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writes:Hey,My boyfriend recently got offered a job in another part of the country, I really want to go with him as he said that he can financially support me till I get a job, and we don't want to lose our relationship! Although we started off long distance, he moved in around 7 months ago and if he moves and i stay, we don't think long distance will work again...But then we have the problems of my parents trying to put me off going as they don't agree with it, me moving could possibly have the risk of me losing a relationship with my dadI've changed my mind 3 times and I'm still not sure, some advise would be great :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2012): ". . .he said that he can financially support me till I get a job"
Very unwise to move hundreds of miles/kilometers away from your family to shack up with a guy without any means to independently support yourself should your relationship suddenly go sour. As you are not married you'd have no claim to a share of bf's assets or any alimony/spousal support, so you could literally end up broke and homeless without warning.
Stay behind while conducting an online search for a job in your boyfriend's part of the country.
If boyfriend's serious about wanting you to move with him while supporting you financially, then follow Beyonce's sage advice and insist he "put a ring on it" and she means wedding, not engagement.
Don't risk your relationship with your father to appease a live-in boyfriend of seven months duration and listen to your dad, he's a guy so he knows the score and I'll bet boyfriend's new house that your father will still be your father long after your boyfriend has ceased being your boyfriend.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (6 July 2012):
 You are an adult now and therefore this is your decision to make. Your parents are being quite selfish here, they need to let you go and live your own life now. I am sure they will worry about you and that is perfectly normal but they have to let you go and make your own choices in life. What is it that they are so against anyway? You need to sit down with both of them and talk to them about it openly and honestly and try and understand each other, they need to explain to you what they think is the problem. My advice would be to go with your boyfriend and enjoy life, look for work and make a fresh life for yourself. I am sure your parents will eventually come around to the idea if they see you settled and happy.
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