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writes:Why does this keep happening? Does love not exist anymore?So my ex boyfriend cheated on me. I thought we were in love. We were on the phone all the time, I knew when he was showering or eating. I thought I knew his whereabouts but I was wrong. He still cheated and continued seeing the girl.Now my friend has been seeing this guy for a few months now. She saw some comments and pictures of another girl who he claimed they're just friends but later told her that the girl is actually his ex. Turns out he's been seeing her too.My other friend has been cheated all throughout her 2 year relationship with her ex.What is going on? Does love not exist or what?Why do guys keep cheating? I just don't understand and they seem to do it to the good girls that would never lie or cheat on them.So why do they do this to us? Why get with someone just to break their heart.I actually think is better to be alone now cause guys can't be trusted.The weirdest thing about all these guys is that they all seem to be the nice, sweet guy that you can trust at first but then they all turn out to be quite the opposite. I just don't understand.This makes me very sad:(
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2012): I agree with pretty much everything janniepeg said. However just because someone has had a rough life doesn't mean they'll cheat and it would be unfair to avoid a relationship for that reason. Everyone has had pain in their life. It is true though that happy people will not go out of their way to hurt others. The meanest people are also the saddest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2012): There are always ways to separate those who cheat from those who are faithful... statistically speaking at least 95% of all males have cheated one or more times in their life. A few hints to those who may cheat, if they always question you about where you been, or get mad when you talk to other girls may be a sign of a cheater, if they hide their phone from you or refuse to let you look through it because you should "trust " them, will mostly cheat,guys that say I love you in a short amount of time in being together, are more than likely capable of cheating..And the way a guy speaks is also a number one clue on if a male would cheat or not, those who speak about, having potential, and their future, and goals will most likely NOT cheat. Its all proven facts... Be careful who you date and give yourself standards, don''t give a guy all of you until he shows that he deserves it, thats the number one way to protect yourself from getting hurt Last but not least, If ever asking a guy what he did the other day, or who he hung out with, or questions of this sort, be sure to ask more than once, but in different ways and at different time periods.. you could start the conversation like, what did you do yesterday, and about 20 to 30 minutes later ask, so where did you go yesterday... or who were you with...and later say and you said you hung out with who again? ..This is a sure fire way to catch a guy cheating... Not all guys are cheaters and liars but just be careful. Remember you cant just start a relationship off on trust, people say love is trust but thats not entirely true, its built on trust. Let him earn it dont just give it to him. ;) be smart!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2012): Sorry, that's life. Many people lie and cheat to get what they want. Try reading some of the questions on this site and you'll see many examples of human garbage.
Try analyzing them better before getting into a relationship. Being picky is safer than the alternative.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (29 May 2012):
 Love and happiness is not a guarantee in life. There are some who are not really ready for a relationship but need sex, some who want to use others for comfort and to fill in the emptiness while missing their exes. Women cheat just as much so men are just as perplexed why. Love is about give and take. There are people who have nothing to give but could turn on the charm to get the other person to give. The ability to get someone to love them is proof that they are attractive, they are valuable in the market, at least on the surface. Deep down inside they are desperate and insecure. Once they get what they want they move on to the next victim. They somehow believe that to give is dangerous, it requires you to be vulnerable and hurt. They become calculative, they decide the only way to survive is to take advantage of people. They think givers are suckers, or even gay, and to take and to be able to manipulate is smart. It's as if it gives them a high to get an innocent person to fall into their traps, to overlook their secrets.
I know it can be hard to distinguish players from real boyfriends because they are all nice at the beginning. I would ask about their childhood backgrounds and their relationship with their family. Usually people with happy, drama free childhoods and healthy parents make good boyfriends.
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