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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I take class and teach ESL at the same university abroad. My peers/classmates are also my students. Where do I draw the line?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4612 days ago

3 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm 22 and teaching ESL (English as a second language) at a university abroad. At the same university, I'm also taking a class. After class, I hung out with my classmates who are also my friends. Later I found that they're taking the English class I'm teaching! I'm a teac... (80 words)

Is he playing ping-pong on Facebook with me? Shall I unfriend him again for ignoring me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4614 days ago

3 May 2012 (?) age 41-50 - long story, I added him on FB, he accpeted, then I unfriended him because I felt I needed to move on and my online "crush" wasn't going any where, so he sent me a text asking me, 'why I unfriended' him and asking me to stay in touch. I didn't for a long while. At Christ... (147 words)

Why did my girlfriend suddenly break up with me and how do I deal with it?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4614 days ago

3 May 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - My girlfriend suddenly broke up with me (and started the process of moving out) this past Saturday. We had been dating for about 7 months. We had taken a wonderful trip the weekend before and had a nice week together prior to Sat. I started dating her a couple of weeks after ... (176 words)

How do I get over knowing I'm attracted to him and he may be attracted to me? I keep thinking what if he had been single.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4613 days ago

3 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I ran into an old boyfriend of mine in highschool I broke up with him because we were young and just not ready it's been some years he is now married for 2 years she has cheated on him and he is not sure if he is staying with her or not she is really young and they rushed into ... (346 words)

He hasn't told his daughters about our engagement, and I'm getting nervous.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4613 days ago

3 May 2012 (F)

age - My husband passed away 4 yrs. ago. I started to date a man 2 yrs. ago and we have enjoyed each other alot. We travel and go out alot. My question is he told me he wants to marry me and in that excitement we told my son and daughter and my sister and my mother that we were ... (144 words)

How do I address this question with my FWB without making him jealous?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4614 days ago

3 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi I am in a bit of a difficult situation and would really appreciate any advice you people can offer I am in a fwb I thought we were together properly for a few months but he told me he didn't want a girlfriend so I evetually got my head around that and now it is just sex but ... (197 words)

Is this a crush? How do I stop thinking about him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4615 days ago

3 May 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - There's this guy I know. He's my best friends brothers friend. I'm always complaining about him to her, and I'm thinking about him all the time. My best friend is saying that I have a crush on him? It's not fair. It really hurts thinking about him all the time. Two ... (71 words)

I told my best friend I love her, and now she doesn't speak to me.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4609 days ago

3 May 2012 (M)

age 26-29 - Hello, im a guy whos 16, and had a very close relationship with a friend who was a girl. We were really close, and as we grew closer, i started to like her in a different way, so i tell her how I feel. She says that our friendship was too great to risk a relationship. However ... (204 words)

What should I think about this comment by my wife?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4614 days ago

3 May 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - So, during a conversation with my wife, she said to me that she has times when she doesn't want to love me, she wants to hate me, and does. That actually hurt me a little, but then she became really uptight when i told her i was hurt by her comment, and said to me sorry in... (143 words)

How can I show him that I can be responsible for a relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4609 days ago

3 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend of 16 months broke up with me march 15th we still talk cause we have 9 month old. our relationship wasn't the best. he basically had to do everything like pick were we went what we done. where we ate. doing all the driving like when he wanted me to drive i wouldnt. ... (162 words)

Married to a distant, abusive man and I'm desperate to be touched and loved and I'm wondering about how it would be with this man!

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 2602 days ago

3 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Confused! I am 33 years old, been with my husband for 12 years- married for 5 years-no children. Our marriage is not good-we have not had sex for almost a year and before that is was twice a years-continually got less and less throughout the years. He always pushing me away ... (375 words)

I'm in love with a 50 year old, he wants to marry me, but how do I tell my mum?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4594 days ago

3 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Am a young lady who is 20 years of age i meet a guy who is 50 years of age he have two kids ,we have being together for few month and i really love this guy ,he want us to get married , and i don't no how to brake the news to my parents what should i do ?... (61 words)

Should I just step out into that arena and find people to fulfill my physical yearnings?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4614 days ago

3 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been broken up from my ex for a few months and I feel better about the fact that he cheated on me with one of my best friends. Our friendship will probably never return. Needless to say I am single and navigating through the muck of losers is unappealing. With my ex we had ... (141 words)

Which type of piercing would help me out?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4607 days ago

