight!

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28 May 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Hello everyone, I'm getting a little worried about my friend, we are in our last year of school and are both going to different colleges this year and she has recently opened up to me about how unhappy she feels with herself. She use to get bullied in primary school for bein... (404 words)

How to deal with boyfriend getting another woman pregnant

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4573 days ago

28 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I have a boyfriend, we have been dating off an on about 5 years.Serious about an year and a half. I just found out a few months ago the he got some other woman pregnant.He didnt know she was prgnant till after the baby was 9 months old.So now she is 3. When we first got ... (178 words)

Have seen this great guy a few times, but just don't know what to do next! Help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4590 days ago

28 May 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - okay so I need some input on this: I put an ad on craiglist looking for a long term relationship...yeah yeah I know craiglist isnt the best place for this, but I'm tired of being single. Anyway, so I decided to give it a try. I stated what I was looking for and also a coupl... (1010 words)

Still a Virgin at 28 years old and I want to get rid of it.

This question has 23 answers - newest was posted 4578 days ago

28 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm an attractive educated female and I'm about to turn 29 years old and I haven't had sex yet. Don't get me wrong, I've done everything but get penetrated. I was waiting till marriage but I have no prospects and I don't want this to be a problem after I turn 30. I can't hire ... (260 words)

My mistress asked me to 'make love' to her. What does this mean?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4564 days ago

28 May 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - I am single and I have been having an affair with a married woman for about 6 months now. She is very sexually adventurous, encouraging me to take her any way I want her. Sometimes we dress up and do roleplay. We just thoroughly enjoy sex with each other. Yesterday I met... (220 words)

Are we together or not? So confused!!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4589 days ago

28 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been with this guy for about 4mnths. We have had sex go out together but I don't know if he really likes me. He always checks in tells me where he is and during sex the last time he tried holding my hand but I pulled away because he has not said if were boyfriend or ... (154 words)

How do I ask her to formally become my girlfriend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4589 days ago

28 May 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - There is a girl that I have known for about 6 months, and we have been dating for about 4. It hasn't been all perfect, and i have done things that i in a million years never thought i would do. About 2 months, I had a hook up with an ex that ended up us sleeping togethe... (406 words)

Should I tell my friend that I like the guy she is dating?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4590 days ago

28 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm a student and I've had a semi-relationship of about 9 months with a friend who I've known for almost 2 years. We were never actually official or even 'seeing' each other but we always went out got drunk and kissed and had sex a couple of times. He told my friends a few ... (268 words)

Do I fight for him or move on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4588 days ago

28 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - i think this guy who lives in my student dorm likes me: we look at each other and smile like two idiots, he came over to watch TV and chat when we are alone, he liked my pic on Facebook (although he isn't very active on there), he teased me a bit, we have a lot of eye conta... (221 words)

Everything goes great -- until the condom comes out

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4589 days ago

28 May 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi there. I'm writing this today because I'm experiencing an issue that (apparently, judging by numerous Google searches) many young guys face. I've been dating a wonderful girl for over 8 months now, and it is a committed and loving relationship that I couldn't be happier ... (530 words)

He comments on everyone's FB pics except mine??

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4590 days ago

28 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Me and my boyfriend have been going out for four months and we are friends on Facebook obviously. What bugs me is he has never liked or commented on any of my pictures but I see him commenting on my friends pictures saying things like "awww" and "pretty". He thinks that I'm ... (75 words)

Still being judged for an affair 12 years later

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4589 days ago

28 May 2012 (F)

age - 12 yrs ago I had an affair with a married man which resulted in his divorcing his wife and leaving their 3 teenage children. A yr later he and I married and have been happily married ever since. His ex wife continues to call me an adulterer and has told their now grown children ... (100 words)

I want to break up with my boyfriend but his mom will be my teacher next year! Should I go ahead anyway?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4589 days ago

28 May 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - i want to break up with my boyfriend because he has been talking with my emeny but the thing is that his mom will be my science teacher next year and tennis person, should i still break up with him?... (41 words)

How do I deal with my boyfriend watching porn? I feel sick at the thought of it!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4190 days ago

28 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I recently found out my boyfriend watches porn, and I hate it! I have some real issues with myself, I have terribly low self confidence and low self esteem. We have a very active sex life, so why does he have to watch other women? What is wrong with me? It has made me feel so ... (200 words)

Problems with my next door neighbour, what should I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4590 days ago

