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36-40,
anonymous
writes: There is a girl that I have known for about 6 months, and we have been dating for about 4. It hasn't been all perfect, and i have done things that i in a million years never thought i would do. About 2 months, I had a hook up with an ex that ended up us sleeping together. I was under the influence and I know that does not justify anything, and i took full responsibility. I told her a few days later because i didn't have it in me to tell her the next day. Fortunately, I was given another chance and i have been trying to do everything humanly possible to make things right. Although the way i see it, she knows i made a huge mistake and i reassured her that it was a one-time thing. Since then, everything seems to be going just fine until recently. She told me that she still hasn't told her best friends that we are still together. That she needed more time because they wouldn't "understand" why she would be with me after what i did. Also that she told me her and her friends are always used to be single and that she's "semi-single" which draws me to think a lot of thoughts. The reality is, i never formally asked her to be my girlfriend. I have been meaning to ask her for the longest and i was going to ask her but then that incident occurred so i felt asking her just felt out of place. I want to ask her just so she can at least see where i stand, and i want to tell her how i truly feel about her. I want to tell her that she means so much to me and that i would do just about anything for her and to be with her. I'm horrible when expressing feelings are involved, i know i have to do and i want to but every time i try i just think back to what happened, i wonder if i tell her that i love her would she even believe me? i am scared of the possible outcomes. So i guess my question is, how do i go about doing all this? I know she cares about me and it shows but i just feel so lost.
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reader, Keano1357  +, writes (29 May 2012):
Ok, now I have exactly the same problem as yôû mate. I'm genuinely shocking about portraying emotions :/ but honestly, if you did truly love this girl, which it seems yôû do, yôû just have to go for it and tell her face to face! Take her out somewhere nice, have a picnic, go to the country, champagne, ect, sit her down somewhere and tell her all the feelings you have for her! Girls LOOOOVVVEEE it when a guy shows emotions :)
If she forgave you properly she would have the same feelings for you, if not, then she isn't the right girl for yôû!
Honestly, just tell her all the emotions that you feel when you're with her or see her! She'll love yôû for it and if she really does like you she'll feel the same way and you'll make a happy couple :)
Good luck!
Moi xx
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reader, Pretty and proud +, writes (29 May 2012):
 Believe it or not but this works!!!
"will you be my girlfriend"
Honestly my boyfriend asked me, I was 19 and he was 30 and were still together now.
Good luck x
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