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Archived questions from: 14 May, 2012 (see latest questions)

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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

What general qualities do women look for in a potential boyfriend?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4600 days ago

14 May 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello all, I want to know that general qualities that women look for in men. I have never seen myself as "boyfriend" material as a lot of other guys. I consider myself massively confident partially due to the anxiety of saying the wrong thing, offending/creeping out wo... (119 words)

Can a man become friends with a woman while already being in a relationship?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4603 days ago

14 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - This is probably a very common question but i'd like to get some answers from both girls and guys perspective. I've been with my bf for 8 months. He's very outgoing, chatty and charming and he loves to meet new people. He happens to be attractive as well which can sometimes can ... (316 words)

Do you reckon this man loves or respects me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4603 days ago

14 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - We have been married for over 10 years and have 2 kids. My husband has always been very cut off from social circles and likes to keep to himself and my lifestyle has changed to match his. We both work full time and I earn more than him which he stated was never an issue. Howe... (361 words)

I wish my girlfriend stuck to her word

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4604 days ago

14 May 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - My girlfriend and I have had problems in the past when she would tell me that she promised that she would see me and I waited and hoped to see her and she always seemed to change plans on me so it made me feel like I was last on the list of things to do I never expected anyt... (90 words)

I have a great Girlfriend but still love my ex-wife

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4601 days ago

14 May 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - I was married to the woman of my dreams and soul-mate for 8 years. We went through a long rough patch and she left. The rough part was a combination of; her daughter left for college, her mother died, we lost most of our savings and assets due to the economy, she was isolated ... (295 words)

Two girls, good friends, If I ask the one I like out, I think I'll upset and annoy the other one!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4604 days ago

14 May 2012 (M)

age 26-29 - Hey, there are these two girls that like me (im not trying to be big-headed or anything) and the problem is that they are good friends and and don't think I could go out with one and not upset and annoy the other and I do like one of them. Any suggestions?... (52 words)

Do we try again or will I only end up hurt all over again?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4604 days ago

14 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear reader, I split up with my partner 5 months ago. We split up due to me not being able to handle is busy work schedule. He worked long hours and we sometimes spent many days and even weeks apart we didnt live together and this wasn't how the relationship fir... (451 words)

My boyfriend is spending his inheritance money and hasn't even bought me a bouquet of flowers!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4603 days ago

14 May 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Ok so my bf and I have dated 2years in which was long distance. Recently he moved in with me. Hes 18 I'm 17. He's originally from were I live. When he was 1 his mom left his dad and moved 4 hours away. So his dad lives here. He's been living with me 2 weeks. He had an ... (212 words)

I feel so disrespected by my husbands family.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4604 days ago

14 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I feel so disrespected by my husbands family. We went on a family vacation with them to the beach and all his mom did was point out women for my husband to look at right in front of my face. She would say, "Oh, look at her bathing suit. She's pretty!" And she does it not just ... (160 words)

I feel so low when my boyfriend talks about other girls

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4604 days ago

14 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I feel so low when my boyfriend talk about other girls, celebrities ect its like he doesnt understand it may bother me, as if hes talking to one of the lads, what he says with the boys is up to him but it really gets me down when he will completely stop a conversation with me ... (138 words)

His 13 year old son is keeping us from being together!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4603 days ago

14 May 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - I've been dating a man my age, who is divorced and has 2 kids. His daughter is 8, and we have no issues. His son is 13, and has issues... one of them being me. He has recently decided that he can't sleep at his mother's house where he lives anymore. He HAS to sleep at Dad's, ... (150 words)

How do I change my relationship insecurities?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4604 days ago

14 May 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - I have conflicting feelings about my boyfriend. We are both 17 and I am his first girlfriend but he isn't my first boyfriend. I have always been faithful but in my first relationship where I thought I was in "love" he betrayed me told my secrets out to everyone, prank called my ... (414 words)

I'm afraid he's going to hurt me and then leave me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4604 days ago

14 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - hey this may sound ridiculous but i need a second opinion or something.. i didn't have a bad childhood i guess, but it wasn't great either. for the majority of it my dad beat my little brother senseless, but hardly ever touched me. he scared me witless though, just on ... (216 words)

Should I go to a sexually charged movie with a male friend?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4603 days ago

14 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - This might seem like a stupid problem, but i'd like some advice. A guy i know ( he's not really a friend, more like an aquaintance ) wants to go to the cinema with me tomorrow, to watch the new American Pie film. The thing is, there are lots of sexual scenes in the American ... (291 words)