28 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear Cupids, I am having many issues with my next door neighbour. i seriously dont know what to do!! I am an army family and reported my neighbour for parking in front of my house on the grass. It is forbidden to park here, my grass is destroyed so i have to pay to re... (372 words)

I snooped and found my boyfriend had been lying about watching porn, how do I trust him again?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4590 days ago

28 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - How do I trust my boyfriend again after he lied and promised he didn't watch porn, but I found out he does by snooping? What should hurt more the fact he broke a promise and lied or the fact he did not come straight out to tell me he watched it? I love him, but don't want to ... (60 words)

He doesn't seem teachable. Should I just fake it and take care of myself?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4588 days ago

28 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Last night my bf and i were talking and i told him that we need to incorporate more foreplay in our love making. More blowjobs, touching, stimulation, etc. He told me he noticed how i wasnt as into sex and i told him it was because i am usually not horny or wet when we have ... (166 words)

What should I do? I apologized for making him angry

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4590 days ago

28 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been seeing a guy for a month or two. He was texting me some weird poetry. All I said was I hope you aren't faking it/ getting it from a book. As he's never said these things face to face to me. Then he cracked it and said its over. I apologized though. What should I do ... (59 words)

Why is he commenting on how I don't stay over as much as he would like, when my life has always been this way?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4590 days ago

28 May 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - Had a good weekend with my boyfriend of 5 months but a couple of things he said has played on my mind. We are both in our 40s, I have a teenage child, he has no children. My home life is a little more chaotic than his and his mum still does his washing and ironing, me I do my ... (225 words)

He is 'liking' other girls statuses on Facebook, is he looking to trade me in for someone else?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4590 days ago

28 May 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - Both me and my partner are on Facebook and before we got together he would always like my statuses and some of my pictures and he also did this to a previous girl he dated. We have been going through a bit of a bad patch and I have noticed he does keep liking and commenti... (152 words)

Our landlord is trying to take all of our deposit and then claim for extra money for repairs! How do we dispute this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4590 days ago

28 May 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - Our landlord came to check on the property since we are moving out in 4 days, though plans to come back on moving day to do another one. Its as if she is purposely looking to trip us up to get more money as she herself is in a heap of debt - why not just to one end of tenency ... (477 words)

Should Pre-marital sex be avoided?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4590 days ago

28 May 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - What do you think of a culture which doesn't support pre-marital sex? I am from India. Here pre-marital sex is frowned upon. My first sexual experience was with my wife at the age of 32. Don't you think I lost some of the precious moments of life?... (47 words)

What does fantasy mean in the porn world?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4590 days ago

28 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I have some difficulty understanding the whole porn and fantasy thing, when men view porn does the fantasy thing mean they just enjoy watching sexual acts being done to other attractive people? I always thought it meant they pick the videos with the people in they find ... (98 words)

Can friends with benefits work ?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4580 days ago

28 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Can Friends with benefits with an ex work ? Me and my ex started seeing each other last november. We did alot for the 2 months we was together. Met his family his friends he met mine. We all got along. He suffered with migraines and had a little girl who i did a lot with... (224 words)

Is this relationship just about the sex? Why is he distancing himself from me?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4590 days ago

28 May 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - A few weeks ago me and my boyfriend of 5 months broke up, this was the 2nd time and both times I have ended the relationship. The times I ended it was because I felt he was being far too selfish and also trying to push my buttons to evoke an argument, which didn't happen I just ... (617 words)

Was he a jerk or do we just have very different personalities?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4590 days ago

28 May 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - Hello everyone, recently I had this really painful interaction with this guy and I just cannot make head or tail with it: I knew him since around a year, he asked me to go out a few times, but it was really never clear if on a real date or not, we went out together alone twice ... (441 words)

Partner doesn't think of me during masturbation

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4590 days ago

28 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi, this question is for women and men, would it bother you if your partner only thought about you briefly or sometimes not at all during masturbation at the start of a relationship? For some reason it bothers me, I would wonder why they hardly thought of me like I haven't made ... (60 words)

Would you add a guy on Facebook knowing he 'might' have a girlfriend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4590 days ago

28 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Would you add a guy on Facebook knowing he 'might' have a girlfriend? Because this guy I met on a night out ages ago, we got along really well.. he's the one person I regret never giving my number to! He is the nicest, genuine guy i've met this year and he liked me! But ye... (250 words)

My wife wants to have sex with other men. I think she wants to hurt me because I had relationships before I met her

