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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Did he lie to me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey, I am 22 and i recently had sex with my boyfriend who I have been dating for 3 years. He suggested it and we had a chat about it we agreed it would be fine and BLA BLA! But today he came back from work 5 hours late and told me he was at his friends house having a coffee!!... (124 words)

My friends with benefits is jealous, what should I do?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4615 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi I could really do with some good honest answers regarding this I have been sleeping with a man for a few months now we are not together as a couple I told him I would like us to be but he said he didn't want a relationship I went out at the weekend and I met a man who gave ... (114 words)

This guy has a girlfriend,Is it bad that I have feelings for this guy?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4616 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Early in February, I was seeing a man who is about 8 years my senior and I like him a lot. We hit it off very well. I felt that we were on a road to a relationship. I guess he was thinking otherwise. We were seeing each other for almost a month and were intimate as well. One ... (366 words)

Will I have to by our house alone?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4616 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi every one. I'm dating a guy that I love so much my problem is that my in laws don't love me reason being which is I don't know of. He earns less than me and we about to buy a house and I'm scared if I'm going to be the one who is going to pay it alone cause he always c... (75 words)

His inlaws hate me, should I buy a house with him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4617 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

He cums on me, but he won't pee on me and he's says not comfortable doing it...what's the difference?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4610 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, This is quite a random question, and I guess some people will find it weird and maybe disgusting too but... My boyfriend loves to cum on my breasts and I love this as well, but one thing I would really like him to do (sometime/long time in the future) is pee on me. He's ... (162 words)

Do I give it a go with this older guy? Or just say no?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi, So I dated a guy about 3 years back. I knew him through his brother. We started talking a lot on Facebook and there was a connection. He's older by 15 years which didn't bother me as we got along and we had fun. We dated for about a year. Feelings were developing and y... (375 words)

Guys & kissing..likes and dislikes?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4616 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Guys can you answer a few questions about kissing, do you like when girls use tongue or no tongue when they kiss you? Where do you like their hands to be, on your chest, arms, waist, back of your neck etc.? Also, do you like when a girl bites your lip as she pulls away... (130 words)

How do I flirt with my ex to win him over?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Now I have realised that I want to get back with my ex after two years, however I don't know how he feels about me, over the past few months we have been talking everyday over texts and we see each other regularly as we both swim for the same club, however when I talk to him ... (134 words)

I lied in front of my friends and said I wasn't a virgin, but I am and I'm afraid they'll find out!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4589 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - i have a massive problem, that could screw me up and lose my best friends and the guy if i tell the truth!! I'm going out with this guy, we're getting closer and i can feel it's leading somewhere.. thing is i haven't had sex before, but i don't want to tell him incase he ... (305 words)

Is it a common opinon when women are in a bar, that they are there to pick up men?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4615 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Bars are only for picking up? I just wanted some opinions on this. We are a groupof women all ages from 29 to 46 who like to get together for some drinks and dancing. Ussualy its 4-5 of us getting together once a month. We pick a place,where they have nice music, nice crow... (372 words)

I've grown up but my boyfriend of 6.5 years hasn't!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4616 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi I just wanted to get someones opinion about my relationship... I have being with my man for 6 and half year we got together when I was 15 and he was 20.. Since then I have grown up a lot and he doesn't seem to want to grow up.. In terms of jobs he doesn't show interest... (170 words)

Why doesn't my LDR b/f ever try to talk to me or cheer me up?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - i am in a long distance relationship with a man who isnt working and does his own business.but i call him everyday. sometimes i feell low and need him to uplift me or atleast chat to me when i call but i talk and he doesnt say much. sometimes i wanna talk coz i had a bad day ... (155 words)

Would writting a letter to a guy you like be considered doing too much?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Would writting a letter to a guy you like be considered doing too much? The guy I have liked is moving away and I want to give him a letter expressing my wishes for him, but I'm have some doubts about doing that. I was also thinking of including a mix cd of his favorite band. ... (84 words)

Are they real friends or are they telling me I don't belong in their group?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - i have these friends that i have known since university. Some of them have gotten married and some who are single. everytime they have problems in their relationships, hardships at work or they just need a friend i am always there. i answer the phone even if its in the middle ... (164 words)

My boyfriend smokes weed and I don't know what to do...

