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writes:I'm in college and there is this girl in my class who caught my attention from the moment I saw her. I can talk with a girl no problem if I know her personally but I am very shy when it comes to meeting new people, especially girls(whether I'm interested in them or not, that's just me)I'm shy enough as it is just meeting and talking to new people but I've spent half the time in class just starring at her(though I doubt she knows that because I sit behind her.) and I've been thinking about asking her out.I figure life is too short to not take risks every once in a while and I've been trying to build up the courage to ask her but then I get to thinking what if if she says no or if she flat out rejects me, which makes me scared of even asking her anything. I don't know how to ask a girl out.What do I do? How do I ask her? Should I wait until she's alone or just walk right up to her when she is surrounded by her friends?And in the event that she says no, what do I say so I don't stand there all embarrassed looking like a complete idiot?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThere isn't really much time for me to talk to her at all. I mean there is time but right after class she does the same thing I do: She goes home. There isn't much time left in the semester and there isn't much time after class to really get to know her or anything so I was thinking about asking her if she'd like to get a bite to eat sometime, since she doesn't know me she can get to me and I can get to know her. Though I think she may get a bad vibe from me because when I open the door for her(which I do for all women not just her) she completely ignores me and always takes the door farthest from me.
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reader, Tashar  +, writes (9 July 2012):
 Okay she`s only a girl maybe she`s as shy as you. Look just start making friendly convocations if you have something in common or find what she`s interested in that may help as it shows you are not ignorant and that your interested in her. Okay so don`t rush into things become a friend then a close and start taking her out places and then more often and you know what a few small complementary comments wont go a miss but not too much as its just creepy then and girls don't like been buyed for as it seems like you have no feelings just out to impress friends and trying to show your authority and remember if you do get this girl stick by her and be faithful and just be your self. I hope this helps and good luck
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (6 July 2012):
 Dude chill. She's a girl. Approach her confidently and start a conversation. Women hate shyness and nervousnesd because it shows you're not comfortable in your skin. Talk to her like a friend, dont compliment her. Just talk to her about recommendations or a crazy story in the news or get her opinion on a politcal topic then disagree with her lol She'll find it playful and .more importantly a refreshing conversation with you getting one step closer . Good luck.
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