3 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello! I am considering getting my clit pierced. I don't have orgasms very easily and at times need an industrial vibrator assaulting it to bring me close to a marginal release. I want the piercing to help improve stimulation and improve my sex life. I read of the different ... (111 words)

I'm sick of being socially awkward!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3451 days ago

3 May 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - i get so angry with myself and beat myself up all the time about being socially awkward. I try my best not to be awkward at work but i just cant seem to help it. I'm 25 and have been alone and terribly introvert throughout my life. i can count the number of people i know,th... (557 words)

Ex wants someone who looks like me - is she still hung up on me?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4615 days ago

3 May 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - I signed up to an online dating agency and saw an ex of mine on there. We broke up 3 years ago but she had described me as her ideal date! Right down to body type, hair and eye colour, personality traits Do you think she might just have a type or is she still hung up on me?... (60 words)

I don't want to date him if he's dating my friend!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4615 days ago

3 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - What if he's done something with my friend? I'm starting to like him.? There's this girl I met at my gym a few months ago. We hit it off. She's a nice girl and I like her. We have so much in common. Anyway, there's this guy who works there. She says she chats to him... (312 words)

Would you find it hard to stay friends with your ex if he met someone else?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4613 days ago

3 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi, When we met a year ago, my boyfriend was very close to an ex girlfriend (they had been broken up a few years but stayed good friends) They stayed in contact for the first few months we were together but then she stopped getting in touch with him completely. M... (103 words)

41 and the get up and go is gone!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4615 days ago

3 May 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - im a 41 year old male and have lost most of my sex drive what is wrong with me?... (19 words)

I've liked him for 5 years, we live in different states and now he has a g/f. Give up?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4615 days ago

3 May 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Ok, i fell in love with this guy 5 years ago and i still feel the same for him. But i moved to another state 5 years ago. We have been sending cute emails to each other over facebook, but now he has a girlfreind. But i dont feel bad for that i acually wish him the best. But i ... (76 words)

Help majour zit break out!!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4549 days ago

3 May 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Hey I'm having really bad problems with my skin at the moment I've tried everything products for shops, I have been prescribed 3 medications from my doctor and the one I am currently on take 3 months to start to work I am startsing to worry that these red marks are lingering ... (105 words)

I'm living with my boyfriend's family and I'm attracted to his brother!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4614 days ago

3 May 2012 (?) age 30-35 - Ummm ok I've been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years and I've lived with him and his family for 4. We have a 3 year old daughter together. I know it's wrong but over the years I started to like his younger brother he is amazing !! I've always noticed him looking at me and we ... (117 words)

If your boyfriend did this for you, would you like it?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4615 days ago

3 May 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - Ok... well please bear in mind that my girlfriend has only ever been with jerks. For some reason she thinks im too good for her, when in reality its the other way around. She had only ever gone to the cinema really and she would have to pay for her ex bf. so you get the ... (234 words)

How would my taking drugs affect my unborn child?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4615 days ago

3 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - MOD NOTE: This is being posted but you REALLY need to talk to a health professional. We are not doctors on DC. I was two weeks late for my period so I took a pregnancy test today and found out I am pregnant. About 3 weeks ago I went out with my friend and tried some cocai... (181 words)

My ex boyfriend and his mixed signals

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4615 days ago

3 May 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - My ex best friend whom i love (and i assume is either gay or bi because we flirted with each other about love etc) has broken up with me. It's been a while and i'm past the miserable days of crying over him. I still emo over him sometimes but i'm a lot better now. I notice... (251 words)

Colleague too close to my boyfriend

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4615 days ago

3 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - hi everyone! so here it is,i have a boy friend ,we're together since 1year,we love each other very much,but he got a colleague,she's too close to him,she tells him everything about her personal life especially with her boyfriend,like "he doesn't express his feeling for her,... (236 words)

Recently she has started spending all her spare time with her friends and never makes time for me!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4615 days ago

3 May 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - So me and my girlfriend have been together for 2 1/2 years about now and for the most part everything is perfect, we love each other to death, we plan on buying a house soon together and I plan on proposing within the next 6 months. Theres just one little hitch in the road ... (486 words)

Would you learn a different language to be with someone?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4615 days ago

3 May 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - Here's the story. There's this girl that works with me. Before last week I never talked to her before. I would catch her looking at me from time to time. Always staring at me when she thought I wasn't looking. Most of the times I didn't know what to make of her actions. I ... (355 words)