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4616 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Me and my boyfriend have been in a relationship for just over 2 years now. He lives 2 hours away from me and we have had a generally good long distance relationship. He smoked cigarettes and weed when we started to get close, I told him I wasn't interested in being with someone ... (331 words)

I've liked her for 3 years. Should I tell her of my feelings? Or back off?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

1 May 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I like this girl in college..She was dating a guy for 4 years..I have known her for the last 3 years..Recently they broke up and she started dating another guy..Should i go and tell her my feelings or should i like a gentle man back off and let them live happily??... (51 words)

My live-in BF has never once in the whole 2+years touched me in a sexual manner!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4588 days ago

1 May 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and 3 months, in the beginning it was good, he would hold me and kiss me and say loving things to me, he moved in with me after three months and then things started changing. He became less affectionate and well, since that... (327 words)

He told me that he liked me, then started ignoring me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4615 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - I became friends with a boy in my year at school. He was so lovely and sweet to me. Every time he was me he would give me a hug, make sure I was okay and always called me 'his'. I think I was making it obvious but I wasn't sure if he knew that I liked him. We used to text all ... (209 words)

Why would he pursue our relationship and then end it the way he did?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone, just looking for a bit of advice, male perspective might be good on this one too! I'm really struggling to get over my ex. We broke up six months ago but were friends first and shared a flat before having a relationship, though we were always close. I initiated us ... (422 words)

I ended things with my b/f because I thought his friend like me but now don't know where I stand with him

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4617 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Okay, this should be a tad confusing but stick with me as it will play out in the end. I started dating this guy about two months ago. I started hanging out with him and his other friends. Don't think horribly about me but I started liking one of the guys. Once I figured t... (476 words)

I'm not sure if my ex will ever understand why I broke up with him

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4616 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 months. My parents are super strict and dont like that I'm dating him because he's not in school but I'm 19 and I like this kid alot. I want to be with him hut he's upset that I'm not telling my parents because he feels like I don't ... (279 words)

I've done sexual acts on the webcam and I'm worried he might blackmail me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm 19 this year, never had a boyfriend, never had sexual intercourse before. I have felt lonely for many years. Having been involved in zero relationships my entire life, I sometimes find it hard to suppress my sexual desires. I turn to masturbation but sometimes, its never ... (345 words)

I'm dating a detatched guy but I need him to give me more!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4615 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I am in a relationship with a really detached guy for about a year now. I keep hoping he'll make more of an effort to open up to me but he still hasn't. He always says he'll make an effort to open up but he doesn't. He's never fully opened up to anyone ever before and I have no ... (183 words)

Can guys fall in love through casual sex or is it mostly women it happens to??

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I'd like to know people's views on this. When a guy and a girl have casual sex, can the guy develop strong feelings for the girl or do all guy see casual sex to be separate from emotions? Basically if a guy already likes you and you have sex very early like first, secon... (74 words)

Did I have a chance with him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - So I liked this guy that I have known for 11 years and have had a crush on him for a years. After I told him I liked him he started talking to me and flirting, We text every day and he's sweet but recently I confessed to him that I don't want him to play with my feelings or ... (124 words)

How should I interpret our relationship?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone I was just wondering what you people think of this I met a man 14 months ago we have slept together ever since we have agreed not to sleep with anyone else me or him which we are both happy with we see each other a couple of times fortnight sometimes we just cuddle ... (152 words)

Is it normal to be with someone 24/7?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4616 days ago

1 May 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - My sister is dating this guy and he moved in with her about 6 months ago. they have been together 13 months. they are getting married in 1 week. my problem is this: He goes everywhere with her. he doesnt work nor does she. she goes to school. but he has to be with her ... (104 words)

Should I wing it for my first time?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4614 days ago

