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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes: When I started dating my boyfriend (now husband) I talk to his best friend (male) about these girls that always calls him seeking advice and talk, he explained to me how he promised himself to never trust a woman with guy friends. I asked him why and this is what he answered "women who have too many guy friends are emotionally weak and are in need of attention and support. I call them whores. One man simply won't do for them. If they end up having some sort of problem in the relationship instead of solving it, the first thing they would do is to call up a guy friend and tell him how pathetic her boyfriend is. The next thing would be crying on his shoulder and then spending the night in his cozy bed." Is this true? Should I be worried? This came from a man that went through a divorce due to his wife not working things out with him instead she turns to somebody else's advice, he also said his friend (my husband) can be naive and that I need to kick his balls.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2012): I think what he said is somewhat true, however crass he put it, there was definately a thread of truth there.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (6 July 2012):
Your husband should pick better friends. Don’t listen to this man, it sounds like he has a very strange attitude and profoundly misunderstands women. A lot of women have male friends simply because they decide whether to be friends with some-one or not on the basis of their personality, not on their gender. He’s probably got a lot of unresolved anger from his own personal experiences with the failure of his marriage, and he seems to be projecting that anger that he feels towards his wife on to all women. But what’s true of his wife is by no means true of all women. It is sad that he feels this way but you shouldn’t take such an opinion to heart.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (6 July 2012):
 HI
Says he who is already betraying his freind ( your husband) by talking to you about him behind his back!!!! I would stay well clear of him. At the end of the day we all need someone in our life we can talk to if need be, man/woman who cares as long as they are a friend and thats all your doing talking. It dont make you a whore because your friend is male, how dare he say things like that. Maybe he is a control freak who wants no one near his wife to offer advice that maybe true!! The only thing you should be worried about is weather on not your husband is the one for you to be honest.
Mandy
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