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writes:There's this guy he used to really like me and was sort of a pysco as I didn't like him as I was young and wanted to explore other people, and we stopped talkin on bad terms, and now iregret it as it seems any other guy that I have got close with has not ever kept up liking me for so long as this boy liked me for 4 years aand the others seem to be nice at first but idiots after a few months i wish to get back into contact as I belive he could be the one ithink.. Thing iss, my close friends and him dnt get on, infact they're enemies, so for me to go speak to him would be frowned upon, and ofcourse ivalue the opinion of my close mates a lot. so what should ido? Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (30 May 2012):
 You can value the opinions of your close mates, and still continue thinking with your own head and make the decisions which feel best for you.
My best friend since childhood is a staunch supporter of the local Marxist - Leninist party, - she is an extremely intelligent person whom I care about and respect greatly . still, the heck I'm going to vote for her party ! Another friend is vegan, I value her as a friend and as a person, yet I am still blissfully enjoying my pork chops.
Really, quandaries like yours should have no reason to exist after 3rd grade .
The problem, if any, seems another one- 4 years ago you thought this guy was a psycho ( pretty strong judgement , isn't it ) . You did not like him, and ended with him in bad terms. It sounds that the main, or only, reason you want to reconnect is not because you have really changed your mind, but because you feel lonely, unlucky in love , and you don't want to risk rejection any more. It sounds, so, the main, or only , thing you like about him... is that he still likes YOU.
Totally not a valid reason enough to reconnect, and to expect good results from it, IMO.
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