1 May 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I am a 21 kiss less virgin (For an idea on my looks, I am a Mixed Martial Artist (so, fit), 65kg, 5,11. And my face is average if not better). I have met this girl online (she is 25) and she is really into me, but I haven't said I have never even kissed a girl... she assu... (110 words)

How do I convince him to come back to me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4617 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - dear friend, i have been for a 5 months with my boyriend, but suddenly happend something that i didnt like to, but situation was that way, i loved him , also he , but always had a doubt in it with no reason only from my mind he always told me trust me I love you more than any ... (643 words)

How does one live with such volatility? Should I try to live with such volatility?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

1 May 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - Two years ago I feel head over heels in love with an employee of mine. I don't know how it happened, but it did. I have lived with her for 18 months. The passion is out of this world. I mean HOLY-SHIT-BLOW-THE-ROOF-OFF-THE-HOUSE-WOW! I've never experienced anything like ... (538 words)

New at dating and I have no idea what to do, give him space or move on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

1 May 2012 (?) age 36-40 - Well, I'm a 27 year f who met this guy (33) online initially on MS...and later added him to FB after a couple of months or should I say years (his first message to me from MS was back in 2009) of me ignoring him. I was in a relationship at the time and wasn't interested. ... (1204 words)

Is a bondage/domination fetish embarrassing?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4616 days ago

1 May 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I have kept my kinks under wraps for a few years and since breaking up with my girlfriend, I wanted a fresh view. I have been worried that women would be put off by my kinks because they do not match the friendly, kind personality I have. I guess I thought they would assum... (131 words)

Is it possible for my boyfriend and I to love each other but have no sexual chemistry?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4616 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Is it possible for my bf and I to love each other but have no sexual chemistry? We have been dating for three months and we love each other very much. We have a healthy realtionship in every aspect except the bed. Its either he cant get an erecetion or he cant climax.W... (110 words)

Why am I feeling so negative about him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - hi everyone.i've been with my boyfriend for a little over 2 years now.we love each other and plan to get married once we both are settled in our careers and are of marriageable age.we both have had pasts..and he wasn't really "in love" before me, he says.which seems to be ... (514 words)

We have decided not to have sex, what else can we do to spice things up?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

1 May 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - Me and my girlfriend have 'agreed' not to have sex yet, but we pretty much do other things. This weekend we simulated things, she used the tip of my penis to stimulate her clitoris, i had my boxers on, she had her pants off. I also think she has a very sensitive clitori... (171 words)

Why do married men look at other women?

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 4450 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - why do married men look at other women? I have a husband who does this and I'm so upset about it. I don't look at other men because I'm happily married with the man I'm with. He tells me I'm beautiful, sexy, bodacious, the whole nine yards, but when we go places he looks at ... (186 words)

B/f has way too many lady friends and its making me jealous and insecure!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - before he got with me, my boyfriend was considered to be quite the ladies man. he had a number of girlfriends, and had more girls as friends than boys. he would often meet up with his girl mates, even when in relationships, and endlessly flirt with them and be cheeky. he has ... (323 words)

My b/f wants sex too much but I don't want to lose him!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4617 days ago

1 May 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - Dear cupid,I am female between 26 and 30 I love my boyfrnd I want him 2 be happy the thing is he want 2mutch sex I don't, what must I do pls help I don't want to lose him ... (39 words)

What makes you stay or leave in a relationship?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi all, what makes you want to stay or leave in a relationship? Do you do pros and cons? I am at crossroads. I do not feel my newly live in boyfriend is pulling his weight in this relationship. I do not feel appreciated as much as I should be. I talked calmly to him, fought w... (124 words)

I think he is using this Christian lady to make me believe he has changed. Surely only counselling with help him, not God?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Master of malipulation or genuine guy who realises what he s lost? My ex and i parted about 6 mths ago,it was a hard relationship. We had children but it was never offical. He had committment issues. And had caused me hurt over the yrs with lies, hanging around with ex ... (337 words)

Why does this happen and what does it mean?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - sometimes or very often i use to tighten my thighs strongly and feel contraction and relaxation at my vagina i feel relax after that i do not know why it happens and what it mean???can you guide me...remember i am 18 years old.thankyou... (43 words)