It gets too sensitive and I have to stop, help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4615 days ago

3 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone this is the problem everytime I have sex or use a vibrator I cannot orgasm I get really close to it but I just get to sensitive and I have to stop what can I do to get past this so I do have an orgasm thank you ... (50 words)

The lack of communication is driving me insane!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4613 days ago

3 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm dating a 3rd year resident ophthalmologist long distance. When we're together everything makes sense. We love each other and he even admitted to being in love with me but the moment we we separate he only texts like once a week. sometimes he disappears during text messages ... (111 words)

I need advice on how to stop this attraction.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4615 days ago

3 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I need help. I'm a gay woman in a long term relationship with my partner. I love her and we have a future together. We have our arguments like all couples but we cope. Recently she was diagnosed with depression. Its been coming for sometime as I've noticed a change in her.... (590 words)

I prefer slightly older men, so should I wait for this high school boy?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4615 days ago

3 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - At this point of my life, I'm dealing with a problem I could've never thought I would be dealing with. I was always, but ALWAYS attracted to older men. Not significantly older, we're talking about up to 5 years older. And that worked. But as of recently, I found myself in ... (224 words)

I wrote her a letter and I would like her decision. Or am I wasting my time with her?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4615 days ago

3 May 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi, about four months ago, I asked a girl out and we ended up going on three dates; but after the third, she started acting a little weird by trying to zone me out. And then when I asked her why, she said she was sorry and didn't feel too comfortable with how I treated her (I w... (364 words)

How can I learn to adjust to a LDR after enjoying a 24/7 relationship in the past?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4616 days ago

3 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Starting an LDR soon, and I don't know how to handle it! My significant other (SO) has had over a year to adjust and cope with it, while (for whatever reason) I put it out of my mind, and haven't completely accepted it. I'm really nervous, we've been together 2 years and will... (131 words)

He spent the night and had sex with me. Now nothing! How should I act when I see him next?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4615 days ago

3 May 2012 (F)

age - I'll try to be brief : he was very interested came on strong said all the right things / I made him wait / so now that we spent a night together and sex // haven't heard anything from him !! It hurts and I need to know how to get past it and how to act when I see him / we s... (97 words)

We don't like C. Should we invite everyone and just let C's bf tag along?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4615 days ago

3 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My three best friends (A, B, and C), and I are planning a graduation Europe trip. We are considering inviting our boyfriends as well as we are all very close and it would be very fun! However, none of us including the guys, can stand C's boyfriend! None of us know what sh... (135 words)

I cheated for 10 years. Is our relationship going to get better?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4599 days ago

3 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I am really baffled. See I cheated on my boyfriend over 10 years ago. This man I cheated on him with was well in doubt. Now since I finally came clean about all the sexual experiences I have ever had that I can honestly admit to. Now it's like our relationship is one in the s... (154 words)

My boyfriend has been accepted to University and that means moving away. How do I cope while he is away?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4615 days ago

3 May 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend is very, very clever. It's one of the main things that attracted to me to him. He's majoring in Mathematics and he got accepted to XYZ University yesterday. He is in his 3rd year. he knows a professor there apparently (put in a good word) and showed him some of ... (221 words)

I'm happily married now. So why does my ex go to such lengths to remind me he is not a jerk now?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4615 days ago

3 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I am have been happily married for 4 years now and have a two year old little boy. Recently an ex messaged me through facebook. He was a major jerk and hurt me pretty bad while we were dating. That's why I broke up and never spoke to the dude again. However he found me and... (215 words)

My B/f lied to me for 3 years telling me that we could be together, when he didn't mean any of it!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4615 days ago

3 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - So heres my story 4 years ago i started dating this guy who i left my husband for. We have known each other for about 10 years and he was my best friend. He just got out of a relationship and we started dating and i left my husband. I also have a 5 year old that basicall... (450 words)

I feel like I've been cheated out of a happily ever after

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4613 days ago

3 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I am a very devoted wife. I cook daily for my husband, try to have sex with him daily, I even surprise my husband with lingerie, or cleaning house in the nude, but he never takes interest. When my husband and I dated he was a totally different guy, very affectionet, and every ... (179 words)

I can't imagine that something as simple as remembering my birthday is so difficult for my boyfriend!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4611 days ago

