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writes:Dear Cupids,I am having many issues with my next door neighbour. i seriously dont know what to do!!I am an army family and reported my neighbour for parking in front of my house on the grass. It is forbidden to park here, my grass is destroyed so i have to pay to rectify. My kids are in danger of being run over, the pathway is blocked etci can see how she is angry at me but on Saturday she threatened me, well it was a case of my husband is bigger than yours and your hubby is going to get it and so is your car. i also got informed the next time my kids ball went in her garden it would be popped (very sad). also i'm not allowed to look at her house!Her husband was then on the phone demanding to talki need some quick advice, i keep my music down as she has a baby and never have any parties.i am thinking of mediation with her. My kids have been labelled bad by her and her son tells everyone not to play with my kids. Her son punches my kids in the face, i told him not to in a normal tone then mum started guns blazing at me before i could even tell her i had asked him not to hit my child.My kids are in tears wanting to move house, as am i but hubby is in the army, we have lived here 2 years and still have 3 years left here. She has been here 6 months.ive hardly eaten all weekend and have not been able to sleep. i'm scarred to go out in my own garden/house and dread coming home. im affraid it will affect my job tooam i being civil by taking this to the army and asking for mediation?i feel like the bad guy getting bad mouthed even though she is being unconsiderate.please, please help asap!Thanks guys
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2012): You might want to document every incident like the date and time it happen, something needs to be done very quickly about her son hitting your children. Always keep a pocket recorder in your pocket so you can record this dizzy broad, sounds like she's not all there because her son can get in big trouble putting his hands on someone.
Can you put up a fence?
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reader, Hugh.J +, writes (28 May 2012):
 Even verbal threats are technically an assault, so collect evidence, as much as you can. If the aggressive child is under 10, he cannot be charged with anything - but the parents can! He is still committing an offence, even if he is below the age of criminal responsibility; he just cannot be charged with it in law. However, the parents, if they do nothing to stop him assaulting your son, can be arrested for aiding and abetting a criminal act. If your son sustains injuries, it becomes assault with ABH - Actual Bodily Harm.
If he draws blood, it becomes GBH - Grievous Bodily harm. That is way more serious and could land them in jail.
Go for it, you should not have to tolerate this behaviour.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2012): Hello thanks for the replies so far. I made this post.
We are in military accommodation and yes her hubby is in the army but currently deployed
The matter is very trivial and pathetic to me. I feel silly having to go see someone in the army but I can't talk to her. She won't accept she or her son has done anything wrong
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (28 May 2012):
1 - You don't make clear whether she/her husband is in the army too. If yes, then DO take it to the army as they will take this very seriously.
2 - If not, then call the police and report the son for assaulting your child. Also look into reporting her for trespass. Whilst that's only a civil matter, at the very least the police will have to advise her on it.
3 - DO tell someone in the army anyway. I am aware the army look after their own, and I'd place money on the fact that they'd find some help.
4 - Whilst mediation is a mature idea, please don't be surprised if your neighbour can't be reasoned with. It sounds to me like she has problems in her head.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2012): What an absolute b*$#c!!
I wonder if you can report her to someone in the army? If you can collate evidence of her harressment by filming it on your phone or just recording the speech from your pocket then you could go to the police and build a case to have her evicted. Although I imagine you do anything to avoid the woman!
Her behaviour is disgusting I truly feel for you and your family and I am sorry I don't have more suggestions but if I were I your shoes I would be ringing a contact in the army who deals with housing DAILY to get HER moved - why should you leave? She'll only terrorise new neighbours but exposing her may hopefully have her removed from army housing. You certainly are being civil by thinking of mediation so don't doubt yourself - stay strong. If I were you I would be reporting every little comment and action she makes.
Truly hope something is sorted for you, and quickly! X
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