Thinking of leaving because he is chosing porn over sex with me, but I'm worried about hurting our daughter. What should I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4615 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Can someone help me, I've been with my fiancée for 2 years and we have a beautiful daughter together. We've been planning to get hitched next month and now I don't want to. When we first met everything was brill we had an amazing sex life. From the time I got pregnant things ... (290 words)

Had a fling with a married man on holiday and now I cant forget him! What should I do?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4615 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I went on a holiday recently and there I found myself attracted to the driver of the car that was escorting us around. Things took a strange turn one evening. It was raining and we were alone by a river. It was bitterly cold and I was shivering. He offered me his coat while ... (436 words)

To date or not to date? To love or not to love?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - I haven't fallen in love yet. I'm only sixteen, still a baby, but that doesn't stop me from wanting it so badly. As I walk in the hallways of school, or walk around malls, I cannot help but think, "Will he be in this room?" ; a clean slate, they don't know me and I don't know... (803 words)

Will penetration hurt?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I finger myself and i wanna know if when i have sex it will hurt. I mean i finger and it doesn't hurt, so will penetration hurt? ... (31 words)

He said he didnt want a girlfriend but he still hits on me, how do I deal with this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - I am 14 years old and I have only been in 1 month long relationship. I like this guy and he used to like me. A while ago he suddenly changed his mind and I still love him as much as i did before. He hits on me and has been since we met and we have had moments. I'm not sure how ... (81 words)

My co-worker who I was attracted to uses me for her own benefit and I've had enough! How do I deal with her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4617 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - A bit distressed about a situation I got myself in. I'm lesbian and was attracted to this bisexual woman bc of her outward beauty....knowing her now she's spoiled, selfish, and irresponsible. I never intended to date her, just get to know her. I've taken her to work, took her ... (236 words)

I'm gay and I like my best male friend. How should I address this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

1 May 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm a gay man and I'm in love with my best friend (male.) He's a pretty masculine guy by the way. When I first got to know him, he seemed pretty anti-gay and homophobic, but as time went on, he gave me signals that made me think otherwise. After 3 or 4 months it was ev... (342 words)

Why can't I focus on sex?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm having an issue focusing during sex with my boyfriend. Whenever we're apart, I'm dying for sex but then we're together and I can't seem to clear my mind enough to actually enjoy it. He tries to hold out long enough for me to get off, but then having sex for a long time ends ... (69 words)

My boyfriend squeezed a girl's breasts!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4610 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Dear Cupid, I've been dating my boyfriend since Febraury 14th :). It's been 77 days, but the thing is while spring break which was 3 weeks ago. People dared him to sqeeze a girls breats, and he did.. He always flirt in my school. Im a little tired of it, but dont really k... (113 words)

I'm confused by my ex boyfriend's behaviour. What does he want?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm confused about my ex boyfriends behaviour. We were one anothers first loves and were together little over 2 years. We broke up as he cheated on me. Anyway, 2 years down the line he is still talking to me every week, calling me, ringing me. He tells me he loves me a l... (227 words)

Would you say I'm bi? Confused? Gay?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4612 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello, I am nealy 20 years old. For the last 2 years I haven't been very sexually active (3 partners, which I have only been with once). Anyway, my reason being is I find the thought of sleeping with men quite disgusting, it hurts me physically, I don't trust men and just ult... (187 words)

How can a person love another for so many years without changing or cheating or wanting something else?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4616 days ago

1 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - It is a long post, I hope you could be patient about me... any opinion would be appreciated!!! Recently I just got out of a horrible relationship of 3 years, I actually feel relieved and alive, although I feel unhappy for having to say goodbye to a person I once deeply love... (1522 words)

Is it true men love stockings and suspenders?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4617 days ago

1 May 2012 (F) age 36-40 - Hi everyone I just need to ask a quick question I am planning on surprising my boyfriend. Is it true that men love stockings and suspenders? I just need some answers as I am unsure whether he would like it or not thank you ... (44 words)