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reader, schrorac  +, writes (29 May 2012):
schrorac is verified as being by the original poster of the question just so you know i am 13
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reader, SOShelp  +, writes (29 May 2012):
 Break up with him but make sure you have your reasons ready.
His mum should not treat you any differently to any other pupil. If you don't expect anything different, you shouldn't be treated differently. If she does treat you differently then tell someone because it is unfair for her to interfere with your academic life due to personal reasons.
Understand that if you do break up with your boyfriend it may be hard on him and consequently his family but I'm sure that you know what to do if you ask yourself.
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reader, agneeman  +, writes (29 May 2012):
 Sweet heart, you don't have to explain your reason to any one of us. This sounds exactly like the reasoning of a 13 year old, and that's ok.
If you are cross with him and don't want to be with him, then good bye. You really are perfecttly fine and this is perfectly normal. I don't think it's unreasonable at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2012): You can't actually control who people talk to, it's part of life that when you get older you'll realise there will be people you dislike whom your partner will chat to. Whether this is through their job or through existing friends.
You can't control anyone's actions even if they are boyfriend/girlfriend/husband or wife. No one has the right to try and control someone else and no one has the right to control you. That is not a healthy way to have a relationship with someone.
You need to either let this go and be happy with him and just explain you dont like this person so please dont socialise too much OR you finish with him if you can't accept it's his choice who he will talk to.
Good luck x
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (29 May 2012):
 Well if you have good reason, or even if you don't and still want to break up with him, then break up with him.
His mother is teacher - a professional woman. She is not going to get angry with you or take it out on you - she would risk losing her job.
Just break up with him a kind and respectful way. Treat others the way you would like to be treated.
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reader, schrorac +, writes (28 May 2012):
schrorac is verified as being by the original poster of the questionbut he hasnt talked to her before this and there was a full other story to go along with this
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2012): Your reason for wanting to break up with him is weird. Is that the real and only reason?!
But anyway, if you want to break up with him then just do it. His mother won't hold it against you. You are both young. You're not expected to stay with him for ever and ever, and his mother will know that.
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reader, agneeman +, writes (28 May 2012):
break up with him. tell your mom or dad your concern and if she gets unproffesional about it next year, they will sort her out.
I dont think she will though. You're 13 - 15, and its ok to break up with him for this reason.
you dont HAVE to stay with someone just because some one else might want you to...
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2012): I think that's ridiculous breaking up with someone just because they talk to someone you don't like. He probably doesn't like some of the people you talk to and doesn't react the way you are.
My boyfriend has to talk to his ex-wife often (because of kids) and I'm not going to break up with him about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2012): Quite extreme to have an "enemy" maybe cut him some slack if he's a decent boyfriend and has made one mistake does be really deserve dumping straight away? Maybe explain why you dislike this person and ask him to not get too friendly but be willing to give him another chance? His mum being his teacher won't matter, if the time comes and you want to dump him then go with how you feel. She's a teacher, an adult and a professional and realises at your age her son may have a few relationships with her students and will not be any different to you because of it.
Bes wishes x
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