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4590 days ago

28 May 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - I've been married for 17 years and the sex is great my wife was a virgin and I was her first. But I on the other hand have had 5 sexual relationships. I only told her about that 7 years ago I tried to before but could see that she didn't whan't to hear about it. I had to come ... (243 words)

I've kissed over 50 guys on nights out and feel disgusted with myself!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4590 days ago

28 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Ever since being in university I feel like i've lost my self respected, dignity and it makes me feel sick. I'm disappointed in myself for it... Basically, I keep kissing guys I meet on nights out! I've probably kissed just over 50 guys since being here, which is pretty bad. I... (232 words)

How can I feel an orgasm during sex?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4590 days ago

28 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I know that after I orgasm from doing it myself I have to go pee, but when me and my boyfriend have sex i don't feel my orgasm but I know i had one because I have to go pee. To me it doesn't make since because when I do it to myself i feel it but when were having sex I don't ... (80 words)

Everything was going so well but all of a sudden she started ignoring me and wont explain what has gone wrong! Help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4590 days ago

28 May 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - I am helpless and dont know what should i do, Actually i was with a girl from last few years and she was more that a girlfriend to me and loved her with full devotion, Whenever we were together, She used to force me to get her introduced to my family as soon possible and when ... (177 words)

Can you get sick from touching a penis then putting your hands in your mouth?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4590 days ago

28 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - If you touch a guys penis, then you end up putting your hands in your mouth during that night and in the morning without having washed them... can you get ill, or any infection or disease? Because that happened, now today I feel really sick! But i'm not sure if that is just ... (60 words)

I know I should give her space but I just cant let her go! How do I get her back?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4590 days ago

28 May 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - We were together for two years and known eachother for twenty. The anticipation built up and we didn't even know until we finally got together. We were so in love like nothing imaginable. Going to get married have kids the whole nine. I screwed up and started using drugs for ... (233 words)

After 6 years of loving him I found his engagement pictures on facebook .. what to do now?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4590 days ago

28 May 2012 (?) age 30-35 - Hi Am a 17 years old will be 18 soon and I've been in love with this guy for 6 years , ever since I was 11 he and his family are family friends and because of that I never had the guts to tell him my true feelings , am a shy and a coy person now I found his engagement pics on ... (209 words)

She had 2 glasses of wine with me and then because of her diabetes she had to go to hospital! I'm worried she will think I took advantage because we had sex before she went to hospital....

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4588 days ago

28 May 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - So I have a real problem I think ill make this as short as possible...I met a diabetic girl online 3 Weeks ago, after talking for 2 of those Weeks we meet up 3 days in a row, all the while each night we are being intimate, not intercourse, just kissing mostly. On the 3rd ... (506 words)

I feel awful that we had our first fight... what can I do from here?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4590 days ago

28 May 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - I have been seeing my lovely girlfriend for a couple of months and all has been great. She was with a bad guy before and i do treat her well, how she deserves and it's very sweet but she seems to think i am " the perfect guy" . We see each other most days and we are going awa... (545 words)

My fiance says my penis is too small! Is she saying this for attention? Or is she just trying to make me mad?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4590 days ago

28 May 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello everyone I am at my wits end and I know most of you will tell me to move on but I am not looking for reasons to leave my fiancé I am seeking help and advice for my problems My fiancé thinks my penis is too small and thin to give her any type of pleasure and tha... (280 words)

I'm so sick of being punished for something I didnt do! What can I do to prove to my boyfriend I didnt cheat?

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28 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I've never cheated in my entire life. My long lost colleague found me on facebook and ask for my pin for bbm. Since then we where busy chatting. He greeted me by saying hi love once and my bf saw it and now he assume that I'm cheating on him. I've apologized and swear but it ... (120 words)

I cheated once and now I can't get my fiance to stop smothering me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4590 days ago

28 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - When me and my fiancé were dating, I cheated on him. We stayed together several months later we got engaged ad we had a baby. I have a daughter from a previous relationship. My fiancé treats her like she is his own daughter. The only thing is that he acts like he can control ... (126 words)

Is simply being in love enough?