My married love won't leave her husband but doesn't want to let go of me either

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4603 days ago

14 May 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - I am involved with a woman that is married and she says she is still madly in love with her husband but yet she says she has fallen in love with me. The chemistry between us started sometime around October 2011 in which she started saying things to catch my eye. We began ... (466 words)

My girlfriend has no interest in sex whatsoever, is it wrong to consider breaking up with her?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4601 days ago

14 May 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - We've been together for 3 years, but this isn't the sort of thing where she gradually became less and less interested in sex... She's just always been pretty non-sexual, at least with me, anyway. We broke up for awhile about a year ago, and she had sex with a guy she dated for ... (359 words)

Husband watches porn then lies about it!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4602 days ago

14 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - What to do with husband lying about porn? Ok so..I'm married and have 2 kids. My husband has been lying to me about watching porn. Now the porn isn't really that big of a problem even though I don't care for it because it makes me feel insecure and like I'm not good eno... (212 words)

I feel like my wife is making more time for her mother than she is for us!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4601 days ago

14 May 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - My wife and I got married in No. of 2011 and recently bought our first house. Life is good. However recently Ive felt that things have changed with her. Im 31, shes 27, weve been together almost 3 years (we met in college but didnt get together till later). After we got ... (646 words)

He grabbed me too hard and I fell over, but he thinks this was ok because some guy was pretending to hump me behind my back. Was it ok for him to do that?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4604 days ago

14 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Apologies in advance for being long winded and thank you for taking the time to read this. I really need some advice. This weekend my boyfriend, and I went to his friend, 'M', BBQ. While he went around talking to his friends, I mostly hung out with this girl who was M's, cou... (568 words)

Fiance has posted pics of himself with his ex and children on Facebook, is this wrong?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4602 days ago

14 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - My Fiancé and I have been together for nearly 2 years, and were recently engaged. We have both been in previous marriages and have children from those relationships. Because my ex and I have had great animosity towards each other and my feelings for him have been negative to ... (387 words)

I get excited by dumping women and crushing them emotionally... what can I do to fix it?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4597 days ago

14 May 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - I'm married and I have a baby. I'm also very happy in my marriage and my wife is good looking etc. Yes, I've gone to prostitutes for a few years now, but only to get a physical release to substitute porn. Though, in recent years I've for some reason don't find this ... (289 words)

He liked a status on facebook saying "I love having no commitments to anyone". Does this mean my boyfriend isnt serious about our relationship?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4568 days ago

14 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Just a quick question- I have a boyfriend, we have been going out for about 4 months and for the most part, everything is great. We're always spending time together, spending the night together and spending time with each others families, seeing each other 3-4 times a week. T... (153 words)

Why wont my best mate move on from his manipulative, lying ex? Is it because he has sex with these girls so quickly that he gets so attached?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4604 days ago

14 May 2012 (M)

age 26-29 - My best mate 'K' is 17 -- hes had quite a lot of girlfriends (longest lasting 2 months), had sex with 3 and been sexual since probably around 13 (when he lost his virginity). I'm the kind of guy that wants a longterm relationship and i think K does too, but he goes for the ... (474 words)

What should I wear for the first date?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4603 days ago

14 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone I recently asked a question of how often you saw a fwb and how they treated you and got some great answers now I have ended the fwb as I realised how badly he treated me so now I have another question I have a date a week on saturday and was just wondering what I ... (66 words)

Is it too soon to start thinking long term?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4604 days ago

14 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - hi. i been single for 6 n half months, split with my ex of four yrs after i had enough of his alcohol problems and lies! been on a few dates and wasn't impressed, but the moment i decided to give up on dating i meet this wonderful man! i feel so connected with him and his ... (112 words)

Husband has lied in the past so am I wrong in not trusting him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4604 days ago

14 May 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - my husband went out of town officially and met an old female batchmate after years. he invited her for dinner as she wanted to meet another male friend. all three are married now. but i felt bad as i was informed only after they all met at venue. my husband had lied to me about ... (68 words)

Even after she cheated on me I still love her. should I let her go?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4604 days ago

14 May 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - I hav been dating this girl for 6yrs nw.I luv her to a fault,more than i luv myself.Lately,she got pregnant 4 me bt had a miscarriage,we've been tryin 2 get another one.unfortunately,i got 2 know that she was havin an affair with her best friend's boyfriend n went to the extent ... (165 words)

How can I know is my husband cheating on me?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4548 days ago

14 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - How can I know is my husband cheating on me? Some advices, hints? I don't have money for a private investigator, though that would be the only thing that could pacify me. I feel something is going on, but he is too clever to leave the 'proofs'. What to do?... (50 words)

I'm a 20 year old virgin...is that a turn off?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4567 days ago

