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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hello everyone,I have a small problem with a guy. We both like each other but we are a little bit long distance. I said since the start "I'm not interested in a relationship " he says he knows ad that he wot let me go and is even willing to leave his college to move to my state and go to college here with me. So my problem is that he keeps sayin we are in a relationship even if we were fwb with no strings attached. I care a lot about him and don't want to hurt him. I already tried to break it off and I stopped seeing him but while trying to break it off he kept begging me not to and he got very emotional. How do I get out of this without hurting him ? I already tried being firm and talking to him but he doesn't seem to care. I thought about telling him that I was going to study abroad as an excuse to break it off instead of saying he was getting too attached. What would be a good excuse to break it off? I already tried being direct and it won't work. I need a good excuse or reason ... Thank you
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (7 July 2012):
 Stop talking to him! You're the one who keeps the contact with this guy! If you want to "break it off" then that is something you DO, not something you SAY. Break it off. Who cares how he reacts. You've told him in several different ways now, he has been warned and should be able to see this coming. You're too soft. He's interested in you, sure, but you're not interested in him. So end it. STOP talking to him. You can say hi if you happen to meet him on the street, but do not arrange to meet, do not chat/skype/e-mail/facebook etc. Delete, block, and move on.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (6 July 2012):
 He's long distance. What does he mean that he won't let you go? how can he hold you if you are not there with him?
You have to take care of yourself and not worry about hurting him...
he keeps begging you... how? email? block him?
phone? block him?
facebook? block him....
do not take his calls or subject yourself to his blackmail and bullying.
he's long distance... live your life and ignore him.
you have told him "I don't want a relationship... I'm done"
you do not need an excuse or a reason. you told him NOT INTERESTED.
what you need is a backbone to stand up to him.
how far away is he?
why can't you just say "i'm done for now. I need time to think. I'll call you when I know what I want with you"
and then go on your way..... you will call him when you know what you want with him... you just don't know what you want now... you want OUT but you don't want to hurt him or upset him.... he's not listening to you so then you don't know what you want till he's ready to listen... he's not ready to listen....
just say "i need space" then don't take his calls.
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