This question has 25 answers - newest was posted 4564 days ago

28 May 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - So I used to date this girl for 3 years , 2 of which were sort of long distance. During that time we had our ups and downs and broke up a few times and always got back together. a few months back we broke up for the last time and she moved back home. Since then we talk h... (310 words)

I'm uneasy dating a man who has kids. I wouldn't be his 1st priority

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4590 days ago

28 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been dating a divorced 40 year old man for 6 weeks. He wants me to commit to him and he is desperately trying to sell the house that he shared with his ex so that he can move on. He has two children. I have never dated anyone with children or a divorcee for tha... (247 words)

Should my husband speak to his sister if she does not like his wife & kids

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4590 days ago

28 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Is it ok to ask my husband to not speak to his sister because she does like or want a relationship with our five kids together? Our five kids range in ages 3~11,all girls,she lives in England we live in the states but he goes back to visit his dad and sister ,did I mention she ... (117 words)

Irritable girlfriend causing problems, and the lack of sex is driving me mad!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4587 days ago

28 May 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I've been with my current girlfriend for almost 18 months. Her periods have usually been light to moderate in the mood swings and hormonal roller coaster. But two issues have come up. 1- When she is away and on her period it is a nightmare. Briefly, the situation is I am at ... (218 words)

What did my boss at the restaurant mean when he said "Clean the shaft too"? Was he hitting on me?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4582 days ago

28 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Maybe it's just wishful thinking but I think my boss was coming on to me a couple of days ago. I work at a restaurant. I'm still kind of new to the place, only a few months in. I was cleaning near the latte machine and one of the spoons was dirty. I ran it under hot water.... (177 words)

I broke up with him in a moment of anger and now I want him back, how do I make him understand I want to make this work?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4588 days ago

28 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi,i was wondering if anyone could help me. Ive been in a long distance relationship for two years now, everything was great, were in love and then one night we got inna fight and after he apoligized to me he starting to be a real *dick over the phone that same night, and then ... (347 words)

Why do people use and lie to someone when they don't love them?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4590 days ago

28 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - How do you get over being used and stop it from happening again? I was really in love with a man for 4 years. I really thought we had a special connection and he seemed equally as passionate, at first, although looking back, he offered to break up before I went to Uni so I ... (585 words)

I'm terrible at reading women.....do you think she likes me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4590 days ago

28 May 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello all you agony aunts, when I'm writing this I'm just trying to figure this all out, and any words of advice or assurance or warning are deeply appreciated. So obviously, there's someone... I've had one class with her all year and sometimes saw her during lunch or breaks ... (333 words)

Online friend devastated that I had boyfriend. He doesn't believe that I care for him but I do. What should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4588 days ago

28 May 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - I have been talking to someone for four years from India. He is younger than me and we talked everyday all day and night. Recently I told him about a guy I was dating here. Now he has totally lost his mind. He tried to kill himself and his friend is sending me messages about ... (190 words)

Is it a positive sign if he "likes" or comments on my facebook?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4591 days ago

28 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - A guy I like quite often 'likes' what I write on Facebook and is really friendly when we see one another. However sometimes he goes days ignoring me on there. Today I posted a photo which was a head and shoulders shot and maybe a little (but not overly) revealing for me. He ... (78 words)

Can I get my medical records changed/updated?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4590 days ago

28 May 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - I went to the doctor's office for an Ingrown toe nail. This is my forth or fifth time there. The problem is when I look at the computer screen, I notice they listed "mild retardation" under my "ongoing medical problem". I am not retarded in any way. I only have a spee... (156 words)

I want to get in touch with this guy from the past but he is an enemy of my friends!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4589 days ago

28 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - There's this guy he used to really like me and was sort of a pysco as I didn't like him as I was young and wanted to explore other people, and we stopped talkin on bad terms, and now iregret it as it seems any other guy that I have got close with has not ever kept up liking me ... (142 words)

Relationship taking a turn for the worst, what do I do!?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4591 days ago

28 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I am really at a loss right now. I have been with my s/o for three years. Im 22 he's 24. The first months were bliss of course but shortly after that the fighting began and...it has never stopped! For three years we have been fighting, making up, breaking up, in love, out of ... (349 words)

It is too soon! How do I tell her I need a break?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4590 days ago

28 May 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - I'm a single father raising two kids, and was in a relationship with there mother for 16 yrs. It ended real bad, anyway the kids are my life, I'm very busy with them on top of working. I have tried to move on and have been dating for about 3 months it's been good, other than ... (130 words)

Am I still I love with my ex? How do I get those old feeling to go away?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4590 days ago

28 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - In the past year I've started seeing a boy that my family and peers looked down upon. They hated his guts. But I loved everything about this guy. He had all the qualities i was looking for. When we met I wasnt looking for love. I stumbled upon him. It must have been fate right? ... (213 words)