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writes:Both me and my partner are on Facebook and before we got together he would always like my statuses and some of my pictures and he also did this to a previous girl he dated.We have been going through a bit of a bad patch and I have noticed he does keep liking and commenting on his friend's wife's statuses and I know they often go out drinking together, although not alone, normally a few others too.He has also been liking and commenting on a younger girl's status too.He has not liked or commented on my statuses as much as before either.Would he be thinking of trading me in for a younger model? Does he have a bit of a crush on one or both women? Just find it strange that he has gone from being full on to almost nothing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2012): I think that may be a bit far fetched lol. I mean I'm guessing he sees u more often than he sees these other people so I don't see why he should feel the need to interact with u on facebook and reality. Facebook is designed to keep in touch and interact with people who live a distance away and u don't see as regularly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2012): Ok... It's facebook? I'f your worried about him "liking" other people's status' pictures ect then I don't know where your relationship must be going, it's a social networking site, I personally have Facebook as well and it's all about the likes just now! People say sarcastic/rude/nice thing and they get over 200 likes for it, that's what facebooks about. If I were you I wouldn't worry to much about the Facebook, but about him going out having a drink, then go with him then you will know nothing's going on. Or just ask him and talk to him about your feeling but snooping about his Facebook and worrying about him going out! Trust me a relationship never works unless you can both be open. X
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (28 May 2012):
 Well maybe it is the final death knell for the relationship...you seem to be stacking up the 'crimes' and that is a sign that in your head, you are justifying the end...and it's healthy to do that.
At least you knew what you were getting into when you met him and found out about his FB 'fetish' shall we say!!
I agree with Aiden...social networking is a whole new world and in my opinion it has opened us all up to inspection, suspicion and mistrust.
What is more important is that you do not become so blinded to someones faults that you end up being used and made to feel second best...you know the guy has a problem, he won't do anything about it and you can't change him so you get to be the one who dumps him...
maybe when he's been dumped by a few more disgruntled FB heroines, he will wake up and smell the coffee...but do we think he will???...
I doubt it!!!
Chin up, tomorrows a new day...places to go and much better people to meet xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you no nonsence Aiden, I have tried the good old fashioned talking and it seems to go in one ear and out the other. He's okay when hes talking about himself!
I think this relationship is coming to its end :-(
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (28 May 2012):
By “liking,” we mean that he clicked a button on a computer screen, something people do all the time without any intension of dating the person whose status they have liked. When will people learn that Facebook is not the real world: it’s a web site. Focus on the real world, fix the problems in your relationship. Ask yourself whether there’s any real evidence that he’s looking elsewhere, not his Facebook activity. It sounds utterly ridiculous that you’ve read so much in to his activities on a social networking site: no, he’s not been messaging other women. No, he’s not posted about being single or declared himself interested in meeting other girls. Ladies and gentlemen of the jury, the evidence of guilt...he clicked the “like” button on his friend’s status.But joking aside, if you really doubt him because of something so trivial and insignificant then it does show you how urgently you need to fix the real problems in your relationship: so spend less time on Facebook, and figure out together what they are and what you’ll do about it. I seem to spend all my Dearcupid time writing to people about the importance of proper communication, that is conversation. This brave new world of social networking replacing conversation’s a curse of the modern age, truly it is.I wish you all the very best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe is actually addicted to Facebook and he normally picks up his next girlfriend on there.
And things in the real world aren't going to well either.
And for the person who said he is not my facebook stalker monkey, funny enough he was before we dated lol.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (28 May 2012):
How is your relationship in the real world doing?...if alls well then I'd say the FB thing needs ignoring.
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reader, grymsoul  +, writes (28 May 2012):
 Your getting a bit clingy there. I always like the statuses of my female friends on facebook. It doesn't mean anything more that a friend liking a status.
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