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writes:We were together for two years and known eachother for twenty. The anticipation built up and we didn't even know until we finally got together. We were so in love like nothing imaginable. Going to get married have kids the whole nine. I screwed up and started using drugs for the later half of our relationship not for any specific reason except I made a bad decision and became addicted. She stuck by for ten months and she knew but it went unsaid for a long time. She finally left and it scared me to death so I for sober and pulled my head out of my ass. Now I've become obsessed with her and trying to get her back and she literally hates me. I know how much I love her and know she feels the same but put up a wall from being hurt again. Ive tried everything to leave her be which is what she wants but I can't. My live for her has consumed me and makes me do stupid shit like buy her anything and everything, call, text show up. I've become someone she hates and I only love her. I know just give her space but something inside me wont let her go. I need help for me and need to get her back somehow. She says it's too late but it's never too late . Help
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2012): She's that once in a lifetime chance that doesn't come again. I fight for what I love and I love her more than anything. I went to prison for a long time and she's been my life since I got out. Now she's gone and sinus my life. I've tried everything to let this go but something in me won't. She's the one
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (28 May 2012):
I’m afraid you’re wrong. If she’s told you that there’s no way back, that’s pretty final, and because you can’t let her go, you’re behaviour is pushing her even further away. Ask her one final time, if you need to, whether there’s any way back for you, and what you’d need to do. If she says no, tell her that you can’t deal with the breakup whilst she’s in your life, wish her well and cut contact. Sometimes people can stay friends when a relationship breaks down, but sometimes it’s just too painful. I only advise you to ask her for a final answer because you seem so convinced that you can win her back, but in reality it’s a long shot and you should do so, if anything, more for closure. Maybe you should just accept now that it’s over, but if you can’t, prepare yourself for rejection. You can keep on hoping against hope, refusing to believe her when she says it’s too late, but at some point, for both your sakes, you’ve got to draw a line under it.
I wish you all the very best.
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