14 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm 20 years old and I'm in college. I've never had sex because I've never had a boyfriend and never wanted to sleep with random guys. No one ever believes me when I tell them I've never had sex mainly because I go out/party/drink a lot and occasionally make out with guys ( ... (136 words)

I suffer from fear of having sex, help?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4271 days ago

14 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I am fortunate enough to be a young female starting my third year of college, and I'm currently in a relationship with someone who I truly care about. Not only do I love and trust my boyfriend more than anything, but he has also been my best friend for years. We know ... (250 words)

I'm over men. How can I stop wanting a man in my life ever again?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4604 days ago

14 May 2012 (F)

age - Hello I wrote a few days back about wanting to give up on having a man in my life and just want to say that no one seemed to understand what I was asking for help on. I don't want to date any man anymore for the rest of my life. I want to know how to stop the thought of n... (93 words)

How to discourage use of addictive pills my boyfriend is taking to give himself a high?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4603 days ago

14 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend (just started dating but have known him for many many years) recently revealed that he takes pills for the high occasionally. I don't know what occasionally means and I didn't ask specifics since I was so shocked and disappointed. I told him it worried me but he r... (193 words)

What do I do because I still have a crush on her?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4602 days ago

14 May 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - There's this girl who i knew for a while and never talked to. a year later i started talking to her and we would hangout with friends together and such. i had various chances to kiss her and stuff and i could tell she liked me but i never made a move now its been about a year... (162 words)

When I was reluctant to de-flower her she seemed to turn off me. I love her. What do I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4593 days ago

14 May 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - i love this girl...we met online and started dating for over one year... i told her everything about myself on how i left my rich and balanced family to live in a tough place, because of the problem i have with my dad... she accepted me. Then one day i asked her to visit me bec... (198 words)

How can I be more romantic?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4604 days ago

14 May 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Hey this question is directed at girls mostly but if any guys have tips dont be affraid to give advice. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for over a year now and im tottally crazy about her. Not many problems in our relationship but i would like to be more romantic. I am ... (80 words)

Sagittarian Dragon and Leo Rat: A Crush Story. Has anyone ever been in a slightly similar situation?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4478 days ago

14 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Has anyone ever experienced an attraction to another person that has gone on for years, and no matter how hard you try, the chemistry between you and this person never goes away. So here's my crushing issue...without giving too many details...I met this guy about 5 years ag... (879 words)

I managed to convince a guy I fancy that I'm easy but now I need the skills to back it up

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4604 days ago

14 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I moved about 9 months ago and there's this guy "Sam" back home. My friend and I tricked him into thinking I'm a slut and he likes me better now. I told him when I get home I'd make out with him and give him a hand job. The thing is, I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT I AM DOING! Please... (137 words)

I'm twenty and I want to try a short-term relationship with a 56yr old man. Any advice?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4603 days ago

14 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Got a crush on a 56yr old man. I know theres no long term potential and I know its not smart to get involved. But I feel weak. i like him a lot and I know he likes me too. would it be ok to have a short-tetm relationship with him? I dont like the idea of fwb, I honestly want to ... (134 words)

As a person, she IS my dream girl...but sexually, the attraction is minimal. What can I do?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4600 days ago

14 May 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I don't find my girlfriend that attractive, but I am overwhelmingly happy with who she is as a person. What do I do? My girlfriend and I kind of stumbled into dating each other. We met at a party one night and ended up drunkly hooking up (having sex, just to be clear). We we... (264 words)

Should I stick it out a little longer or just cut him loose?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4604 days ago

14 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm out with a guy for 7 months. In the beginning he would asked me out frequently and soon the outing would stop at about 3 months. I know he's doing that to get to know me first, get comfortable with me and when he reach that comfort zone, he doesn't want to go out anymore ... (417 words)

I need some outside perspective

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4604 days ago

14 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi aunts and uncles. In advance, I'd like you to know I don't want to be judged harshly for this post. I'm going through something personal and I literally have no idea what to do. I've weighed the pros and cons and I still don't know. Anyway, I've been in a decent relationship ... (492 words)

Should I share this dark secret with my boyfriend?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4598 days ago

14 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been dating for about six months, and have a great relationship. However, I feel like a fraud... he tells me that everything about me is beautiful, and I feel ugly and empty inside. He thinks I'm beautiful and he loves me, but only because he doesn't ... (436 words)

Should I give it another go with him or just end things?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4604 days ago

14 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Ive been seeing someone for over 3 months now. At the beggining everything was great and couldn't be happier. Recently his ex girlfriend who he has a baby with has been getting involved. Threatening me and saying she will always get him back because he loves her. Last week we ... (328 words)