3 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend has forgotton my birthday twice. Which is every time, since we've only been together for two years. My bday is right in between Christmas and New Year. We always spend a wonderful Christmas together and a few days later, he gets the silent treatment and realizes ... (142 words)

Careless? Bad memory? He is a good friend. But is he being weird?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4616 days ago

3 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm Korean Canadian and my ex-bf is Korean. We met in Canada and dated for 6 months. Then he accepted a job offer and moved back to Korea. We maintained a long distance relationship for another 6 months. Then my family and I went to Korea as we do annually and he AND I spent... (247 words)

Why is it hard for me to initiate sex with my girlfriend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4615 days ago

3 May 2012 (M)

age - I have been dating my girlfriend for almost a year. We usually would have sex once or twice a week for the first 6 months then it gradually decreased to where we haven't had sex in at least a couple of months. Now I am finding it hard to initiate sex with her. What's my ... (74 words)

I still yearn for this guy and I'm married!

This question has 22 answers - newest was posted 4609 days ago

3 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I am in desperate need of an honest opinion about a situation that has been ongoing for 9 years that I can’t tell anyone about! WARNING – This is possibly the longest post ever! Here's the story, for anyone who may care enough to read through it! I am a nurse and ... (1584 words)

I've grown to hate my life, I don't understand why?

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3 May 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - i need help. im so confused. people would say i have the perfect life. i have a 4.0 gpa, im going to college to be a surgeon in the fall, and im also going to play college football. i have alot of really great friends, i have the best parents and grandparents that anyone could ... (137 words)

We are remodeling our house and its causing problems, what shall I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4616 days ago

3 May 2012 (F)

- My husband and I have been remodeling the home we share for the past 3-4 years. Nothing major; we're not knocking down walls, just re-carpeting, did some tile work in the bathrooms, got new kitchen cabinets. We haven't been obsessed. In fact the progress has been pretty slow. ... (535 words)

Will I be able to be intimate with my future significant other? Or will my fears stymie my future relationships?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4615 days ago

3 May 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I have not had sex for over a year since my last relationship. I have never believed in just having sex with someone that you are not in love with or who is your significant other. Also, there is a risk of contracting HPV from someone which is not a good thing to have. All ... (101 words)

Why would my boyfriend email me this particular song? Is there a meaning behind this?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4615 days ago

3 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Uhmm..hi,have you heard the song caribbean blue by big mountain? My ex boyfriend emailed me and he said he heard that song and immediately thought of me. I don't get it,i don't know what he's up to. ... (41 words)

Should I let him go or wait?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4597 days ago

3 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I've known him going on 5 years now, and we are still pretty close for the most part. Anyhow, We briefly dated some years back when I was 22(and a virgin at the time) and he was 21. Well not long after we "officially" started dating, I ended up having to move to another state ... (848 words)

Am I losing my best friend or am I over reacting?!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4615 days ago

3 May 2012 (?) age 30-35 - My best friend doesn't really act like it anymore, she doesn't talk to me as much as she used to. We have been best friends for a while. A couple months ago this girl started hanging out with us, she is friends with my best friend but I don't like her because of something tha... (233 words)

How long did it take you to say I love you?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4610 days ago

3 May 2012 (F)

- Sorry in advance- this is a really random problem... I've been going out with my boyfriend for about 2 months now and from very early on he said 'I love you'. The thing is, I see 'I love you' as something which is quite serious and because of that, and also because I was quite ... (173 words)

I don't want to be a single parent but boyfriend doesn't seem to be trying

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4615 days ago

3 May 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey, I'm 20 years old and I have been in a relationship for nearly 15 months, we got pregnant quite early in the relationship and I gave birth to my baby boy 2 months ago, the pregnancy was a shock to both of us but after a couple weeks we got over it and were over the moon ... (1208 words)

Boyfriend has sudden change in thoughts on children, should I worry?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4611 days ago

3 May 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend and I are both 22, and we've been in a relationship for 8 months. This is the first serious relationship for us both in a really long times. As what happens with all couples at some point, the topic of children always comes up. My boyfriend told me very early on ... (225 words)

How can he understand I need him to tell me and show me he loves me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4616 days ago

3 May 2012 (F)

age - After 18 years, he has told me I love you twice. He never kisses me before we roll over to sleep, I have to initiate a kiss. He never tells me that I look nice when I have gone out of my way to look nice. How can I tell him how Im hurting and how Im not sure I can spend the ... (72 words)